Even forgetting the part where you can just say, my child, my rules... It is impossible to spoil a new baby. They are crying to communicate. If it were me, I'd be looking for a new job.
THIS. exactly this. i would look for a new job and then tell him off.
my dds fathers dad was like that with me. fortunately he wasnt my boss. he made snide comments and i was a b1tch right back!!! i didnt care.
your fil sounds like a jerk and needs to be put in his place. i think you need to talk to dh about how you feel about the things his dad says. SERIOUSLY thats some bs and it needs to be addressed by someone. Clearly bc of him being your boss, i think it would be best if dh told his dad to back off. blame it on ur hormones if u feel its going to keep your job secure.
honestly the fact that fil thinks its ok to say those things to begin with makes me think you DEF need a new job.
sry hes being such a crap.