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01-16-2013 at 8:25 AM
Sept1799
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Ladies who shared a bedroom with siblings

I have a 4 bedroom home. We currently have 2 children. They have the 2 bigger of the 3 bedrooms.....the 4th is a nice size but smaller than the other 2. Currently we have a desk, small tv stand, a chair and ottomon (sp?) and a book shelf in there now. It does have the biggest closet. Well I would love to have a 4th child but my dh says the room is smaller than the others and the baby would feel cheated...well I was an only child and always had my own room. I would think that if I had 2 siblings and had the smallest room I would be happy becuase it was my own space and would not have to share...I could close the door and it would be mine and would not have to worry abuot a sibling....

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01-16-2013 at 8:46 AM
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are you wondering whether or not you should have a 3rd child because they would get a small room? Or wondering if you should have two children share a room so that one kid isn't banished to the smallest bedroom? First world problems, man. 

I shared a room until my sister went to college. And then, I had the smallest room. Neither was a big deal. 


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01-16-2013 at 8:47 AM
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DaisyBlinks:

are you wondering whether or not you should have a 3rd child because they would get a small room? Or wondering if you should have two children share a room so that one kid isn't banished to the smallest bedroom? First world problems, man. 

I shared a room until my sister went to college. And then, I had the smallest room. Neither was a big deal. 

I was just wondering if you had siblings and shared a bedroom if you would have rather had your own room regardless of size...thats all


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01-16-2013 at 8:58 AM
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I come from a family with four kids. I am #3. My brother (#4) and I got the smaller of the kids rooms. We all had our own rooms. I didn't care really bc I just thought since my other brother and sister were older, they would get the bigger rooms bc they were older...weird logic but I guess I didn't care enough to read into it. f that's all the child knows, I don't think they would feel cheated. 

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01-16-2013 at 9:01 AM
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I forgot to add, my sister and I shared a room and my brothers shared a room up until I was in 2nd grade and we moved into the house mentioned above where we had our own rooms. Maybe I was just happy to get my own room so I didn't care about the size.

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01-16-2013 at 9:06 AM
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Peepp79:
I forgot to add, my sister and I shared a room and my brothers shared a room up until I was in 2nd grade and we moved into the house mentioned above where we had our own rooms. Maybe I was just happy to get my own room so I didn't care about the size.

See that is my logic...at least the baby would have thier own room, own space... I think I wouldn't care either....

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01-16-2013 at 9:34 AM
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I shared a bedroom with sister for years and years. it was fine. Did we fight? Sure. But we are sisters so we would have found things to fight about no matter what.

Also, our house has three bedrooms but for some reason the two non-master rooms are quite different in size. The smallest is the nursery and will more than likely stay DS's room as he ages. He may tell me that it's not fair at some point but honestly, that's life. We have plenty of other rooms in the house to play in so he doesn't really NEED to be in there other than to sleep. And when he's a moody teenager he'll find something to be 'mad' about anyway. 


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01-16-2013 at 10:48 AM
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I shared a room with my little (3 years apart) sister until about mid high school.  My older brother moved out. My two older brothers did not share a room. I have no long standing grudges against any of my siblings or parents for forcing me to play with my sister.   :-)

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01-16-2013 at 1:04 PM
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I was the youngest of four kids. I shared with my sister for a long time. Then the eldest moved out and I got my own room.

Basically there were times when it sucked sharing a room. Sometimes it sucked getting the "crappy" room because I was youngest. But overall I'm not scarred for life, and I love having my siblings, and on balance I had a very nice home to grow up in.

Oh I'm also glad I'm around rather than my parents thinking, "hmmm she might not like her bedroom let's not have another baby." 


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01-16-2013 at 1:37 PM
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There were 5 of us and sometime we had to share rooms, sometimes we had our own.  Any space that was all ours was wonderful!  I would have another child and fill a tiny bedroom rather than not have one for that reason.


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01-16-2013 at 2:14 PM
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I may be reading this wrong, but I don't think she was suggesting that having to share a room would be a reason not to have another baby. She was just wondering whether a child would prefer a tiny room to themselves or a larger room shared with an older sibling. Right?

My sister and I shared a room when we were very young, but had our own rooms from about school age on. The older I got, the more I valued having my own space. I'd give everyone their own room, even if one of them is a tiny room. 


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01-16-2013 at 2:43 PM
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I have 11 siblings so space is limited in my parents house. Although they have 7 bedrooms, 2 are super tiny. One of those was mine for awhile and I LOVED having my own room when I was younger. When I was in high school I really enjoyed sharing a room with one of my sisters. The size never mattered to me or my siblings and we never felt cheated. When you have a larger family it is just awesome to get your own space when you're in that middle school "I'm too cool for everyone" stage.

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01-16-2013 at 2:59 PM
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laura.noel:

I may be reading this wrong, but I don't think she was suggesting that having to share a room would be a reason not to have another baby. She was just wondering whether a child would prefer a tiny room to themselves or a larger room shared with an older sibling. Right?

My sister and I shared a room when we were very young, but had our own rooms from about school age on. The older I got, the more I valued having my own space. I'd give everyone their own room, even if one of them is a tiny room. 

Yes, that is what I was thinking.... thank you


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01-16-2013 at 9:57 PM
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I got my own bedroom when I was 12. It was weird! My twin sister and I had frequent "sleepovers" with each other.

Separate bedrooms is not even a tiny little part of our family planning. We are actually thinking that if we move into a larger house with enough bedrooms probably the kids will have to share. We'll have one more child in a few years. Most likely he/she will have to share with his/her brother or sister.


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Sept1799:
DaisyBlinks:

are you wondering whether or not you should have a 3rd child because they would get a small room? Or wondering if you should have two children share a room so that one kid isn't banished to the smallest bedroom? First world problems, man. 

I shared a room until my sister went to college. And then, I had the smallest room. Neither was a big deal. 

I was just wondering if you had siblings and shared a bedroom if you would have rather had your own room regardless of size...thats all

gotcha. I think I got caught up on the "I would love to have a fourth child but dh says...." line. it would be totally silly to consider sharing a room worse than not having another child at all. I'm glad that's not your thought process.

I say have the two same-sex siblings share a room until one of them whines for the smaller bedroom. I think sharing a room is a good experience for siblings, and they can always move when they feel like they'd like a little more privacy. 


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01-16-2013 at 10:58 PM
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Sept1799:
DaisyBlinks:

are you wondering whether or not you should have a 3rd child because they would get a small room? Or wondering if you should have two children share a room so that one kid isn't banished to the smallest bedroom? First world problems, man. 

I shared a room until my sister went to college. And then, I had the smallest room. Neither was a big deal. 

I was just wondering if you had siblings and shared a bedroom if you would have rather had your own room regardless of size...thats all

gotcha. I think I got caught up on the "I would love to have a fourth child but dh says...." line. it would be totally silly to consider sharing a room worse than not having another child at all. I'm glad that's not your thought process.

I say have the two same-sex siblings share a room until one of them whines for the smaller bedroom. I think sharing a room is a good experience for siblings, and they can always move when they feel like they'd like a little more privacy. 


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01-17-2013 at 5:17 AM
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At various points in my life I shared the bigger bedroom with my middle brother, shared the bigger bedroom with my youngest brother and had the small bedroom to myself. I didn't mind sharing but I was definitely willing to give up space for privacy.

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01-17-2013 at 1:07 PM
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I have a few thoughts here. First of all, I think your husband is kind of viewing this from an adult perspective, not from the perspective of a child who has been in the same bedroom for his/her whole life. Yes, as an adult (or even an older child), if you were suddenly told "here is your bedroom. It's the smallest," you'd probably feel cheated. But if you had the same bedroom your whole life, that would just seem normal. You wouldn't wake up one day and be like, "What the crap?? Why is my bedroom so small?" As a teen, it might occur to you to be mad that your room was so small, but teens get mad about random things anyway.

Secondly, yes, I shared a bedroom with my sister, and it sometimes sucked and I wanted my own room. My brother (youngest sibling) had his own room because he was the only boy, and my sister and I would periodically wish that we had our own room, but since he was the only boy, it was just the way it was. Ironically, he used to complain that my sister and I "got to" share a room while he had to sleep in a room all by himself. So there's really no predicting how a child is going to feel about sharing a room versus having his/her own space.

If room size is literally the only thing keeping you from having another child, I honestly think it's a dumb reason not to have a kid.  

ETA - Oh, I just read that you weren't considering not having a child because of the room situation. Disregard my last sentence. 


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01-22-2013 at 3:24 PM
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When I was younger I shared a room with my older sister and absolutely loved it!  I would often sleep in the bed with her so I wouldn't feel "lonely".  She, on the other hand, didn't "love it" so much because I was constantly keeping her awake.  Then I had a room with my younger sister, I was in a bed and she was in the crib, which I "loved" to climb into and take her out of...which my mother didn't care for at all.  Finally I had my own room - it was huge and I loved it!  I loved the independence and the ability to decorate it to my liking.

Your 3rd child won't immediately know that his/her room is smaller for a really, really long time since everything is gigantic to them for years.  I know this is true because when I was a teenager I went back to visit my first house and to me the room were sooooo tiny I couldn't believe I thought they were big.  So, have the 3rd and don't worry about it at all.  


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