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01-16-2013 at 7:52 PM
makeupgeek
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Help me figure out who to invite!

My mom, MIL, and SIL are in the very early stages of planning my shower. My MIL and SIL are going to invite who they want from their side, and my mom and I are figuring out my side. In general it's pretty much going to be family at this shower, with two or three of my friends. (I don't have many close friends.)

I also am part of a performing dance group that has about 25 - 30 women. I've been with this group for 8 years. We see each other once a week to practice for about 7 months of the year. I only see these women at our practices and performances though. I don't really socialize with them outside of practice. So I'm not sure if it will come across gift grabby to invite some of them.

I was thinking about inviting 6 or 7 women that have been in this group since before I was there, so I've known them for 8 years. These are the women I've known the longest and talk to the most at practice. I also remember that I invited these particular women to my wedding 5 years ago and they all came. I know showers are a lot different than weddings though. I just can't remember if I invited these people to my bridal shower...I don't think I did.

There's also 3 or 4 other women in the group that I'm friendly with at practice but I haven't known them as long (maybe 3 or 4 years). So I'm not sure if I should invite none of them, just the ones in the first group I mentioned, or both groups. What would you do?



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01-16-2013 at 11:27 PM
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this is one of those "if you have to ask" type questions. 

If you don't know whether or not someone is close enough to get invited to your shower, they probably aren't. They'll get you a gift if they want to and just give it to you when the baby is born.  


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01-16-2013 at 11:44 PM
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I would not invite anyone from the dance group since you do not have contact with them outside of the dance group.  If they ask about your shower...just tell them it is family.  Perhaps someone in the dance group will host a shower for you - you never know.
 
01-17-2013 at 6:07 AM
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rhubarb123:
I would not invite anyone from the dance group since you do not have contact with them outside of the dance group.  If they ask about your shower...just tell them it is family.  Perhaps someone in the dance group will host a shower for you - you never know.
Ditto.

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01-17-2013 at 8:38 AM
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Thanks ladies! Just wanted to get an outside opinion...my mom is the type who wants to invite everyone I remotely have contact with so sometimes I have to reel her in. :


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01-17-2013 at 8:49 AM
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makeupgeek:
Thanks ladies! Just wanted to get an outside opinion...my mom is the type who wants to invite everyone I remotely have contact with so sometimes I have to reel her in. :
My big thing to remember is that a shower isn't a wedding.  As its about giving gifts, caution always needs to be taken in asking peolple to come!

 


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01-17-2013 at 1:51 PM
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If you wouldn't feel comfortable inviting them to a dinner party, don't invite them to your shower.

If it's been more than a year since you've socialized, don't invite them to your shower.

There are a couple of exceptions to both of these, but neither apply in your case. Don't invite them.

People do love buying baby gifts, though, so be prepared with your response when they ask what you need or where you're registered. Also be prepared for the "when is your shower" questions. If someone who won't be invited asks, it's good to have a plan to handle it.


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