I totally hear ya! I've never had a BFP, but when we first started TTC in early 2011, I put together a gift bag of daddy and baby items to be ready as the announcement. They have been in a cute gift bag, wrapped and ready to grab and give to him the moment the BFP happened. Inside of the bag, theres a Handbook for New Dads, a baby onesie that says "Wish Granted", a picture frame that says "I love my daddy" and in the frame itself it says "coming 2011" (yeah right!.) I also have a couple of daddy and baby animal story books, and lastly a musical card that plays the song "Celebrate good times" and the outside is addressed to: Daddy.
I've secretly gone up in the closet throughout our infertility journey a few times and sat with the different items on my lap and just sobbed. But I still want to be able to give this gift bag to him when that day a BFP finally does come, even if he's slightly expecting it. He's definitely not expecting the gift bag! I won't let IF steal every bit of magic away from me.
I doubt the batteries in the card still work, but whatever, it's the thought that counts, right? :)