EastCoastBride: LtlAngL: MrsNorry:
What I don't get is how you don't have money to buy baby stuff but you have money to throw yourselves a shower.
Very easy - we're not poor, we just can't go to BRU and drop 2K on cribs and travel systems, car seats, etc all in one shot. We can easily get one "big ticket item" every 2 weeks when we get our paychecks, (obviously it will be easier getting certain things from a thrift shop, as pp's mentioned - like a baby bjorn, bouncer - since you don't use them for very long) and diapers/wipes really aren't an issue. I guess I worded the statement wrong.
Um, yeah, because this makes you sound even better....
Most normal people can't go to BRU and just drop 2k. But that's whats great about pregnancy - you have NINE months to compile everything you need. NINE months.
So, really, this argument makes even less sense and makes you seem more greedy.
YOUR choice to have a kid = YOUR responsibility. A shower is a gift that not every woman gets.
That's fine with me. I really wanted to show my DH that it's a bad idea to throw our own shower, and the angrier you get, the more he sees my point - he didn't believe me because my SIL (the one with the twins) and her DH threw their own shower, and when she told us that she couldn't help with ours, she suggested the same thing for us. In all honesty, I didn't even figure this out until DH told me and I looked back at her invitation and realized her DH was the person to RSVP to. At the time, I just texted him to let him know we were coming and didn't think twice about it.
My cousin is interested in doing it, but doesn't know how - luckily, her 23 year old friends don't have any children for her to have acquired this experience! The friend that was going to throw it originally said that she could help, but doesn't have time to plan the whole thing, so she could probably be assigned a task like coming up with games or making invitations. One of my bridesmaids also said she can make decorations or bake a cake or something, but can't plan the whole thing. I just don't feel right telling my cousin specific instructions on who to ask to do what - don't most people have no involvement in their showers anyway??
A shower doesn't have to be expensive. My SIL's shower was in a VFW, and all the relatives brought trays of food for everyone. My DH is a firefighter, and can get permission to let my cousin use the firehouse for free to throw a party if she wants...but again, I don't feel right being so involved