Do what you feel is best and don't look back.

BlkPearlLatina:

Hi ladies,

So I gave breastfeeding one last hurrah before deciding that it's not for me. My handsome little man would get fussy after breastfeeding, but seem happy and content after getting the formula. I'm kinda sad about it, but glad that I was able to give him what I could and that I've finally made a decision one way or the other. The nail in the coffin: running lots of errands this weekend with DH and DS, getting painfully engorged every 5 hours, and having my uncle barge in on me pumping in the spare room at my grandmother's house and yelling "OH MY GOD, what are you doing?" :-/

 

I'm sorry your uncle was so rude to you and that it affected your decision about whether or not to breastfeed. I know you decided to quit, which is fine, of course. But why on earth were you going 5 hours w/o nursing or pumping? Of course it was uncomfortable. You are lucky you didn't end up w/ any plugged ducts.  

kbruington:

Do what you feel is best and don't look back.

LalaMama81:

BlkPearlLatina:

Hi ladies,

So I gave breastfeeding one last hurrah before deciding that it's not for me. My handsome little man would get fussy after breastfeeding, but seem happy and content after getting the formula. I'm kinda sad about it, but glad that I was able to give him what I could and that I've finally made a decision one way or the other. The nail in the coffin: running lots of errands this weekend with DH and DS, getting painfully engorged every 5 hours, and having my uncle barge in on me pumping in the spare room at my grandmother's house and yelling "OH MY GOD, what are you doing?" :-/

 

I'm sorry your uncle was so rude to you and that it affected your decision about whether or not to breastfeed. I know you decided to quit, which is fine, of course. But why on earth were you going 5 hours w/o nursing or pumping? Of course it was uncomfortable. You are lucky you didn't end up w/ any plugged ducts.  

Not to mention this is the gem who said she would probably switch because her mom was an L&D nurse who would just steal formula for her.

Woo hoo -- you didn't want to BF, didn't really try all that hard, and have questionable morals.  I suppose you are looking for support, but you are kind of just an ass and I am really surprised more people didn't call you and your sketchy mom out. 

Bateaulover:

Glad you made your decision! I gave it up too, and never regretted it. Have peace! my DS is formula fed, and got sick for the first time when he was 16 months old. Formula saved my sanity...and it didn't hurt him, either.

 This. 

amy052006:

LalaMama81:

BlkPearlLatina:

Hi ladies,

So I gave breastfeeding one last hurrah before deciding that it's not for me. My handsome little man would get fussy after breastfeeding, but seem happy and content after getting the formula. I'm kinda sad about it, but glad that I was able to give him what I could and that I've finally made a decision one way or the other. The nail in the coffin: running lots of errands this weekend with DH and DS, getting painfully engorged every 5 hours, and having my uncle barge in on me pumping in the spare room at my grandmother's house and yelling "OH MY GOD, what are you doing?" :-/

 

I'm sorry your uncle was so rude to you and that it affected your decision about whether or not to breastfeed. I know you decided to quit, which is fine, of course. But why on earth were you going 5 hours w/o nursing or pumping? Of course it was uncomfortable. You are lucky you didn't end up w/ any plugged ducts.  

Not to mention this is the gem who said she would probably switch because her mom was an L&D nurse who would just steal formula for her.

Woo hoo -- you didn't want to BF, didn't really try all that hard, and have questionable morals.  I suppose you are looking for support, but you are kind of just an ass and I am really surprised more people didn't call you and your sketchy mom out. 

Ahhh, I didn't know or remember the back story. Interesting. 

LalaMama81:

BlkPearlLatina:

Hi ladies,

So I gave breastfeeding one last hurrah before deciding that it's not for me. My handsome little man would get fussy after breastfeeding, but seem happy and content after getting the formula. I'm kinda sad about it, but glad that I was able to give him what I could and that I've finally made a decision one way or the other. The nail in the coffin: running lots of errands this weekend with DH and DS, getting painfully engorged every 5 hours, and having my uncle barge in on me pumping in the spare room at my grandmother's house and yelling "OH MY GOD, what are you doing?" :-/

I'm sorry your uncle was so rude to you and that it affected your decision about whether or not to breastfeed. I know you decided to quit, which is fine, of course. But why on earth were you going 5 hours w/o nursing or pumping? Of course it was uncomfortable. You are lucky you didn't end up w/ any plugged ducts.  

I might be reading to much into the tone of this post, but I think the PP took an arrogant stance.  Because of work and other varying factors I often have to go 5, 6 or even 7 hours between pumping.  I do not get engorged, nor have I ever suffered a clogged duct, mastitis, or dimished supply.  Everyone is different.

uconnhuskie007:

LalaMama81:

BlkPearlLatina:

Hi ladies,

So I gave breastfeeding one last hurrah before deciding that it's not for me. My handsome little man would get fussy after breastfeeding, but seem happy and content after getting the formula. I'm kinda sad about it, but glad that I was able to give him what I could and that I've finally made a decision one way or the other. The nail in the coffin: running lots of errands this weekend with DH and DS, getting painfully engorged every 5 hours, and having my uncle barge in on me pumping in the spare room at my grandmother's house and yelling "OH MY GOD, what are you doing?" :-/

I'm sorry your uncle was so rude to you and that it affected your decision about whether or not to breastfeed. I know you decided to quit, which is fine, of course. But why on earth were you going 5 hours w/o nursing or pumping? Of course it was uncomfortable. You are lucky you didn't end up w/ any plugged ducts.  

I might be reading to much into the tone of this post, but I think the PP took an arrogant stance.  Because of work and other varying factors I often have to go 5, 6 or even 7 hours between pumping.  I do not get engorged, nor have I ever suffered a clogged duct, mastitis, or dimished supply.  Everyone is different.

Does your mom also steal you formula from where she works? Because yeah.... 

uconnhuskie007:

LalaMama81:

BlkPearlLatina:

Hi ladies,

So I gave breastfeeding one last hurrah before deciding that it's not for me. My handsome little man would get fussy after breastfeeding, but seem happy and content after getting the formula. I'm kinda sad about it, but glad that I was able to give him what I could and that I've finally made a decision one way or the other. The nail in the coffin: running lots of errands this weekend with DH and DS, getting painfully engorged every 5 hours, and having my uncle barge in on me pumping in the spare room at my grandmother's house and yelling "OH MY GOD, what are you doing?" :-/

I'm sorry your uncle was so rude to you and that it affected your decision about whether or not to breastfeed. I know you decided to quit, which is fine, of course. But why on earth were you going 5 hours w/o nursing or pumping? Of course it was uncomfortable. You are lucky you didn't end up w/ any plugged ducts.  

I might be reading to much into the tone of this post, but I think the PP took an arrogant stance.  Because of work and other varying factors I often have to go 5, 6 or even 7 hours between pumping.  I do not get engorged, nor have I ever suffered a clogged duct, mastitis, or dimished supply.  Everyone is different.

I'm sorry, if you have a newborn or young infant going 5-7 hours w/o nursing or pumping is an awful idea. I'm glad it's working out for you, but other people will see that you wrote this and think it's okay to do, but it just isn't. Find me one LC who would say it's okay. And work is a bad excuse, pumping is protected.

I know I'm super pro-BFing but I can't think of any reason in the first 3 months that would have kept me from nursing, feeding my child was pretty much my main goal.  

amy052006:

LalaMama81:

BlkPearlLatina:

Hi ladies,

So I gave breastfeeding one last hurrah before deciding that it's not for me. My handsome little man would get fussy after breastfeeding, but seem happy and content after getting the formula. I'm kinda sad about it, but glad that I was able to give him what I could and that I've finally made a decision one way or the other. The nail in the coffin: running lots of errands this weekend with DH and DS, getting painfully engorged every 5 hours, and having my uncle barge in on me pumping in the spare room at my grandmother's house and yelling "OH MY GOD, what are you doing?" :-/

 

I'm sorry your uncle was so rude to you and that it affected your decision about whether or not to breastfeed. I know you decided to quit, which is fine, of course. But why on earth were you going 5 hours w/o nursing or pumping? Of course it was uncomfortable. You are lucky you didn't end up w/ any plugged ducts.  

Not to mention this is the gem who said she would probably switch because her mom was an L&D nurse who would just steal formula for her.

Woo hoo -- you didn't want to BF, didn't really try all that hard, and have questionable morals.  I suppose you are looking for support, but you are kind of just an ass and I am really surprised more people didn't call you and your sketchy mom out. 

LalaMama81:

uconnhuskie007:

LalaMama81:

BlkPearlLatina:

Hi ladies,

So I gave breastfeeding one last hurrah before deciding that it's not for me. My handsome little man would get fussy after breastfeeding, but seem happy and content after getting the formula. I'm kinda sad about it, but glad that I was able to give him what I could and that I've finally made a decision one way or the other. The nail in the coffin: running lots of errands this weekend with DH and DS, getting painfully engorged every 5 hours, and having my uncle barge in on me pumping in the spare room at my grandmother's house and yelling "OH MY GOD, what are you doing?" :-/

I'm sorry your uncle was so rude to you and that it affected your decision about whether or not to breastfeed. I know you decided to quit, which is fine, of course. But why on earth were you going 5 hours w/o nursing or pumping? Of course it was uncomfortable. You are lucky you didn't end up w/ any plugged ducts.  

I might be reading to much into the tone of this post, but I think the PP took an arrogant stance.  Because of work and other varying factors I often have to go 5, 6 or even 7 hours between pumping.  I do not get engorged, nor have I ever suffered a clogged duct, mastitis, or dimished supply.  Everyone is different.

I'm sorry, if you have a newborn or young infant going 5-7 hours w/o nursing or pumping is an awful idea. I'm glad it's working out for you, but other people will see that you wrote this and think it's okay to do, but it just isn't. Find me one LC who would say it's okay. And work is a bad excuse, pumping is protected.

I know I'm super pro-BFing but I can't think of any reason in the first 3 months that would have kept me from nursing, feeding my child was pretty much my main goal.  

I'm staying out of the whole stealing formula part of this.

I am curious, however, what it's like to live in your perfect world.  Work is a bad excuse not to be able to pump?  What exactly is your occupation?  Just because you have one that allows you to pump exactly when you need to, doesn't mean everyone does.  To say that it is protected just makes it sound so simple.  I'm sure you'd appreciate a doctor performing surgery on you saying, oh well, gotta take a break so I can go pump, it's protected!  Or, have a police officer just stop chasing the bad guy because my pumping time is protected.  And, even if someone doesn't work a job like that, it doesn't mean their employer and coworkers are supportive and/or flexible which can affect someone's work environment and future job opportunities.  That may not be fair but it's the reality for many, many women.

The poster is making feeding her child a priority, she's just choosing to do so in a way other than your way.  With attitudes like yours, it's no wonder so many women end up feeling guilty for a choice they have every right to make.  

Yeah -- comparing this idiot thief to a surgeon is ridiculous.

The PP has asked for "help" before.  She had zero interest in all of the advice many posters offered. 

So woo hoo, she "tried". Throw her a parade.  And remember how her kid is getting stolen formula from a hospital next time you *** about how much healthcare cost. 

And here is the OP, for those interested.

http://community.thebump.com/cs/ks/forums/thread/71157445.aspx 

kiraliz2:

amy052006:

LalaMama81:

BlkPearlLatina:

Hi ladies,

So I gave breastfeeding one last hurrah before deciding that it's not for me. My handsome little man would get fussy after breastfeeding, but seem happy and content after getting the formula. I'm kinda sad about it, but glad that I was able to give him what I could and that I've finally made a decision one way or the other. The nail in the coffin: running lots of errands this weekend with DH and DS, getting painfully engorged every 5 hours, and having my uncle barge in on me pumping in the spare room at my grandmother's house and yelling "OH MY GOD, what are you doing?" :-/

 

I'm sorry your uncle was so rude to you and that it affected your decision about whether or not to breastfeed. I know you decided to quit, which is fine, of course. But why on earth were you going 5 hours w/o nursing or pumping? Of course it was uncomfortable. You are lucky you didn't end up w/ any plugged ducts.  

Not to mention this is the gem who said she would probably switch because her mom was an L&D nurse who would just steal formula for her.

Woo hoo -- you didn't want to BF, didn't really try all that hard, and have questionable morals.  I suppose you are looking for support, but you are kind of just an ass and I am really surprised more people didn't call you and your sketchy mom out. 

Oh snap. 

LalaMama81:

uconnhuskie007:

LalaMama81:

BlkPearlLatina:

Hi ladies,

So I gave breastfeeding one last hurrah before deciding that it's not for me. My handsome little man would get fussy after breastfeeding, but seem happy and content after getting the formula. I'm kinda sad about it, but glad that I was able to give him what I could and that I've finally made a decision one way or the other. The nail in the coffin: running lots of errands this weekend with DH and DS, getting painfully engorged every 5 hours, and having my uncle barge in on me pumping in the spare room at my grandmother's house and yelling "OH MY GOD, what are you doing?" :-/

I'm sorry your uncle was so rude to you and that it affected your decision about whether or not to breastfeed. I know you decided to quit, which is fine, of course. But why on earth were you going 5 hours w/o nursing or pumping? Of course it was uncomfortable. You are lucky you didn't end up w/ any plugged ducts.  

I might be reading to much into the tone of this post, but I think the PP took an arrogant stance.  Because of work and other varying factors I often have to go 5, 6 or even 7 hours between pumping.  I do not get engorged, nor have I ever suffered a clogged duct, mastitis, or dimished supply.  Everyone is different.

I'm sorry, if you have a newborn or young infant going 5-7 hours w/o nursing or pumping is an awful idea. I'm glad it's working out for you, but other people will see that you wrote this and think it's okay to do, but it just isn't. Find me one LC who would say it's okay. And work is a bad excuse, pumping is protected.

I know I'm super pro-BFing but I can't think of any reason in the first 3 months that would have kept me from nursing, feeding my child was pretty much my main goal.  

jesus h Christ get off your flippin high horse.  I feed my child when hes hungry.  I EP, and sometimes cant every 3 hrs.  that doesn't mean he doesn't eat.  frankly your arrogant attitude sucks.  does it make you feel good to tear people down?

amy052006:

Yeah -- comparing this idiot thief to a surgeon is ridiculous.

The PP has asked for "help" before.  She had zero interest in all of the advice many posters offered. 

So woo hoo, she "tried". Throw her a parade.  And remember how her kid is getting stolen formula from a hospital next time you *** about how much healthcare cost. 

I'm not comparing her to surgeon.  I'm saying that making blanket statements about how working is no excuse for not being able to pump is ridiculous.

Hey all,

Just as an FYI to a couple of the posters, my baby eats every 3-4 hours with either my EBM or formula, but finding the 30 minutes to sit in a private room proved to be a bit more difficult and I was able to go that long before it became uncomfortable.

 And dear Amy who's in a tizzy about how I get my formula, my mother introduced me to the formula rep for the hospital, whom she jokingly refers to as her work-wife this past weekend. The rep congratulated me, handed me a belated baby shower gift and several boxes of formula and let me know if I ever needed more, let her know. Does that make you feel better? Would you feel better if I told you I couldn't afford it otherwise? If you found someone who could give you food to feed your baby, would you turn it down? I'm genuinely dismayed at the level of vitriol you've leveled at myself and my situation. You must be one of those super judgemental mommy board posters I've heard so much about. Its a noteworthy experience to make your acquaintance. It's like Grandma always said: "Haters gonna hate."

Yeah, no.  It doesn't make me feel better that a formula sales rep has that kind of access to a hospital to push samples, no. Or that she is essentially stealing from her company.  But whatever, you made your decision way before you ever posted here looking for "advice".

BlkPearlLatina:

You must be one of those super judgemental mommy board posters I've heard so much about. Its a noteworthy experience to make your acquaintance. It's like Grandma always said: "Haters gonna hate."

Whoa, there.  

At the hospital I delivered at, they load down every new mom and discharged baby (not just newly born, but babies visiting for health reasons as well) with loads of diapers and formula, literally a small cabinet full of baby supplies. Is that not the case where you had your child(ren)? Were all those nurses who discharged those babies stealing as well? I'm not being sarcastic, I'm just curious where you draw the line at theivery and your background that leads you to look at everything as so black and white.

I also pumped every 3 hours around the clock, per the previous poster's advice. My supply definitely went up, but my little Cricket was not too much of a fan of what I was giving. But he's been on the formula know for 12 hours and so far, so good :-)

BlkPearlLatina:

At the hospital I delivered at, they load down every new mom and discharged baby (not just newly born, but babies visiting for health reasons as well) with loads of diapers and formula, literally a small cabinet full of baby supplies. Is that not the case where you had your child(ren)? 

Diapers yes, formula no. Most hospitals don't give out formula samples because they want you to breastfeed. I didn't see a drop of formula at the hospital during my 3 day stay, but I chose to EBF during that time.

I see. Had your milk come in by the time you left? Are you still BF? I'm not gonna lie, a part of me is jealous if you are. :-)

Even the LC said I should supplement while in the hospital because my DS was on the small side and turning a very festive shade of yellow waiting for my boobs to step up to the plate. Stupid lazy boobs.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aF4CWCXirZ8

BlkPearlLatina:

I see. Had your milk come in by the time you left? Are you still BF? I'm not gonna lie, a part of me is jealous if you are. :-)

Even the LC said I should supplement while in the hospital because my DS was on the small side and turning a very festive shade of yellow waiting for my boobs to step up to the plate. Stupid lazy boobs.

This issue, as always when it relates to breastfeeding, is lack of education and information.

If your are a FTM and you are in the hospital for 2-3 days, it's very likely your milk will not come in yet. My milk was never in before I went home. It isn't instantaneous, it takes days of nursing around the clock - but the colustruom is all they need for those days anyway. 

It's clear your are surrounded by people who don't know much about breastfeeding - your LC for starters.

I am also horrified that a formula rep would give cases of formula away like that, but I'd also prefer that formula reps weren't allowed in hospitals anyway. If you can't afford it, breastfeed or get on WIC where you can find a legitimate way to receive formula.

I've BFed 2 kids, one till 22 months, and one is still nursing and I had chronic low-supply issues. While not everyone would have continued like I did, and I understand that, I do think I know a bit about breastfeeding. 

itsmevkb:

LalaMama81:

uconnhuskie007:

LalaMama81:

BlkPearlLatina:

Hi ladies,

So I gave breastfeeding one last hurrah before deciding that it's not for me. My handsome little man would get fussy after breastfeeding, but seem happy and content after getting the formula. I'm kinda sad about it, but glad that I was able to give him what I could and that I've finally made a decision one way or the other. The nail in the coffin: running lots of errands this weekend with DH and DS, getting painfully engorged every 5 hours, and having my uncle barge in on me pumping in the spare room at my grandmother's house and yelling "OH MY GOD, what are you doing?" :-/

I'm sorry your uncle was so rude to you and that it affected your decision about whether or not to breastfeed. I know you decided to quit, which is fine, of course. But why on earth were you going 5 hours w/o nursing or pumping? Of course it was uncomfortable. You are lucky you didn't end up w/ any plugged ducts.  

I might be reading to much into the tone of this post, but I think the PP took an arrogant stance.  Because of work and other varying factors I often have to go 5, 6 or even 7 hours between pumping.  I do not get engorged, nor have I ever suffered a clogged duct, mastitis, or dimished supply.  Everyone is different.

I'm sorry, if you have a newborn or young infant going 5-7 hours w/o nursing or pumping is an awful idea. I'm glad it's working out for you, but other people will see that you wrote this and think it's okay to do, but it just isn't. Find me one LC who would say it's okay. And work is a bad excuse, pumping is protected.

I know I'm super pro-BFing but I can't think of any reason in the first 3 months that would have kept me from nursing, feeding my child was pretty much my main goal.  

I'm staying out of the whole stealing formula part of this.

I am curious, however, what it's like to live in your perfect world.  Work is a bad excuse not to be able to pump?  What exactly is your occupation?  Just because you have one that allows you to pump exactly when you need to, doesn't mean everyone does.  To say that it is protected just makes it sound so simple.  I'm sure you'd appreciate a doctor performing surgery on you saying, oh well, gotta take a break so I can go pump, it's protected!  Or, have a police officer just stop chasing the bad guy because my pumping time is protected.  And, even if someone doesn't work a job like that, it doesn't mean their employer and coworkers are supportive and/or flexible which can affect someone's work environment and future job opportunities.  That may not be fair but it's the reality for many, many women.

The poster is making feeding her child a priority, she's just choosing to do so in a way other than your way.  With attitudes like yours, it's no wonder so many women end up feeling guilty for a choice they have every right to make.  

I care about correct information and education, none of which was being dispensed on this post. And yes, for the majority of nursing mothers, their companies don't have a choice. They must give them the time and a place to pump. Your examples are ridiculous, I am sure there are nursing surgeons, teachers, police, etc. that have been able to make it work. It doesn't matter if coworkers aren't supportive, they don't have a choice. I want moms to know that they can pump at work and they shouldn't feel ashamed to or that they can't b/c their ignorant coworker thinks it's yucky.  

When people feel guilty about not nursing, that is not because I advocate for lactation education.  

BlkPearlLatina:

I see. Had your milk come in by the time you left? Are you still BF? I'm not gonna lie, a part of me is jealous if you are. :-)

Even the LC said I should supplement while in the hospital because my DS was on the small side and turning a very festive shade of yellow waiting for my boobs to step up to the plate. Stupid lazy boobs.

I assume your talking to me? I'm not sure what my BF'ing experience has to do with yours, but I'll answer. No, my milk had not come in. My LO wouldn't latch much either. I mostly hand expressed colostrum. My guy also had high bilirubin and lost a lot of weight. My LC never told me to supplement, but my pedi did later.

I EFF now. The decision to FF was one of the hardest decisions I've ever made, and it threw me into a pretty textbook case of PPD. I'm not ashamed of the choice I made (it was right for me), but I still ache for the breastfeeding experience.

Anyway, I stand behind my original post that you should do what is best for you and your family. However, fwiw it does sound like you have a lot of misinformation.

gwapes:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aF4CWCXirZ8

 

lol, this is fantastic