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01-11-2013 at 1:21 PM
barcelonag...
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SIL has a PCOS dx... how can I help?

Advice Needed:  I really don't know where to post this. Hopefully someone can help.

In addition to me TFAS, my SIL just revealed that she will be seeing a specialist to TFAS of their own.  

Backstory: I knew she had "issues" and thought from my own Dr. Googling and Dr. Bumping that she might have PCOS mainly based on her irregular cycles, weight issues (hey i'm not a doctor) and low and behold she just got a dx this summer.   I texted her the website to soulcysters.net. LOL 

After talking with her over the holidays she just informed me that they will be pursuing fertility treatments.  She's got to stop the early onset of menapause and then deal with a high testosterone and prolactin issue.

My question is: How do I help?  I've already told her that I'm here for whatever and thanked her for trusting me with such personal info.  But, I don't know when is too much.  For example, she texted me on Tuesday asking if I used a digital  or bbt.  I responded that I use a digital bbt and that I temped orally and that you really only needed to temp vaginally if you slept with your mouth open and I used fertilityfriend.  Too much info? LOL  

I don't know.  I really want to be goggling questions to ask at your first RE appoitnment and sending them to her but, I think that's overkill.  I just know that I know a lot because of these forums and I want to help. 

And this is so individualized I don't even know what kind of answer I'm looking for... Ugh.  Sorry for rambling... 


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01-11-2013 at 1:25 PM
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LOL. It's all so very funny! LOL


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01-11-2013 at 1:29 PM
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my suggestion is to be supportive by listening. my SIL is ttc now too and the best thing is that we don't share too much info. that can get awkward. I doubt she wants to hear about me having sex with her brother etc...

so in regards to your post...listen to her. and if she has questions maybe point her in the right direction...lend her a book you may have,...

just don't discuss too much. it can get weird !


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01-11-2013 at 2:59 PM
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my sis has PCOS and 4 children....she was able to conceive naturally even though they tried fertility treatment. It may make it harder for her to get pg and it may not. so don't stress too much
 
01-11-2013 at 3:24 PM
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It sounds like you already gave her some good advice.  If she has questions, she'll come to you.  Just don't get to heavy on unsolicited information.
 
01-11-2013 at 3:50 PM
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Yeah. I think sometimes I don't know when to quit. 

I'll try to keep my responses brief but, just add that if she wants to talk further about ....thermometers, charting, preseed lol..... I would be happy to do so.


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01-11-2013 at 3:54 PM
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barcelonagirl:

Yeah. I think sometimes I don't know when to quit. 

I'll try to keep my responses brief but, just add that if she wants to talk further about ....thermometers, charting, preseed lol..... I would be happy to do so.

If she is seeing an RE, she won't be doing any of that. Especailly if she is starting early menopause. There will be medicated cycles and dildo cams in her future.

Just listen and don't offer ideas unless she directly asks for them. Nothing is more obnoxious to someone doing fertility treatments than someone that has never done them trying to tell you how to do them.

 



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01-11-2013 at 3:57 PM
barcelonag...
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GhostMonkey:
barcelonagirl:

Yeah. I think sometimes I don't know when to quit. 

I'll try to keep my responses brief but, just add that if she wants to talk further about ....thermometers, charting, preseed lol..... I would be happy to do so.

If she is seeing an RE, she won't be doing any of that. Especailly if she is starting early menopause. There will be medicated cycles and dildo cams in her future.

Just listen and don't offer ideas unless she directly asks for them. Nothing is more obnoxious to someone doing fertility treatments than someone that has never done them trying to tell you how to do them.

Thank you.  


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01-11-2013 at 4:23 PM
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barcelonagirl:

Yeah. I think sometimes I don't know when to quit. 

I'll try to keep my responses brief but, just add that if she wants to talk further about ....thermometers, charting, preseed lol..... I would be happy to do so.

Answer questions if she asks, but leave it there.  It sounds like you already laid the groundwork so she knows she can come to you if she wants.  Telling someone about your infertility isn't an invitation for them to join your bedroom. 

My SIL knows about our infertility; she's also a Dr. Google-type and tried to give us some 'great' ideas when we first told her.  It was well intended, but obnoxious and the advice wasn't relevant to our specific situation.  DH actually had to ask her to stop, which was uncomfortable for everyone.  And I think I would die if she randomly started talking to me about lube. 


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DH diagnosed with Azoospermia in January 2012
Vas reconstruction surgery in April 2012; unsuccessful
IVF with ICSI February 2013; single blastocyst 5dt
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