My body couldn't take any more and I completely lost it emotionally. Hubby felt awful because this has never happened before but I assume maybe just too much BD or too much stress at work. .
It sounds like you are really putting a lot pressure onto both you and your husband.
There is a difference between being aware of your cycle in order to use that to your advantage and being so terrified of not having the perfect timing or chart that you have an emotional breakdown.
If this isn't your month use this to reevaluate what TTC does to your lives and how you can find that balance of good chances and good emotional health.
Good luck OP.