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01-13-2013 at 11:23 PM
layuh
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baby shower invites

So my MIL is planning my shower and she sent an email to family to coordinate a date in April. I noticed she included my BIL's girlfriend who I dislike. I don't feel I should have to share that day with someone that makes me uncomfortable. I guess my question is should I just deal with her being there or should I ask that she not be invited?

 

 


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01-13-2013 at 11:42 PM
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You can always ask, but if MIL is paying for it, she gets final say...

If BILs gf gets invited, here's hoping she won't show, for your sake!
 
01-14-2013 at 5:51 AM
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If she's family, I think you have to suck it up and just ignore her.

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01-14-2013 at 6:31 AM
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I don't care for one of my aunts and one of my cousins. They are still invited to my baby shower. I would love to not include them but the fallout from doing so would be worse than just dealing with them. I think you need to be the bigger person here, put on your big girl pants, and deal with her for the day. hopefully it will be a big enough group where you really don't have to interact with her much.
 
01-14-2013 at 6:51 AM
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watermellens:
If she's family, I think you have to suck it up and just ignore her.

This.  Smile, say thank you and talk with other people. 


 
01-14-2013 at 7:34 AM
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Like it or not, she's apparently close enough with your ILs to be included. The only time I think it's appropriate to ask that someone not be included is if you've had a major falling out, you've completely cut ties, and it's widely known that you refuse to associate with her. Otherwise, it's just in poor taste to ask that she not be included in your shower.

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01-14-2013 at 8:31 AM
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If MIL is hosting, then she gets final say in the guest list.  If BIL's GF has already been emailed about this, I think you're really stuck with her at this point, because saying anything will essentially be "uninviting" her.  I would just suck it up- there will be so many other people there, you probably won't see too much of her.  And if you don't get along, maybe she won't show up at all....

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01-14-2013 at 10:06 AM
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Estwd2:
Like it or not, she's apparently close enough with your ILs to be included. The only time I think it's appropriate to ask that someone not be included is if you've had a major falling out, you've completely cut ties, and it's widely known that you refuse to associate with her. Otherwise, it's just in poor taste to ask that she not be included in your shower.

This. Plus, your MIL is hosting the shower, so really it is up to her to give the final say on the guest list. To ask her to not invite someone would be rude.


 
01-14-2013 at 10:46 AM
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If the feeling is mutual, maybe she won't come?

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01-14-2013 at 12:27 PM
layuh
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I think you are all correct. I will just ignore if she comes.

 Thanks!


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