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01-17-2013 at 10:47 AM
Regne
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sleep deprivation vent

DD is still very little, not quite 3 weeks...so I realize this is likely "normal" and will "get better soon" but DD will NOT go to sleep at night. We have a PnP for her in our room and she refuses to sleep in it 85% of the time. I spend a lot of the night holding her. Last night she fussed and cried through a lot of the night too, even though I changed her, fed her, swaddled her, offered the pacifier, gave her some gas drops, etc.  It is such a hopeless feeling when 3am rolls around and you have a screaming, wide-awake newborn in your hands... she did fall asleep finally around 6am after I fed her and DH left for work. She slept until 9:50 which felt miraculous. I am so tired and I can't even think straight and I never feel like I will sleep at night again.  I feel like a routine will never be established. I know I'm hoping for too much too soon...but these have been a loooong three weeks!

Just wanted to vent, thanks for listening!


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01-17-2013 at 10:54 AM
kbruington
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Ahhh, I remember these days! I lurk on the 0-3 month board just to take a trip down memory lane!

In all seriousness though, my LO refused to sleep in the bassinet for the first few weeks so he slept on me a LOT. If I wanted some rest myself, I would swaddle him and lay him on a Boppy Newborn Lounger (like the nursing pillow but no hole in the middle) on the end of our bed and try to sleep for an hour or so until he woke up again. At about 2 months old, I started putting him on his Newborn Lounger then carrying it into his room and putting it in his crib with him asleep on it. But yes, he was awake in the middle of the night while my husband slept soundly and I just had to deal with it.

You kind of just do whatever you have to do at that to get them to sleep, no matter how crazy it seems! Also, try not to think about "schedules" right now because you will drive yourself crazy. It will come, but it takes time. I did the same thing so I can relate, but I was a basket case that was exhausted.

Try swaddling if you aren't already, white noise, dark room and the 5 S's. If you haven't yet, watch the DVD or read "Happiest Baby on the Block". It works for newborns!


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01-17-2013 at 11:16 AM
shibby00
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Remember that she spent 9 months snuggled up tight with you, so it's no surprise she can't sleep without you. I highly recommend the Happiest Baby on the Block to replicate the womb environment. My DD needed all 5 S's at once to settle. I promise I gets better, before long these sleepless days will be a thing of the past. I promise. 

 
01-17-2013 at 11:33 AM
zeinas
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I found that the "mattress" in the bassinet in the pack and play is so thin and bony it's not comfy! Try layering a thick blanket and put a thin sheet on it and see if that will help. I did that and it helped my LO sleep in it. Just remember if you put her in the swing, bouncer, etc they are all padded. It could be a reason.
 
01-17-2013 at 4:05 PM
JJsMum
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I've been lurking here waiting for #2 to get here.  I had the exact same issue with DS#1.  What worked for us was to put him in the rock and play. Turns out, he didn't like laying flat.  Kind of makes sense when you think about their positioning in the womb.  If you don't have the rock and play, try the swing, bouncer, even the carseat and see if that works.  Eventually we propped up one end of his crib mattress (around 10weeks) and he slept wonderfully in his crib until we could lower it again.

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01-17-2013 at 5:02 PM
CottonGirl
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Our LO slept in his rock n play for about his first 8 weeks.  He loved it.  I think he felt cozy and secure.  You should definitely try it.  
 
01-17-2013 at 5:31 PM
KatieKate8...
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I remember being in your place, and boy is it exhausting. My LO has been much better at night lately (allowing me to sleep from like 10-4), and it had felt like I hit the jackpot, the last 10 days I've felt like a different person. I promise it does get better! You will sleep again. Well last night she decided to be up again all the time, so I have that drained feeling all over again.

As others have said, at this age, you do whatever you can to get them to sleep, so you can sleep. We were lucky enough ours loved swaddling, and the Rock n Play worked wonders for making her feel cozy. 


 
01-17-2013 at 7:19 PM
ahollo02
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DD will only sleep in a rock n play! Worth a shot!


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