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01-16-2013 at 9:36 AM
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Disgusting Coworker

I am currently sitting here, hearing all the details of a male coworkers sex life in horrible, vivid, derogatory colour. Want. to. scream.

The way he talks about women could make a nun swear. And it is constant. And I'm not the type to take issues to HR, but i'm about to be the type to loose my shiz.
 
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01-16-2013 at 9:39 AM
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I would just start talking in vivid colour about everything TTC, pg, and giving birth related.  Ask him if he's ready for that?  If he's not, keep it in his pants!
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I would just start talking in vivid colour about everything TTC, pg, and giving birth related.  Ask him if he's ready for that?  If he's not, keep it in his pants!
Nice.

I really don't understand the culture of oversharing. I don't want to KNOW and it doe snot make you look more sexy or virile... just obnoxious. And disrespectful to the other person being described ...

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01-16-2013 at 9:42 AM
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cobi166:
I would just start talking in vivid colour about everything TTC, pg, and giving birth related.  Ask him if he's ready for that?  If he's not, keep it in his pants!

I like the way you think. I think I'll print pics of a placenta, and a 4th degree tear... turn him off women for a couple days. Give my poor ears a rest from this nonsense.
 
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01-16-2013 at 9:43 AM
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Even overhearing comments like that falls under the harassment category in the workplace.  I would mention to him that he needs to shut up about it at work and if it continues, go to HR.
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01-16-2013 at 9:43 AM
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MJHershey:

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I would just start talking in vivid colour about everything TTC, pg, and giving birth related.  Ask him if he's ready for that?  If he's not, keep it in his pants!
Nice.

I really don't understand the culture of oversharing. I don't want to KNOW and it doe snot make you look more sexy or virile... just obnoxious. And disrespectful to the other person being described ...

Oh he is incredibly disrespectful to his "woman" (Yes he refers to her/them? as his woman/women. Not gf, not friend, no terms of semi endearment here). If I ever heard somebody speak of me the way he speaks of these poor ladies I would flip my lid!
 
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QueenBeeMama:

cobi166:
I would just start talking in vivid colour about everything TTC, pg, and giving birth related.  Ask him if he's ready for that?  If he's not, keep it in his pants!

I like the way you think. I think I'll print pics of a placenta, and a 4th degree tear... turn him off women for a couple days. Give my poor ears a rest from this nonsense.

Passive aggressive probably won't work, but GLWT.  ETA: Not to mention he could technically report your placenta talk if he wanted to. I woudnt go down that road.
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01-16-2013 at 9:45 AM
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Gross.  You should come up with a way to have your manager come to your desk to overhear said inappropriate conversation.
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01-16-2013 at 9:47 AM
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cobi166:
I would just start talking in vivid colour about everything TTC, pg, and giving birth related.  Ask him if he's ready for that?  If he's not, keep it in his pants!

Agreed. Pick up your phone and pretend to be talking to a friend who is TTC. Start asking "her" about her CM's color, consistancy, etc. If he makes any comments, just say "Oh, I thought that we could talk about our very personal things at work since you seem to have no problem doing that."

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i think i would have to call him out to his face and say something like "you know i can hear every single thing you're saying, right?" or something like that to let him maybe get the hint that not everyone wants to hear his nonsense. 

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cobi166:
I would just start talking in vivid colour about everything TTC, pg, and giving birth related.  Ask him if he's ready for that?  If he's not, keep it in his pants!

I like the way you think. I think I'll print pics of a placenta, and a 4th degree tear... turn him off women for a couple days. Give my poor ears a rest from this nonsense.

Passive aggressive probably won't work, but GLWT.  ETA: Not to mention he could technically report your placenta talk if he wanted to. I woudnt go down that road.

I was being farcical. I wouldn't actually do this. I just think passive aggressively, because it's fun.
 
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Go straight to HR.  There is no reason to stoop to his level and risk getting in trouble yourself.  

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01-16-2013 at 9:51 AM
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nlscroggins:
i think i would have to call him out to his face and say something like "you know i can hear every single thing you're saying, right?" or something like that to let him maybe get the hint that not everyone wants to hear his nonsense. 

There have been so many times I want to turn around and do just that. He has a thing about making fun of bigger girls. I'm not huge, but I certainly don't fit into the skinny category either (size 12-14ish)... It honestly takes everything in me some days to not turn around and give him a "please consider your audience" talk.
 
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01-16-2013 at 9:54 AM
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I'm the butthole who would totally record it with my phone and tuck it away in a safe place.
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Go straight to HR.  There is no reason to stoop to his level and risk getting in trouble yourself.  
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Also, I would have no problem with standing up and telling him to can it.
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01-16-2013 at 9:57 AM
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I'm the butthole who would totally record it with my phone and tuck it away in a safe place.

I don't think that makes you a butthole...he put it out there.  You'd think people would be more careful since this kind of technology is everywhere now.
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01-16-2013 at 9:58 AM
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Also, I would have no problem with standing up and telling him to can it.

I wish I had balls to do this. I'm generally pretty timid, go with the flow, and I just don't want to create an (any more) uncomfortable work environment. But I think eventually, I'm going to have to say something. I just got the low down on the apartment above him being cool because he was "banging his chick" last night and hit his head on the ceiling because "Sh** was buckwild"...

 
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i think i would have to call him out to his face and say something like "you know i can hear every single thing you're saying, right?" or something like that to let him maybe get the hint that not everyone wants to hear his nonsense. 

I agree with this, or you could passively aggressively print off something about manners and ettiquette in the work place and leave it on his desk
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I'm the butthole who would totally record it with my phone and tuck it away in a safe place.

Definitely do this but have the "safe place" be HR as actual proof of what he says (in case he comes back to say you are lying).

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Yeah, I would record it (just in case) and go to HR.  This is considered sexual harassment, even if he's not talking to you directly.
 
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How is it even a question if you should take this to HR?

 

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QueenBeeMama:

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Also, I would have no problem with standing up and telling him to can it.

I wish I had balls to do this. I'm generally pretty timid, go with the flow, and I just don't want to create an (any more) uncomfortable work environment. But I think eventually, I'm going to have to say something. I just got the low down on the apartment above him being cool because he was "banging his chick" last night and hit his head on the ceiling because "Sh** was buckwild"...

Now is the time.  Stand up and say "this kind of talk is inappropriate for the workplace and if it continues I'll be forced to say something to HR."  Then sit back down.  If he harasses you for commenting, you go straight to HR.
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01-16-2013 at 10:14 AM
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Also, I would have no problem with standing up and telling him to can it.

I wish I had balls to do this. I'm generally pretty timid, go with the flow, and I just don't want to create an (any more) uncomfortable work environment. But I think eventually, I'm going to have to say something. I just got the low down on the apartment above him being cool because he was "banging his chick" last night and hit his head on the ceiling because "Sh** was buckwild"...

Now is the time.  Stand up and say "this kind of talk is inappropriate for the workplace and if it continues I'll be forced to say something to HR."  Then sit back down.  If he harasses you for commenting, you go straight to HR.

Ya, next time he says something I think I'm going to go for it. It's just been getting ridiculous lately. And the man he is discussing this with looks just as uncomfortable as I am.
 
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The first thing that crosses my mind when I overhear some lame shiiiit like that is "this moron is probably just looking for attention and trying to look cool." My guess would be that a majority of what he says completely made up.

Either way, definitely an HR thing. I'm sure you can't be the only one overhearing it. Fabricated or not, no one needs to hear that at work. (Or anywhere for that matter, but that's just my opinion).

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QueenBeeMama:
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QueenBeeMama:

cruelsound:
Also, I would have no problem with standing up and telling him to can it.

I wish I had balls to do this. I'm generally pretty timid, go with the flow, and I just don't want to create an (any more) uncomfortable work environment. But I think eventually, I'm going to have to say something. I just got the low down on the apartment above him being cool because he was "banging his chick" last night and hit his head on the ceiling because "Sh** was buckwild"...

Now is the time.  Stand up and say "this kind of talk is inappropriate for the workplace and if it continues I'll be forced to say something to HR."  Then sit back down.  If he harasses you for commenting, you go straight to HR.

Ya, next time he says something I think I'm going to go for it. It's just been getting ridiculous lately. And the man he is discussing this with looks just as uncomfortable as I am.

I saw this after my last post. That is totally made up, has to be. This guy makes me picture Drew from Office Space.

 

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How is it even a question if you should take this to HR?

 

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cruelsound:
Also, I would have no problem with standing up and telling him to can it.

I wish I had balls to do this. I'm generally pretty timid, go with the flow, and I just don't want to create an (any more) uncomfortable work environment. But I think eventually, I'm going to have to say something. I just got the low down on the apartment above him being cool because he was "banging his chick" last night and hit his head on the ceiling because "Sh** was buckwild"...

Now is the time.  Stand up and say "this kind of talk is inappropriate for the workplace and if it continues I'll be forced to say something to HR."  Then sit back down.  If he harasses you for commenting, you go straight to HR.

Ya, next time he says something I think I'm going to go for it. It's just been getting ridiculous lately. And the man he is discussing this with looks just as uncomfortable as I am.

I saw this after my last post. That is totally made up, has to be. This guy makes me picture Drew from Office Space.

 

Hand to God, I heard it.  Could he have made it up, ya... lets just say at his height, I dont see the ceiling being an issue unless his bed is a trampoline
 
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QueenBeeMama:
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QueenBeeMama:

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Also, I would have no problem with standing up and telling him to can it.

I wish I had balls to do this. I'm generally pretty timid, go with the flow, and I just don't want to create an (any more) uncomfortable work environment. But I think eventually, I'm going to have to say something. I just got the low down on the apartment above him being cool because he was "banging his chick" last night and hit his head on the ceiling because "Sh** was buckwild"...

Now is the time.  Stand up and say "this kind of talk is inappropriate for the workplace and if it continues I'll be forced to say something to HR."  Then sit back down.  If he harasses you for commenting, you go straight to HR.

Ya, next time he says something I think I'm going to go for it. It's just been getting ridiculous lately. And the man he is discussing this with looks just as uncomfortable as I am.

I saw this after my last post. That is totally made up, has to be. This guy makes me picture Drew from Office Space.

 

Hand to God, I heard it.  Could he have made it up, ya... lets just say at his height, I dont see the ceiling being an issue unless his bed is a trampoline

That's hilarious. I'm sure he made it up, hopefully his audience knows that. Well, good luck. Hopefully it's addressed quickly.

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You need to get a backbone and go to HR, a manager or at the very least say something to him. You are enabling the situation by sitting there NOT doing anything. That type of conduct is inappropriate in the work place and didn't need to be tolerated.

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