When I was pg with my 1st, there was this sweet nurse who weighed me at every appt and no matter how much I gained, she would say "That's great! Wonderful that baby is growing! You look wonderful!" Even though I knew she was lying (esp toward the end when I was a big cow), I never forgot how kind she was. I wish all nurses were like her, and that all Dr's would get rid of the 25-35 lb rule.
I gained 46 lbs with #1 and 42 lbs with #2, and I am on track to gain 40 this time around too. All 3 times the Dr has lectured me about my weight gain. I am a strict vegetarian, eating lots of brown rice, veggies, and tofu, so its not like I am eating at McDonalds everyday! My body just gains that much weight, and it allllll comes off no problem (thank you, breastfeeding) once baby is born.
Try not to let the comments get to you. Easier said that done, I know!