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01-14-2013 at 9:23 PM
anamouse
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Finding out the sex?

I made H breakfast this weekend and didn't realize he got in the shower while I was cooking. When he came to eat I told him he ruined my plans. He kept asking me what plans, he can't handle a surprise (I had no plans was just bugging him). I asked him what he was going to do when we get pregnant. He thought we'd be finding out the sex. I thought we already had this conversation, I don't want to find out. Apparently he doesn't like surprises (this is news to me after seven years).

Out of curiosity what are you going to do? 

I don't want to find out. I think it will be incredible to have that surprise after 9 months. I'm not girly and would rather have gender neutral clothing, nursery, gear, etc anyway.


 
01-14-2013 at 9:25 PM
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I'd love the surprise but will leave it up to my dh. I feel like I get to experience everything thru the pregnancy and that's the one little piece he can feel like he's a part of. 

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01-14-2013 at 9:28 PM
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We'll find out as soon as we can. Neither of us are fond of surprises.

 
01-14-2013 at 9:28 PM
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Dh doesn't want to find out. I hate surprises and want to know. DH wins this one...he never pushes on anything, so this obviously means a lot to him. He wants to tell me what it is once the baby is out of me. He's a romantic...unlike me.

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01-14-2013 at 9:28 PM
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We are on the fence about this. But I figure we'll make that decision when we hav the chance to and to be honest I don't think I could actually wait.



 

01-14-2013 at 9:28 PM
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We will be team green with a singleton or multiples.


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01-14-2013 at 9:30 PM
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We want to find out since what we have the first time will be all for us.  I think if we were planning for 2+ we'd leave the guessing for the 2nd time around.  We aren't going all blue or pink for everything, but we would like more gender specific stuff.  I think I'm too anxious and wouldn't be able to wait until they arrive.



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01-14-2013 at 9:30 PM
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You both realize it is a 50/50 chance whether you find out at 20 weeks or 40 weeks, right? It is no more or less of a surprise at either date.

 Finding a second baby when you expect one is a surprise. Finding out if your child has a penis or vagina is not.

 



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01-14-2013 at 9:31 PM
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My husband wants to find out the sex once I am finally KU. I am conflicted. I love the idea of being surprised, bit km also an obsessive planner. Afriend told me that her OB said that women who don't find out the sex in advance generally have easier deliveries, but that seems downright crazy to me.
 
01-14-2013 at 9:32 PM
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I've debated not finding out but it would never work. DH wants to find out and I love to shop for specifics.

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01-14-2013 at 9:32 PM
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I want to find out... I'll feel too unprepared if I don't! I don't think hubby really cares one way or another. We've talked about it, he seemed surprised that I'd want to know.

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01-14-2013 at 9:32 PM
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I have no idea what I would do.  I go back and forth with wanting to find out.  The surprise would be great but could I really say no when they ask, do you want to know the sex?  Good luck.  

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01-14-2013 at 9:34 PM
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I don't think I would be patient enough to wait the whole pregnancy...and I figure if we find out, it is just an earlier surprise.

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01-14-2013 at 9:35 PM
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We are going to find out. :] I majored in interior design for a year and I can't wait to decorate!

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01-14-2013 at 9:35 PM
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GhostMonkey:
Finding a second baby when you expect one is a surprise.

That's for damn sure.

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01-14-2013 at 9:36 PM
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Banker&BSN:
We will be team green with a singleton or multiples.

This is what I would like to do.  I don't know if DH is on board or not.  We'll talk about that when the time comes.  (I have a feeling that we'll have to find out early due to familiar pressure - my mom loves to make burp cloths and quilts and embroider baby names on them)

01-14-2013 at 9:37 PM
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CMSullivan326:
GhostMonkey:
Finding a second baby when you expect one is a surprise.
That's for damn sure.

I'd hope you would find out before 40 wks on that one. 


 
01-14-2013 at 9:38 PM
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01-14-2013 at 9:39 PM
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krdesi:
I don't think I would be patient enough to wait the whole pregnancy...and I figure if we find out, it is just an earlier surprise.

 This. It's a surprise no matter when you find out. But we'll likely be impatient and find out at the anatomy scan if its possible. 



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01-14-2013 at 9:41 PM
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danagail14:
We are on the fence about this. But I figure we'll make that decision when we hav the chance to and to be honest I don't think I could actually wait.

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01-14-2013 at 9:42 PM
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DS1 wanted to be a surprise, I guess. Either that or he was being modest. He refused to show himself until he was born, even then, my mom had to open his legs.

DS2 was out in the open, as soon as the Dr put the wand on my skin, the doctor said "Well, that's a boy"

 With any future pregnancy - I'm on the fence. I kind of want a surprise, since the birthday won't be. I'll have to have a repeat c-section.


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01-14-2013 at 9:44 PM
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We found out with DS, actually DH was the one who announced it at the ultrasound ("That's a PENIS!") and I thought that it would have been cool to have waited and been told right at birth, but I don't think I could wait that long to find out, so we will probably find out next time too.

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01-14-2013 at 9:47 PM
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We want to find out but we're not telling anyone afterward.




 
01-14-2013 at 9:54 PM
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We'll find out. We did with DS. I want to know so ill know if I should keep his clothes or not.

I asked H about being team green, he doesn't want to.



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01-14-2013 at 9:57 PM
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GhostMonkey:

You both realize it is a 50/50 chance whether you find out at 20 weeks or 40 weeks, right? It is no more or less of a surprise at either date.

 Finding a second baby when you expect one is a surprise. Finding out if your child has a penis or vagina is not.

 

We plan on a gender reveal party at his/her 5th birthday.

http://www.foxnews.com/world/2012/01/20/british-couple-reveals-sex-child-raised-as-genderless-for-5-years/ 



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01-14-2013 at 10:01 PM
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We'll find out, we did last time and we will in the future. It doesn't ruin anything or take anything away from my point of view.
01-14-2013 at 10:07 PM
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We are both positive that we want to find out the gender when the time comes. I know it's become kind of a trend to not find out as well as to not decide on a name until the baby is born though. I was surprised to hear IRL that a girl I know cried when she had both of her sons (years apart) because she wanted an Alex and neither son was "an Alex" so she had to name each something else. To me, a baby is what its name is, so I thought that was really interesting.

Also, I want to be able to refer to my baby as him or her rather than "the baby" and by his or her name. I know some people keep name secrets, but I would be interested for -some- input, but would I probably not be super swayed by opinion because after having a lot of friends have babies, I have come to see that people have their own taste and what someone thinks is adorable is NMS and vice versa. 

I think the main point here is "to each their own" in all its glory! Do what you and DH feel good about and what feels like you guys and screw the rest! :-)


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01-14-2013 at 10:08 PM
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We've done it both ways and we both prefer knowing at the anatomy scan. I will say that being team green up until the birth did feel like more of a surprise to me.

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01-14-2013 at 10:10 PM
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Banker&BSN:
GhostMonkey:

You both realize it is a 50/50 chance whether you find out at 20 weeks or 40 weeks, right? It is no more or less of a surprise at either date.

 Finding a second baby when you expect one is a surprise. Finding out if your child has a penis or vagina is not.

 

We plan on a gender reveal party at his/her 5th birthday.

http://www.foxnews.com/world/2012/01/20/british-couple-reveals-sex-child-raised-as-genderless-for-5-years/ 

lol! 


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01-14-2013 at 10:12 PM
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AmyC925:
Dh doesn't want to find out. I hate surprises and want to know. DH wins this one...he never pushes on anything, so this obviously means a lot to him. He wants to tell me what it is once the baby is out of me. He's a romantic...unlike me.

You could do the Ross & Rachel thing and you find out and he doesn't.


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