in the very beginning, we had both kids in our room, next to the bed to minimize the up and down for everyone. it took about 2 weeks for me to be able to get everyone latched on by myself. we moved them into their room/own cribs at about 5 months, and by then i could certainly pick them both up and tandem feed/put back into bed by myself. We both thought since i had the boobs, why wake DH...but...in retrospect...i don't really suggest that. It left me feeling lonely and ....used? ask for help from dh...even if you just need some emotional support in the MOTN.
take care of YOU....speak up to dh when you need visitors to go home, or if you need some space, or a certain kind of help...maybe have a chat with dh BEFORE the babies arrive about how you're not sure what you may need/want once they arrive and hopefully he can be your protector and stick up for you when you need something.
have a safe spot planned out for them...a bouncy seat or secure hoppy...something like that, so if you need to leave them on the floor to run to another room or take a quick shower, they can be nearby and safe....(i guess plan ahead for some kind of "holding pen")
i also laugh at "sleep when they sleep" but yes...one up both up until someone starts sleeping through a feeding attempt...then you stagger night feeds...
to regulate supply for BF...feed when they tell you...even if it's only been 30 minutes...it is ALL you will be doing for the first 6-12 weeks. it is non.stop. it is tiring, but that's normal...and it gets better and they get faster.
have lots of snacks and water on hand...eat and drink anytime the babies do.
also, in relation to BF...have the number of an LC available and plan to never give up on a bad day or a rough feeding...make yourself wait until a certain day and time (i will continue until thursday at 11:00) and re-evaluate then how things are really going.
enjoy their tiny newborn-ness...the downy hair...the smells...the squeaks...the precious breath on your neck....those wiggly little bodies squirming around...and also know that the first 3 months or so are just survival. the house may be a mess, the laundry piled up, you eat more delivery/take out...but then things will start will calm down and some normalcy will return eventually. you will survive.
and we'll be here if anything specific comes up, or you have a rough day or night.