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01-10-2013 at 7:32 PM
cmsdouglas
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Too late to CIO?

DD is ten months old and is having lots of trouble sleeping. We never sleep trained her because at 6 months when she was old enough, she was sleeping fairly well (waking to eat me then going right back down with no fuss). Well, At the beginning of Nov., she got really sick and her sleep schedule has never come back. We are as consistent as possible, but no dice. She wakes up and won't go back down. She sleeps as soon as I pick her up, but the moment I set her down she's crying again. I'm averaging around 4 hours of sleep per night - it's not working out so well!

 So my question is: is 10 months too late to CIO? I've read that it is because they're experiencing separation anxiety pretty badly. I'd love for DD to be able to soothe herself and go back to sleep and I really need more sleep, but I don't want to make her miserable unnecessarily. Any advice is appreciated! 


 
01-10-2013 at 7:59 PM
katieh1017
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L is a month or so younger than yours but we just started CIO on Monday. We had tried different things but it wasn't working, I wasn't consistent and she kept getting sick. So I read this and decided to try it but I still rock her to sleep. She gets up after I put her down? Tonight she only whined for 2 mins! On Monday we went through check ins for nearly an hour. But since we started she has STTN every night, which is a rare thing in my house. I say STTN even though she gets up after I put her down but it's before I go to bed. Good luck!  

 http://noobmommy.com/2008/11/to-ferberize-or-not-to-ferberize.html 


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01-10-2013 at 8:24 PM
MyLilPeanu...
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we just sleep trained 3 days ago and hes already sleeping through the night after months and months of no sleep for me!  its never to late and its a continuous process.  we checked in probably every 5 mins. and we never picked him up.  when the 5 mins were up we went in and set him back on his belly/back and soothed him by saying shh shh and rubbing his back or head. then you leave when he calms down. repeat till he learns to self soothe and your set!  for the first night he would cry everytime id try to leave so i sat in a rocker and sang to him.  then the next night he picked up his own self soothing and its been smooth sailing. just be sure not to pick him up!  or her in your case!   good luck

 
01-10-2013 at 9:28 PM
addam&tara
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We sleep trained at 89 months with CIO. It worked great for us.

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01-11-2013 at 4:09 PM
shannm
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We will be sleep training soon. I am reading Richard Feber's book before starting though. So far, it is a pretty easy read and I have high hopes that it will help me help LO learn to sleep in a gentle but effective way.

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01-12-2013 at 3:11 PM
denaeb
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I have read that between 8-11 months is a bad time to sleep train because of separation anxiety and the natural sleep regression that happen around 9 months, but we are trying anyway.

The book i am reading about it is Healthy Sleep Habits, Happy Child, and it says that it is never too late to try to fix unhealthy sleep habits.  it also gives different methods to try based on your comfort level ("no-cry", "some-cry", "cry-it-out").  It also gives methods for nap training as well.  

We are only on day 2 of training but so far it hasn't been as bad as I expected. 

 
01-12-2013 at 7:50 PM
dyg201
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We did it at 11 mo and so far so good!
01-14-2013 at 11:39 AM
kbruington
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That's the joy of parenting...you can do whatever YOU are comfortable with. Sleep training books are just a guideline to help parents but ultimately it's up to you and what works for your LO. Seperation anxiety is a factor at this age and my LO has been going through it too. If he cries at night and it's a real frantic cry, I go in once to rub his head and let him know I'm there but I DON'T pick him up because that makes everything worse.

You just have to find what works for you guys and stick with it. If you aren't consistent, your LO will just get confused, especially at this age!


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