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01-16-2013 at 6:11 PM
NYCGal276
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The BEST Ridiculousness You've EVER Heard!

So a girlfriend of mine is currently trying to get pregnant and as of now, she has no signs that she is going to have a struggle.  She cried hysterically to me when she didn't get pregnant the first month.  I bit my tongue as I held back reminding her I've had 2 miscarriages, have been trying since 2011, and have a medicine cabinet that no longer has ANY room.  

ANYWAY - she is now on CD1 of her SECOND MONTH and she says to me the other day "We should concentrate on something else this month!  Let's volunteer at a soup kitchen!"

 I want to know THE most RIDICULOUS advice you've ever gotten from a non-IFer!  GO! :-D 
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Dx PCOS @ 16y.o
9/2011: unplanned natural conception and MC @ 6weeks (sac never seen)
12/2012: Cycle 1: TI & 2000MG Metformin & 100MG Clomid = CP
Functional Cyst - fixed with 2wks BCP
1/31/13: Cycle 2: IUI #1 & 2000MG Metformin, 100MG Clomid, HSG/Trigger, Provera 400mg 2DPIUI = MC @ 7w4d
Cycle 3: Lady In Waiting! Planning for IUI
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01-16-2013 at 6:25 PM
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OMG REALLY? Argh, thats frustrating! People really don't get it!

I confided in a acquaintence/friend that I was getting somewhat close to who asked me when I was going to have children. Everyone's favorite question, right?

I explained that sadly, I had been diagnosed with "premature menopause" last year and we weren't getting pregnant even after almost two years and failed IVF/IUI. Her response? "I have a friend who has been trying to get pregnant for a few months too. I can ask her for some pointers for you if you want?

WTF?
Me (31) DH (35) - Finding our path to baby #1
Me: POF/DOR - AMH <0.16, heterozygous c677t MTHFR
DH: Severe MFI
12/2/11 - IUI #1- BFN
8/1/12 - IVF #1 - Zero response from max stims (600iu intramuscularly)
My ovaries seem to be just for decoration

12/6/12 - Adopted five embryos that had been frozen for over ten years!
2/11/13 - Thawed four, sadly two didn't survive. Transferred two beautiful blasts.

2/16/13 - First BFP of my life!
3/27/13 - No heartbeat at 9w0d. D&C the following day.

4/23/13 - Matched to adopt five new embryos!

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01-16-2013 at 6:26 PM
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Thats obnoxious..and I get it, but I remember having a huge let down my first month it didnt happen..lol and now here we are 15 months later..

So maybe she said something without thinking..try not to let it get to you, and if she doesnt seem to get the hint that maybe she needs to take a look back and realize it could be a lot worse, and it's still really early...then you might want to say something. ALot of our friends dont know we're struggling or trying for that matter. When asked about when were having kids, We just answer vaguely like "oh we don't know...blah blah blah" But The people that do know don't always know what to say, I love the "just relax, and it'll happen" Line. Riiigghhhtt....

  Maybe your friend is trying to relate to you in someway with her remarks, but I've always felt that intentions are always trumped by perception.. SO if you perceive it negatively, then who cares the intent! So just say something if it goes on. Good luck lady!
TTC since 11/11. 10 months natural= 10 BFN 8/12 First appt with RE 4 semen anaylsis later 1.9 million count, 21% motility and very poor morphology Me- bloodwork, 2 ultrasounds, HSG exam =I'm fine 3 months of testosterone treatments = 3 more BFN DH bkoodwork after 3 months treatment= no change RE says we can continue with hormone treatment for MIF, But says it could be year or more to see results that would even make us IUI candidates RE says we can try IUI but doesn't expect the results to be good based on severe MIF. 12/12 decide to move forward with IVF Started IVF Cycle #1 1/11/13 
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01-16-2013 at 6:27 PM
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April- Femara 2.5mg + Trigger + IUI = BFN
May- Femara 5mg = CX - No Response on Left = BFN
June- Femara 7.5mg + Trigger + IUI = BFN
August- Lap & Hysteroscopy = Blocked & Partially Blocked Tubes
Scar Tissue Removed, Left Tube Partially Open
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October- 100mg Clomid + Trigger + TI = BFN
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Beta #1- 176 c/p @ 4w4d
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01-16-2013 at 6:29 PM
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Amyou06:

Thats obnoxious..and I get it, but I remember having a huge let down my first month it didnt happen..lol and now here we are 15 months later..

So maybe she said something without thinking..try not to let it get to you, and if she doesnt seem to get the hint that maybe she needs to take a look back and realize it could be a lot worse, and it's still really early...then you might want to say something. ALot of our friends dont know we're struggling or trying for that matter. When asked about when were having kids, We just answer vaguely like "oh we don't know...blah blah blah" But The people that do know don't always know what to say, I love the "just relax, and it'll happen" Line. Riiigghhhtt....

  Maybe your friend is trying to relate to you in someway with her remarks, but I've always felt that intentions are always trumped by perception.. SO if you perceive it negatively, then who cares the intent! So just say something if it goes on. Good luck lady!

I have no doubt that she wasn't giving me her version of support - she's a good and long time friend.  But if I don't laugh at these people with their ridiculous advice... I may get violent!!! :-P 
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Dx PCOS @ 16y.o
9/2011: unplanned natural conception and MC @ 6weeks (sac never seen)
12/2012: Cycle 1: TI & 2000MG Metformin & 100MG Clomid = CP
Functional Cyst - fixed with 2wks BCP
1/31/13: Cycle 2: IUI #1 & 2000MG Metformin, 100MG Clomid, HSG/Trigger, Provera 400mg 2DPIUI = MC @ 7w4d
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01-16-2013 at 6:36 PM
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This wasn't advice really, but it is ridiculousness, so I thought it may qualify: My crazy, self absorbed beotch of a SIL (with 3 kids) says at a family party in front of everyone to me : " I can't believe that you haven't had any kids. I think that is so selfish. Anyone who chooses not to have kids is all about themselves"..

um.ok.  

Me: 35, DH: 36, ttc: 3+ years, dx: unknown
10/11: after 2 years, saw a RE, FSH 5.4
11/11: BFP! (surprise after thyroid med & normal hsg),
12/11: missed m/c after 7 week u/s,
1/12: D&C,
6/12 IUI #1: clomid, 5 mature follicles, excellent sperm,= BFN,
7/12: IUI #2: clomid, 3 mature follicles, excellent sperm= BFN,
8/12: IUi #3: clomid, 5 follicles, = BFP!, C/P
10/12 IVF #1: FSH 5.4, estradiol AFC: 14, long Lupron 150/bravelle75,5R/5M/4F, all 4 made it to 5dt, 1 blast and 1 8 cell transferred. No frosties. BFN
IVF #2: AFC 21, MD lupron 12/25, 225bravelle/150men, 4R/4M/3F, 5dt of 1 blast BFN
IVF #3: natural start antagon, starting 3/30, ER 4/11, 12R,11M,10F
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01-16-2013 at 6:42 PM
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We are just starting IUI, but my Grandma told me I should just go to Blue Mound and drink the water, because two of my cousins live their and their wives were both pregnant... REALLY I mean IF it was that easy... I'd bottle it, and make millions! Good Luck!!
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01-16-2013 at 6:47 PM
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J&D2007:

This wasn't advice really, but it is ridiculousness, so I thought it may qualify: My crazy, self absorbed beotch of a SIL (with 3 kids) says at a family party in front of everyone to me : " I can't believe that you haven't had any kids. I think that is so selfish. Anyone who chooses not to have kids is all about themselves"..

um.ok.  

Invite me next time so I can throat punch her for you.Angry
Me (31) DH (35) - Finding our path to baby #1
Me: POF/DOR - AMH <0.16, heterozygous c677t MTHFR
DH: Severe MFI
12/2/11 - IUI #1- BFN
8/1/12 - IVF #1 - Zero response from max stims (600iu intramuscularly)
My ovaries seem to be just for decoration

12/6/12 - Adopted five embryos that had been frozen for over ten years!
2/11/13 - Thawed four, sadly two didn't survive. Transferred two beautiful blasts.

2/16/13 - First BFP of my life!
3/27/13 - No heartbeat at 9w0d. D&C the following day.

4/23/13 - Matched to adopt five new embryos!

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01-16-2013 at 6:47 PM
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"You don't need IVF, just eat Kelp!"


Bahahaha WTH???
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01-16-2013 at 6:48 PM
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JD2007:
This wasn't advice really, but it is ridiculousness, so I thought it may qualify: My crazy, self absorbed beotch of a SIL with 3 kids says at a family party in front of everyone to me : " I can't believe that you haven't had any kids. I think that is so selfish. Anyone who chooses not to have kids is all about themselves"..um.ok. nbsp;


Wow, just WOW! Ugh SILs suck.
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IUIs #1 - #3 (August - October '12) = BFFN
IVF #1.1 (Nov/Dec '12): Cancelled due to 18mm cyst - UGH
IVF #1.2 (Dec/Jan '12/'13): 5dt of 1 "perfect" 1AA blast on 1/26 (2 frosties) = BFP!!!
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01-16-2013 at 6:53 PM
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J&D the bad news is that was said to you, the good news is we must be related bc my SIL is a BIOTCH with 3 kids, too!!!!!!!!!!
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Dx PCOS @ 16y.o
9/2011: unplanned natural conception and MC @ 6weeks (sac never seen)
12/2012: Cycle 1: TI & 2000MG Metformin & 100MG Clomid = CP
Functional Cyst - fixed with 2wks BCP
1/31/13: Cycle 2: IUI #1 & 2000MG Metformin, 100MG Clomid, HSG/Trigger, Provera 400mg 2DPIUI = MC @ 7w4d
Cycle 3: Lady In Waiting! Planning for IUI
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01-16-2013 at 6:57 PM
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I've probably heard it all....drinking, eating, positions, etc. but the funniest thing was just this past Christmas. Although it wasn't directed at us I still laughed. DH's biological grandparents got divorced 30+ years ago and each remarried. So Grandpa and his wife were over at my IL's for Christmas and they were talking about her grandchildren. She says how the one daughter spent the night and wound up pregnant, then the other daughter spent the night and wound up pregnant. Then it became a joke in their family, when some other family member spent the night and got pregnant, that all a woman had to do was stay overnight at their house and they'd get pregnant. Well....I laughed and said "So when can we come over??" LOL
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July 2012- IVF#1 cancelled
September 2012-IVF#1.2--BFN
November 2012- IVF #2 --BFN
January 2013- IVF #3-- BFFN
February 2013--Found a new RE but first back to the Endocrinologist for more diagnostic testing
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01-16-2013 at 6:58 PM
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liz4paws:
J&D2007:

This wasn't advice really, but it is ridiculousness, so I thought it may qualify: My crazy, self absorbed beotch of a SIL (with 3 kids) says at a family party in front of everyone to me : " I can't believe that you haven't had any kids. I think that is so selfish. Anyone who chooses not to have kids is all about themselves"..

um.ok.  

Invite me next time so I can throat punch her for you.Angry

 

Thanks and I may take you up on that! I wish I was one of those people that come up with something witty right away,instead of just smiling like an idiot and giving a stupid nervous giggle... Grrr.. If I had it to do all over again... 

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10/11: after 2 years, saw a RE, FSH 5.4
11/11: BFP! (surprise after thyroid med & normal hsg),
12/11: missed m/c after 7 week u/s,
1/12: D&C,
6/12 IUI #1: clomid, 5 mature follicles, excellent sperm,= BFN,
7/12: IUI #2: clomid, 3 mature follicles, excellent sperm= BFN,
8/12: IUi #3: clomid, 5 follicles, = BFP!, C/P
10/12 IVF #1: FSH 5.4, estradiol AFC: 14, long Lupron 150/bravelle75,5R/5M/4F, all 4 made it to 5dt, 1 blast and 1 8 cell transferred. No frosties. BFN
IVF #2: AFC 21, MD lupron 12/25, 225bravelle/150men, 4R/4M/3F, 5dt of 1 blast BFN
IVF #3: natural start antagon, starting 3/30, ER 4/11, 12R,11M,10F
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01-16-2013 at 7:01 PM
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When my SIL found out we were trying she told us she was diagnosed with PCOS but got pregnant right away anywaybecause she started eating healthy, working out and quit smoking also that her cousin quit smoking weed and got pregnant right away too even with a PCOS diagnosis"

DH and I are VERY healthy people - I quit smoking long before TTC and haven't smoked weed since I was 20. But thanks for the advice Smile
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01-16-2013 at 7:05 PM
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I ran into an old friend last month. She comes waddling over to me and tells me how she got married in August, and pregnant in September with TWINS! She told me that ," the secret to getting pregnant fast is to THINK its going to take a year." Oh, thank you SO MUCH for that information! If only my husbands sperm got the message, maybe I'd be KTFU by now! Uuuggghhh


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May 2011- Diagnosed with mature teratoma on right ovary and low AMH (1.23 at age 26)
June 2011- Removed Mature teratoma, HSG to clear tubes and diagnosed with mild endometriosis
August 2011- CD3 bloodwork- ALL CLEAR!
January 2012- SIS- Results ALL CLEAR!
January 2012- SA- Dx with MFI/Count- 6mil/ Morph- 4%/ Motility- 50%
August, 2012 IUI#1- DH counts 17mil post wash day 1, 5 mil post wash day 2...Results: BFFN!
September, 2012 IUI#2- DH counts 500K post wash day 1, 3mil day 2... Results: BFN
September, 2012 IUI#2- DH counts 500K post wash day 1, 3mil day 2... Results: BFN
December, 2012 IUI #3- DH counts 9mil post was day 1, 12mil day 2... Results: BFN and moving to IVF.
January, 2013- IVF consult, new AMH 1.1, update SIS ALL CLEAR and going to be an May Emerald!!
May, 2013 ER on 5/2- 16 eggs retrieved, 11 fertilized! Tentative ET- 5/7! Excited and extremely bloated! 
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This is not advice either, but the most ridiculous thing that has been said to me was sadly by my very best friend. When I confided in her that we were diagnosed with MFI and had to do IVF, she told me she thought I was so desperate to have a baby that I CHOSE IVF, because I would do whatever I had to get a baby as fast as I possibly could, and that we just didn't try long enough. Ummm....WTF? Ya, I want to get injected with needles on a daily basis, have my blood taken and wands shoved up my crotch, feel so bloated my insides are going to burst, be put under for surgery, etc.. My blood was boiling, my heart was racing, and I am still shocked I didn't get up and storm out, slamming the door in her face. I definitely laid it into her good, but I told myself it was just her complete ignorance on the subject as well as her jealousy issues b/c she is 33 and single, and I am married and ready to start a family. I had to tell myself this, or it probably would have ended our friendship.  Ugh...people are so stupid!!!
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01-16-2013 at 7:17 PM
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A friend was recently telling me how her friend did IVF and it didn't work, and then the next cycle she got a surprise BFP "because she wasn't expecting it so she relaxed". 

I also had a coworker (who doesn't know what we are going through) tell me I should have kids soon because my eggs have an expiration date.  Thanks b!tch!!!

Have fun at the soup kitchen LOL! 
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01-16-2013 at 7:27 PM
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I LOVE the kelp suggestion.  The worst advice I have gotten was after I told one of my friends that we were going for IVF she told me that if I could just relax (now I am a pretty relaxed person who has been trying for like 6 years now)  my tubes would unplug themselves.  I have apparently stressed myself into tying my own tubes now.  I did use the go on a vacation and it will happen advice to get myself on some awesome trips though so that one I do like.
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IUI 8-12 and 9-12 failed
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Beta 2 1-2-13 - 31
Beta 3 1-4-13 - 53
Beta 4 1/9 - 212!
Ultrasound 1/10 - Nothing completely empty uterus Beta 1/14 - 743; Beta 1/17 - 1704 ultrasound shows nothing. Officially a miscarriage. 1/21 Beta 3900 Dr. says it ectopic. Ultrasound shows a miracle heartbeat right in the uterus where it belongs! Dr. says I can be cautiously optomistic!!! Hang in there baby!

 
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01-16-2013 at 7:29 PM
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It's not too ridiculous, but I've gotten, "If you just stop trying...", and "Maybe if you don't push trying to get pregnant with IVF, it will happen."and the whole, "Adopt, because then you'll get pregnant."

ETA: Sorry, I forgot that I have someone who found me out on here, and I didn't want them to see that.... 

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BFP #1 - 2/14/2011 * Natural m/c - 2/28/2011 @5w4d
BFP #2 -7/9/2012 * Chemical Pregnancy
BFP #3 -10/12/12 * Missed m/c - 11/15/12 @8w4d
BFP #4 - 2/18/13 * EDD 11/1/13! Please Stick Around Little One!

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DH (31) - 06/2011 - All Normal!
Me (29) - Stage 2 endo, polyps, cysts, and septum, FSH- 7.8, AMH - 1.2.
Hysteroscopy/Lap - 11/17/11 - removed: Stage 2 Endo, 3 cysts, and polyps & septum fixed.
1/1/12 -Cycle #18 = Ovidrel+B2B IUI+Progesterone = BFN
1/28/12- Cycle # 19 = Ovidrel+B2B IUI #2+Progesterone = BFN
4/6/12 - Stims Begin!! 300 Follistim, 10 Novearel, ganirelix
4/16/12- Cycle Cancelled. Poor/Late responder
6/8/12 - Stims begin for IVF 1.2: 500 Follistim, 20 Novarel, Ganirelix
6/18/12 - Trigger
6/20/12 - ER = 20 Retrieved, 18 mature, 15 fertilized w/ICSI
6/25/12 - ET - One beautiful blast transferred. 9 to freeze
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Daysie:

It's not too ridiculous, but I've gotten, "If you just stop trying...", and "Maybe if you don't push trying to get pregnant with IVF, it will happen."and the whole, "Adopt, because then you'll get pregnant."

ETA: Sorry, I forgot that I have someone who found me out on here, and I didn't want them to see that.... 

My younger sister gave me all of this advice at different times over the last year and a half!!
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J&D2007:

This wasn't advice really, but it is ridiculousness, so I thought it may qualify: My crazy, self absorbed beotch of a SIL (with 3 kids) says at a family party in front of everyone to me : " I can't believe that you haven't had any kids. I think that is so selfish. Anyone who chooses not to have kids is all about themselves"..

um.ok.  

OMG! I'd have a hard time keeping my hands to myself!

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We were at a friends place (who have been trying for over a year now) and another couple there were telling them that they were stupid to go and get testing done because "fertility treatments don't work". That they went and had testing done (after 5 months of TTC) and there wasn't anything wrong. But they did one round of Clomid that ended in a BFN. The wife "had a mental breakdown" and swore off TTC forever. They got pregnant the next cycle because they "got drunk and had fun sex". According to the husband:

"alcohol is medically proven to help with TTC, beause it helps you to relax, so that the sperm can get to the egg more easily. But fertility doctors don't want you to know that because they would be out of a job".

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I have a couple friends who would say relax it will happen when it's supposed to. I always wanted to be like your right there is no way the toxins from the chemo that you always mention made MH look soooo different could have any affect on his sperm too, it just focused in those silly cancer cells!! Lol
 
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Things said to/about me:

"Relax.  Go on vacation and then you'll get pregnant."

- Yeah, because that's magically going to make me ovulate.  Thanks.

"Stop thinking about it.  Then it will happen."

- Let me punch you in the face.  Then stop thinking about the pain, okay?

"Look into adoption.  I know <insert person of varying degree of friendship here> who adopted and then got pregnant immediately after."

- Oh, so adopting will make my cycles regular, ensure that I ovulate, and increased DH's sperm count?  I had no freakin' idea!

To my mom (from her elderly aunt):

Aunt J: "Is V pregnant yet?"

Mom: "No."

Aunt J: "Well, are they doing it right?"

- WTF does that even mean????
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I have lots of helpful advice from others but the best by far was "take it as a blessing, kids are just another bill".

Dafuq?? I always thought kids were a blessing, not my stage 4 endo, blocked tubes, and pelvic floor dysfunction. Which is costing me way more then she's probably paid for her kid!!!
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LOL You ladies are great!!!!

Yea the next person who tells me to relax will be found in a black bag in The Hudson River.  How about I shove a tube into your cervix - lemme know if that's a relaxing position for ya. 

 BTW - wish this site had the ability to "like" people's comments! 
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You're funny re: "discovery" bc when I first joined this it tried to link it with my Knot account which has a SN that is very clearly MINE and I was like "that's a negative!" and made a new account!  

It's a shame to say it but there are some people out there that would LOVE to know I'm struggling - so it's under wraps! 
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NYCGal276:

LOL You ladies are great!!!!

Yea the next person who tells me to relax will be found in a black bag in The Hudson River.  How about I shove a tube into your cervix - lemme know if that's a relaxing position for ya. 

 BTW - wish this site had the ability to "like" people's comments! 

I agree - I am always wanting to "like" other comments and can't!
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Married 10/8/2011
Started TTC July 2011. Infertility workup July & August 2012.
DH - all clear. Me - Unicornuate Uterus discovered at HSG 8/16/12. Referred for IVF 8/28/12. Approved for IVF Warranty Program 10/2/12. Laparoscopy 11/1/12 - removed right rudamentary horn, both tubes, left ovarian cyst and endometriosis. Given all clear for pregnancy after 1/1/2013.
IVF cycle 1 starts 1/19/13!
12 eggs, 7 mature and all 7 fertilized - 2 Frosties!!
5 day SET 2/4/13 - Beta 2/13: 86 & 2/15: 186 BFP!!!!
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dede0726:

When my SIL found out we were trying she told us she was diagnosed with PCOS but got pregnant right away anywaybecause she started eating healthy, working out and quit smoking also that her cousin quit smoking weed and got pregnant right away too even with a PCOS diagnosis"

DH and I are VERY healthy people - I quit smoking long before TTC and haven't smoked weed since I was 20. But thanks for the advice Smile

Obviously that's the problem- you quit smoking weed way too early.  We all know the key to getting pregnant is to 'just relax'.  I bet her cousin was relaxed as hell; of course she got pregnant right away.  Maybe you should plan a Cheech & Chong-esque vacation adventure.  Pot + vacation = relaxed = pregnant regardless of medical barriers.  
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I'm totally saving this post for when I need a good laugh.  You all are making my day!!!!!
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