I wasn't worried during my first pregnancy but after having a miscarriage I am more timid this time around. I do think you should try not to confuse worry with common sense though. The daily soda/cup of coffee isn't really a big deal, but risking a ms for a sandwich I assume you were referring to deli meat isn't IMO worth it. You would feel differently I bet if something happened after eating the sandwich. I'm not trying to be snarky, so I hope you don't take it that way :. I hope you can continue to just roll with all the changes throughout your pregnancy.... I love being pregnant too! Anyway, try to be wise even if you aren't worrying :. I promise it is worth making small sacrifices like no deli meat or at least heating it up when you are holding that baby in your arms :. HH 9 months!

So, I guess I'm going to avoid spinach, which has caused far more cases of listeria, for my entire pregnancy, too? Whoops, already ate it.

I have no problem avoiding cantaloupe. I pretty much can't stand the stuff.

I am not a big fan of sandwiches. Avoiding them for 9 months isn't a big deal to me. But I wouldn't freak out if I ate a sandwich from a reputable place. However, if I go to a place like Subway, I would have them microwave then toast my sandwich.

I'm not a total idiot, I do have common sense and have done my research. I also plan to ask my doctor her thoughts on listeria and where my biggest risks are.  

fuzzylogic:

So, I guess I'm going to avoid spinach, which has caused far more cases of listeria, for my entire pregnancy, too? Whoops, already ate it.

I have no problem avoiding cantaloupe. I pretty much can't stand the stuff.

I am not a big fan of sandwiches. Avoiding them for 9 months isn't a big deal to me. But I wouldn't freak out if I ate a sandwich from a reputable place. However, if I go to a place like Subway, I would have them microwave then toast my sandwich.

I'm not a total idiot, I do have common sense and have done my research. I also plan to ask my doctor her thoughts on listeria and where my biggest risks are.  

This makes me laugh.  Everyone is freaking out about deli meat but they don't understand that you can get listeria from contaminated soil.  Same with toxoplasmosis and cat feces.  You can get that from other sources too like unwashed fruits and vegetables or eat/drink anything that's been contaminated with it.

I guess I'm in the minority with you because I'm not freaking out about every little thing.  I know the miscarriage rates are a bit scary but I know that I'm being healthy and if I do miscarry, it wasn't meant to be.  And unless I'm bleeding profusely and/or severely cramping I'm not freaking out about symptoms.  They come with the territory. 

Nah. I didn't worry about any of those things when I was pregnant with my first. I did the research on how much caffeine was in soda so that when someone gave me crap about it I could explain it takes 5 sodas to equal one cup of coffee. I worried about losing this pregnancy because I've had 2 miscarriages and I'm over 35. I still don't stress about much of else. I use common sense. Some people just worry more than others.  

I guess I've never been one to freak out about much when it comes to my health. I've always taken a stance of, if I take care of myself, it will work out, and if there is a bump in the road, then we'll deal with that in as calm a fashion as possible.

I'm just excited. I would be said if I allowed my concerns to overshadow my joy. 

AFwifelife:

fuzzylogic:

So, I guess I'm going to avoid spinach, which has caused far more cases of listeria, for my entire pregnancy, too? Whoops, already ate it.

I have no problem avoiding cantaloupe. I pretty much can't stand the stuff.

I am not a big fan of sandwiches. Avoiding them for 9 months isn't a big deal to me. But I wouldn't freak out if I ate a sandwich from a reputable place. However, if I go to a place like Subway, I would have them microwave then toast my sandwich.

I'm not a total idiot, I do have common sense and have done my research. I also plan to ask my doctor her thoughts on listeria and where my biggest risks are.  

This makes me laugh.  Everyone is freaking out about deli meat but they don't understand that you can get listeria from contaminated soil.  Same with toxoplasmosis and cat feces.  You can get that from other sources too like unwashed fruits and vegetables or eat/drink anything that's been contaminated with it.

I guess I'm in the minority with you because I'm not freaking out about every little thing.  I know the miscarriage rates are a bit scary but I know that I'm being healthy and if I do miscarry, it wasn't meant to be.  And unless I'm bleeding profusely and/or severely cramping I'm not freaking out about symptoms.  They come with the territory. 

Lol about the spinach:  I ate two bags of it yesterday for dinner.  Just that.  ha

I, too, take a very "what happens, happens" approach mixed in with common sense.  I don't mind giving up certain things (like cleaning the litterbox, haha!).  I'm still on the fence about sushi, though.  On one hand, I haven't read any info that claims sushi can harm the fetus, only make the mum sick (typical food poisoning).  I'm a huge lover of sushi, and I find it hard to think about giving it up.  I've heard some people say that, "if sushi from your restaurant is fresh, cooked by a professional, and you've never been sick from it before, go ahead and keep eating it while pregnant".  That still seems like a risk though.  I also remember that when I was living in Japan, pregnant women ate sushi all the time.  On the other hand, Japanese fish was flash frozen, and I have no idea if the fish in Ontario is.

haha love the raptor pic! Everyone is different. If you aren't worried then take it as a blessing and enjoy it!

I would say, No you aren't weird, but are in the minority for not worrying.  Personally, I think a little concern over making sure you are healthy during pregnancy is normal, but I think you have that covered in "common sense".  I realize your question is facetious though.  I am one that tries not to worry also, but I think for FTM's, it is uncharted territory and some people just don't know what to expect.  And... common sense isn't so common anymore

BabyButler2010:

I wasn't worried during my first pregnancy but after having a miscarriage I am more timid this time around. I do think you should try not to confuse worry with common sense though. The daily soda/cup of coffee isn't really a big deal, but risking a ms for a sandwich I assume you were referring to deli meat isn't IMO worth it. You would feel differently I bet if something happened after eating the sandwich. I'm not trying to be snarky, so I hope you don't take it that way :. I hope you can continue to just roll with all the changes throughout your pregnancy.... I love being pregnant too! Anyway, try to be wise even if you aren't worrying :. I promise it is worth making small sacrifices like no deli meat or at least heating it up when you are holding that baby in your arms :. HH 9 months!

 

Goodness gracious, really? You are not going to miscarry because you eat a sandwich. I ate sandwiches through both of my pregnancies and guess what I have to healthy, happy children and god forbid but I didn't always warm it up. Sometimes I ate it right out of the package. You know what I think, I think freaking out about every single thing you eat or drink is a million times worse on you and baby than eating a piece of deli meat. Logic people. You don't want to go overboard on things but you don't have to completely cut things out.

fuzzylogic:

I guess I've never been one to freak out about much when it comes to my health. I've always taken a stance of, if I take care of myself, it will work out, and if there is a bump in the road, then we'll deal with that in as calm a fashion as possible.

I'm just excited. I would be said if I allowed my concerns to overshadow my joy. 

This is me too, there's been many periods in my life where my yearly or every second year Pap was the only time I saw my doctor, I just don't go in unless I've lost a limb. And I'm really a roll-with-things kind of person, I weigh the risks of course but have a very common sense approach to things and don't panic about the tiniest blips. I actually spotted for over four weeks straight, constantly, from a few days past ovulation until last week, and yet I was one of the ones reassuring others it was normal after freaking out about the tiniest of spots that happened just once.  So OP, you're not alone in feeling more relaxed, it's ok and it's likely just how you are in most things. 

Melanieian:

BabyButler2010:

I wasn't worried during my first pregnancy but after having a miscarriage I am more timid this time around. I do think you should try not to confuse worry with common sense though. The daily soda/cup of coffee isn't really a big deal, but risking a ms for a sandwich I assume you were referring to deli meat isn't IMO worth it. You would feel differently I bet if something happened after eating the sandwich. I'm not trying to be snarky, so I hope you don't take it that way :. I hope you can continue to just roll with all the changes throughout your pregnancy.... I love being pregnant too! Anyway, try to be wise even if you aren't worrying :. I promise it is worth making small sacrifices like no deli meat or at least heating it up when you are holding that baby in your arms :. HH 9 months!

 

Goodness gracious, really? You are not going to miscarry because you eat a sandwich. I ate sandwiches through both of my pregnancies and guess what I have to healthy, happy children and god forbid but I didn't always warm it up. Sometimes I ate it right out of the package. You know what I think, I think freaking out about every single thing you eat or drink is a million times worse on you and baby than eating a piece of deli meat. Logic people. You don't want to go overboard on things but you don't have to completely cut things out.

 

I did not say that eating a sandwich would definitely cause a miscarraige.  I only said use common sense- the initial post sounded as though she was entirely carefree and hadn't a concern in the world for being even the least bit cautious.  I also ate sandwich meat and drank coffee for my first pregnancy...and my son turned out just fine.  I was however, mindful of the fact that I was pregnant and used common sense with the quantity that I consumed and I did warm up my sandwich meat.  Obviously not every women who eats sandwich meat during pregnancy is going to miscarry- but I can say that once you have had a miscarriage, you look at everything you did while you were pregnant and wonder if you had been slightly more cautious if your baby would have survived.  I wasn't trying to tell the OP to be a worry wart- only to not through all caution to the wind- because that is what I understood from her first post.  

I don't think you're strange at all and I think you're better off than the people who freak out about every single thing.

BabyButler2010:

Melanieian:

BabyButler2010:

I wasn't worried during my first pregnancy but after having a miscarriage I am more timid this time around. I do think you should try not to confuse worry with common sense though. The daily soda/cup of coffee isn't really a big deal, but risking a ms for a sandwich I assume you were referring to deli meat isn't IMO worth it. You would feel differently I bet if something happened after eating the sandwich. I'm not trying to be snarky, so I hope you don't take it that way :. I hope you can continue to just roll with all the changes throughout your pregnancy.... I love being pregnant too! Anyway, try to be wise even if you aren't worrying :. I promise it is worth making small sacrifices like no deli meat or at least heating it up when you are holding that baby in your arms :. HH 9 months!

 

Goodness gracious, really? You are not going to miscarry because you eat a sandwich. I ate sandwiches through both of my pregnancies and guess what I have to healthy, happy children and god forbid but I didn't always warm it up. Sometimes I ate it right out of the package. You know what I think, I think freaking out about every single thing you eat or drink is a million times worse on you and baby than eating a piece of deli meat. Logic people. You don't want to go overboard on things but you don't have to completely cut things out.

 

I did not say that eating a sandwich would definitely cause a miscarraige.  I only said use common sense- the initial post sounded as though she was entirely carefree and hadn't a concern in the world for being even the least bit cautious.  I also ate sandwich meat and drank coffee for my first pregnancy...and my son turned out just fine.  I was however, mindful of the fact that I was pregnant and used common sense with the quantity that I consumed and I did warm up my sandwich meat.  Obviously not every women who eats sandwich meat during pregnancy is going to miscarry- but I can say that once you have had a miscarriage, you look at everything you did while you were pregnant and wonder if you had been slightly more cautious if your baby would have survived.  I wasn't trying to tell the OP to be a worry wart- only to not through all caution to the wind- because that is what I understood from her first post.  

Yes, but you can be carefree with common sense. I refuse to worry about every single little thing, it make for a much more enjoyable experience. I have not had to misfortune of having a miscarriage and I am so sorry that you have. I honestly could not imagine going through that, so I understand you are going to be a lot more cautious but don't be so cautious that you turn into a worry wart or judge what others do. Nothing makes me madder than someone telling a pregnant woman what they should not be doing, I am not refering to you. My SIL is also pregnant, she is 7 weeks farther along than me. She has people telling getting on her constantly because she is a FTM. They are telling her not to put salt on her food, not to drink caffeine and can't believe she is drinking tap water. Really. I just want to tell them to STFU and learn before you judge. Caffine and salt are fine, you just to limit th amount and tap water is not different than bottled water except bottled water is packed in plastic which has chemicals. It just gets on my nerves! They keep telling her all the horrible things she is doing and she is being an overly cautious FTM as it is and they are just trying to make her feel bad and guilty.

I understand what you are saying, I am not too worried about the food thing especially since I don't eat most of the stuff they say not to anyway. I have had thoughts and worries about miscarriage..I mean when you look at the statistics, 1 in 10 (10%) chance in your first six weeks. It is pretty high and it is a horrible thing to go though.

As far as finances are concerned, maybe you have that stuff all figured out and that is why you are not worried about it. I know my DH and I had all the finances and who is going to be with the baby when figured out before we even started TTC. We are major planners when it comes to big life changes.

Melanieian:

BabyButler2010:

Melanieian:

BabyButler2010:

I wasn't worried during my first pregnancy but after having a miscarriage I am more timid this time around. I do think you should try not to confuse worry with common sense though. The daily soda/cup of coffee isn't really a big deal, but risking a ms for a sandwich I assume you were referring to deli meat isn't IMO worth it. You would feel differently I bet if something happened after eating the sandwich. I'm not trying to be snarky, so I hope you don't take it that way :. I hope you can continue to just roll with all the changes throughout your pregnancy.... I love being pregnant too! Anyway, try to be wise even if you aren't worrying :. I promise it is worth making small sacrifices like no deli meat or at least heating it up when you are holding that baby in your arms :. HH 9 months!

 

Goodness gracious, really? You are not going to miscarry because you eat a sandwich. I ate sandwiches through both of my pregnancies and guess what I have to healthy, happy children and god forbid but I didn't always warm it up. Sometimes I ate it right out of the package. You know what I think, I think freaking out about every single thing you eat or drink is a million times worse on you and baby than eating a piece of deli meat. Logic people. You don't want to go overboard on things but you don't have to completely cut things out.

 

I did not say that eating a sandwich would definitely cause a miscarraige.  I only said use common sense- the initial post sounded as though she was entirely carefree and hadn't a concern in the world for being even the least bit cautious.  I also ate sandwich meat and drank coffee for my first pregnancy...and my son turned out just fine.  I was however, mindful of the fact that I was pregnant and used common sense with the quantity that I consumed and I did warm up my sandwich meat.  Obviously not every women who eats sandwich meat during pregnancy is going to miscarry- but I can say that once you have had a miscarriage, you look at everything you did while you were pregnant and wonder if you had been slightly more cautious if your baby would have survived.  I wasn't trying to tell the OP to be a worry wart- only to not through all caution to the wind- because that is what I understood from her first post.  

Yes, but you can be carefree with common sense. I refuse to worry about every single little thing, it make for a much more enjoyable experience. I have not had to misfortune of having a miscarriage and I am so sorry that you have. I honestly could not imagine going through that, so I understand you are going to be a lot more cautious but don't be so cautious that you turn into a worry wart or judge what others do. Nothing makes me madder than someone telling a pregnant woman what they should not be doing, I am not refering to you. My SIL is also pregnant, she is 7 weeks farther along than me. She has people telling getting on her constantly because she is a FTM. They are telling her not to put salt on her food, not to drink caffeine and can't believe she is drinking tap water. Really. I just want to tell them to STFU and learn before you judge. Caffine and salt are fine, you just to limit th amount and tap water is not different than bottled water except bottled water is packed in plastic which has chemicals. It just gets on my nerves! They keep telling her all the horrible things she is doing and she is being an overly cautious FTM as it is and they are just trying to make her feel bad and guilty.

 

 :)  I think you misunderstood my advice to use common sense as advice to worry about everything.  Silly mistake.  Have a great day and please try not to worry about things especially if you are using common sense.   

Oh man these deli meat posts are fun. My last time around these boards there were some posters who couldn't handle the thought of giving up or heating up deli meat, but this time... I don't know.

Whether you think listeria is a non risk or not... deli meat is essentially junk food. There isn't much nutritional value and it's totally loaded with salt. Those reasons alone should be enough to limit it in your diet, pregnant or not.

Listeria in fruits and vegetables? Wash them. Practice safe food handling... clean your fridge, don't store your cantaloupe next to your raw chicken. You know, stuff you should probably do all of the time. Sure, no one's telling a pregnant woman not to eat spinach or cantaloupe... but I'm fairly certain the recommendation is to wash it before you consume it. That (and cooking the spinach) greatly decreases your risk of listeria and other food borne illnesses. 

I wasn't a huge worrier while pregnant with DD and was pretty relaxed as a FTM as well. Life's too short to worry about everything that could possibly happen.   

BelhurstBride:

Oh man these deli meat posts are fun. My last time around these boards there were some posters who couldn't handle the thought of giving up or heating up deli meat, but this time... I don't know.

Whether you think listeria is a non risk or not... deli meat is essentially junk food. There isn't much nutritional value and it's totally loaded with salt. Those reasons alone should be enough to limit it in your diet, pregnant or not.

Listeria in fruits and vegetables? Wash them. Practice safe food handling... clean your fridge, don't store your cantaloupe next to your raw chicken. You know, stuff you should probably do all of the time. Sure, no one's telling a pregnant woman not to eat spinach or cantaloupe... but I'm fairly certain the recommendation is to wash it before you consume it. That (and cooking the spinach) greatly decreases your risk of listeria and other food borne illnesses. 

I wasn't a huge worrier while pregnant with DD and was pretty relaxed as a FTM as well. Life's too short to worry about everything that could possibly happen.   

I'm on a mac so I can't get the icons to work but [Thumbs Up] :) 

BabyButler2010:

Melanieian:

BabyButler2010:

Melanieian:

BabyButler2010:

I wasn't worried during my first pregnancy but after having a miscarriage I am more timid this time around. I do think you should try not to confuse worry with common sense though. The daily soda/cup of coffee isn't really a big deal, but risking a ms for a sandwich I assume you were referring to deli meat isn't IMO worth it. You would feel differently I bet if something happened after eating the sandwich. I'm not trying to be snarky, so I hope you don't take it that way :. I hope you can continue to just roll with all the changes throughout your pregnancy.... I love being pregnant too! Anyway, try to be wise even if you aren't worrying :. I promise it is worth making small sacrifices like no deli meat or at least heating it up when you are holding that baby in your arms :. HH 9 months!

 

Goodness gracious, really? You are not going to miscarry because you eat a sandwich. I ate sandwiches through both of my pregnancies and guess what I have to healthy, happy children and god forbid but I didn't always warm it up. Sometimes I ate it right out of the package. You know what I think, I think freaking out about every single thing you eat or drink is a million times worse on you and baby than eating a piece of deli meat. Logic people. You don't want to go overboard on things but you don't have to completely cut things out.

 

I did not say that eating a sandwich would definitely cause a miscarraige.  I only said use common sense- the initial post sounded as though she was entirely carefree and hadn't a concern in the world for being even the least bit cautious.  I also ate sandwich meat and drank coffee for my first pregnancy...and my son turned out just fine.  I was however, mindful of the fact that I was pregnant and used common sense with the quantity that I consumed and I did warm up my sandwich meat.  Obviously not every women who eats sandwich meat during pregnancy is going to miscarry- but I can say that once you have had a miscarriage, you look at everything you did while you were pregnant and wonder if you had been slightly more cautious if your baby would have survived.  I wasn't trying to tell the OP to be a worry wart- only to not through all caution to the wind- because that is what I understood from her first post.  

Yes, but you can be carefree with common sense. I refuse to worry about every single little thing, it make for a much more enjoyable experience. I have not had to misfortune of having a miscarriage and I am so sorry that you have. I honestly could not imagine going through that, so I understand you are going to be a lot more cautious but don't be so cautious that you turn into a worry wart or judge what others do. Nothing makes me madder than someone telling a pregnant woman what they should not be doing, I am not refering to you. My SIL is also pregnant, she is 7 weeks farther along than me. She has people telling getting on her constantly because she is a FTM. They are telling her not to put salt on her food, not to drink caffeine and can't believe she is drinking tap water. Really. I just want to tell them to STFU and learn before you judge. Caffine and salt are fine, you just to limit th amount and tap water is not different than bottled water except bottled water is packed in plastic which has chemicals. It just gets on my nerves! They keep telling her all the horrible things she is doing and she is being an overly cautious FTM as it is and they are just trying to make her feel bad and guilty.

 

 :)  I think you misunderstood my advice to use common sense as advice to worry about everything.  Silly mistake.  Have a great day and please try not to worry about things especially if you are using common sense.   

Clearly you misunderstood me, I am not worrying. It is better to enjoy life then worry your way through it.

You are normal. It's the rest of us that are crazy. :) kidding! 

"I wouldn't take the risk" is one of the statements that makes me want to stab people on these boards.  1) usually the people who say it are basing their idea of the "risk" off of completely anecdotal evidence found on Dr. Google and 2) it's a really sanctimonious comment.

I'm not a worrier either. In general, I'm a laid back person and don't worry about much, so that's probably why I don't freak out while pregnant.

I think there are a lot of us nonworriers out there. It's just that the people who freak out over everything are much more vocal.

Rawr!

I wasn't worried with my first.

I'm not "carefree." I just see a lot of women freaking out over every little thing and I'm not. I realize that deli meat is junk food, basically. I eat maybe a sandwich a month, people. I'm not shoving ham in my piehole every day. JFC.

At least I'm not asking if I should be smoking pot or drinking while I'm pregnant.

And yeah, common sense isn't so common anymore.