Well I also don't know what 3T means either I guess. I assume it means Trouble TTC, and if I have offended you for posting there then I am sorry. Yes I have been actively TTC for 10 months, but have been off the pill for over a year. To me, it isn't like I have just started trying, I am dealing with emotions that I thought I could get support from in a group like that, I have started the RE process (which they ushered me right in there to get testing done, I am sure they want their $$$ but wasn't like they looked at me like I had 5 heads when I made the appointment or went in for the consult/testing). I was just looking for a place to go since people in my life don't seem to understand. Maybe this forum thing isn't for me afterall, just was looking for input/advice on questions I have on RE/experiences of others that relate to things I am starting thats all.
I don't see anyone being rude to you on this post. Maybe it's just because I am sick today, but I an so confused on how you suddenly switched to thinking people have been mean to you, they were just letting you know that this is, in fact, the proper board to post to.
Also, when coming off the pill it can take one month to six months for your body to regulate. If we say that your body regulated somewhere in the middle of that (which we don't know either way because it doesn't look like you are charting), then if you went off the pill 2 months before ttc, then your cycles wouldn't be regulated until 1 month of TTC, which really makes 9 months of ttc without crazy hormone fluctuations.
Either way, it is all speculation if you haven't been charting. You may have been missing your FW all these months. Either way, it hasn't been a year, so you aren't a TTTC canidate yet.
ETA: Other PP have given you great advice on your original issue. Let them know you can't make it but bring/send them a gift anyway.