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01-17-2013 at 12:19 PM
mosier92
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Venting :/

The baby has been doing great so far(: but my husband is joining the Army, which I am proud of him for doing what he has been wanting to do. But he leaves in April for 3 months and then comes back only for two days then goes to VA for 15 weeks... which means he'll miss the birth of our first child... I guess I am okay with it ha. I didnt want ANYONE else at the hospital when I give birth for at least a day so we could bond with our baby without the crazyness.... I want my mom to be there but she likes to take over and take control. I feel lost knowing my husband can't be there, it scares me but I am hoping I can do the job right....

 
01-17-2013 at 12:26 PM
mabenner1
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If he tells his CO, he should be able to take leave.

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01-17-2013 at 1:10 PM
AFwifelife
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I'm not sure if they are allowed to take leave during tech school.  

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01-17-2013 at 1:16 PM
mosier92
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They don't allow leave during AIT.
 
01-17-2013 at 1:48 PM
leahaustin
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My DH is not in the Army but I just wanted to say sorry. That must be difficult knowing your DH will be away while you are giving birth. I am sure your family will be by your side to support you though! Good luck!

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01-17-2013 at 1:54 PM
mosier92
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leahaustin:
My DH is not in the Army but I just wanted to say sorry. That must be difficult knowing your DH will be away while you are giving birth. I am sure your family will be by your side to support you though! Good luck!

Thank you(:

 
01-17-2013 at 2:16 PM
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I know there isn't much to say but although the military is unfair at times it is so very rewarding.  I'm sure your family will be able to help you through the tough times when YH is gone.  I think the best part of being a military wife is all the "first kisses" you will experience.  Every time he comes home you will be giddy and nervous like you are on a first date and it makes the time apart so worth it! Good luck!

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01-17-2013 at 4:57 PM
kalemi
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I highly doubt they'll allow him to take leave. My husband had 3 family members pass away within the same week and they let him come home for 2 days for the funerals only because they were worried about his mental health. They wouldn't have let him come home during AIT if it hadn't been for that 3rd passing.

They may let him call or skype during labor. It will just depend on a number of factors. Some soldiers end up getting to skype for the entire birth, where as others may only get one phone call. Whatever happens, just remember he can't do whatever he wants.

Depending on the phase he's at during AIT, he may be allowed to have his own laptop/cellphone after they're done for the day and before bed. During the 2nd phase they get a little more freedom. He's not guaranteed anything though even if he phases. If a soldier fails a test they can be pushed back to phase one and lose any privileges that may have been given. That may be some motivation to work extra hard and pass everything thrown at him. Good luck 

 
01-18-2013 at 2:06 PM
alandals
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In regard to who to have at the hospital, you shouldn't allow anyone there that you fear might stress you out. It sounds like your mom might be a person like that. Look into hiring a doula. Some doulas in my area offer a discount if your spouse is away for the military.

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