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01-17-2013 at 12:55 PM
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Housewarming and Baby Shower too close together?

Hello,

It is looking like we will be moving into a new house by the end of February.  We recently relocated back to our hometown and have a lot of friends who have been anxious for us to have a housewarming party when we got a new house.  We had originally thought it would have happened in November or December but obviously that wasn't the case ...  We have been staying with my parents for about 6-8 months while we have been house hunting.

We also are expecting our first child May 23rd and I have both a friend and a family member who are wanting to throw me showers in late March or April.  (The showers are for two totally different groups of people)

Obviously the shower and housewarming are two very different celebrations and we would be hosting the housewarming party at the new house where the shower would not be hosted by us or at our house but with the timelines as close as they are I wanted some thoughts.

If we do a housewarming it would be in March and we would not be asking for gifts but I know when I go to a housewarming party I bring a gift regardless even if it is something small.  Also not everyone who would be invited to the housewarming party will be invited to the baby shower so the question is really just about those who would be invited to both.

How would you feel if you were invited to a housewarming party and then a baby shower for the same couple within 2 months?

Thank you in advance for your feedback and suggestions!!  :)
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01-17-2013 at 1:11 PM
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I never understood the appeal of a housewarming party, TBH.
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01-17-2013 at 1:15 PM
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Why not just have some friends over for pizza?  Does it have to be a "housewarming party"?  The party implies a gift (IMO) but just saying "Hey when are you free to come over for pizza and drinks?" is just hanging out with friends and showing them the new digs.

 
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01-17-2013 at 1:19 PM
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Just have a party. Don't call it a housewarming 
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01-17-2013 at 1:28 PM
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I would just have a party or bbq.
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01-17-2013 at 2:02 PM
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Agree with PPs. I've never been invited to a housewarming party, at least that's not what they called it. It's always "Hey, we're having a BBQ. Come see the new house!" The only "gift" I'd bring is alcohol or food. I'd feel pressured to buy an actual gift if they called it a housewarming party, and I'd have no idea what to bring. 

But no, I wouldn't side eye you for inviting me over for a BBQ or something, and then a month later sending me a shower invite. Two separate things.
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Estwd2:

Agree with PPs. I've never been invited to a housewarming party, at least that's not what they called it. It's always "Hey, we're having a BBQ. Come see the new house!" The only "gift" I'd bring is alcohol or food. I'd feel pressured to buy an actual gift if they called it a housewarming party, and I'd have no idea what to bring. 

But no, I wouldn't side eye you for inviting me over for a BBQ or something, and then a month later sending me a shower invite. Two separate things.

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01-17-2013 at 2:45 PM
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we did a BBQ the summer after we moved into our house. It was fun.

Plan a party that you would like to host (Superbowl, 4th of July, holiday, new years, etc.)
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01-17-2013 at 2:58 PM
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we did a BBQ the summer after we moved into our house. It was fun.

Plan a party that you would like to host (Superbowl, 4th of July, holiday, new years, etc.)

All of this. Have a party at your new house. Don't call it a housewarming, necessarily. Just... have people over. If they want to bring you a gift, great. If not, great. You'll still get to show them the house and hang out.

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I'm sorry, I can't stop giggling at your SN to even answer this.  

 
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01-17-2013 at 3:05 PM
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Bliss+Berry:

I'm sorry, I can't stop giggling at your SN to even answer this.  

 

Oh man. I didn't even pay attention. Good catch, Bliss! 

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I'm sorry, I can't stop giggling at your SN to even answer this.  

 

Oh man. I didn't even pay attention. Good catch, Bliss! 

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01-17-2013 at 3:11 PM
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I'm sorry, I can't stop giggling at your SN to even answer this.  

 

Oh man. I didn't even pay attention. Good catch, Bliss! 

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Nice! I'd show mine but they're attached to a pump at the moment. 

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01-17-2013 at 3:22 PM
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Have a party - dont call it housewarming and dont expect gifts for it.

invitations to 2 different types of parties one of which you are hosting and one of which you are not - - totally not related... people will probably just think you really like them.
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I agree with PPs to have a more casual pizza or BBQ get together instead of a formal housewarming.  You could also ask your shower hosts if they would like to hold the shower at your house.  It would give people a chance to check out your new place and might be easier on you not having to travel. 
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01-17-2013 at 8:38 PM
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Thanks for the feedback!! While its too cold for a BBQ we were thinking something just as casual anyway. I guess all the "housewarming" parties I have been to have been the casual get together style.

PS when my husband and I were dating and engaged our friends referred to us as ShepTitty as a kind of merging of our last names ... hence the screen name carried over from the knot
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01-17-2013 at 10:48 PM
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I would just do a BBQ or party at the new house but not officially announce it as a housewarming party.
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01-18-2013 at 8:32 AM
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I've experienced this and had no problem going to both. Firstly, my friends and I tend to get together fairly often anyway. Also, these are very different parties and I can't imagine that the two months would be too much a strain. The housewarming is a casual open-house type get together wherein people bring a bottle of wine or something of the like if they feel inclined. The baby shower is a very different celebratory vibe. If your guests are concerned about the cost I would say it's up to them to control their own spending. A package of diapers or some onesies are always an appreciated gift that aren't too costly. Not everyone needs to buy the crib.
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01-18-2013 at 9:14 AM
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sheptitty:
Thanks for the feedback!! While its too cold for a BBQ we were thinking something just as casual anyway. I guess all the "housewarming" parties I have been to have been the casual get together style. PS when my husband and I were dating and engaged our friends referred to us as ShepTitty as a kind of merging of our last names ... hence the screen name carried over from the knot

LOL - funny.

There is some great advice in this thread.

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01-19-2013 at 3:49 AM
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I don't see a problem with it.  You host your housewarming party and let the hostesses host the baby showers.  They are completely two separate things.  Plus, a LOT of people do not bring a gift to a housewarming (you are kind of the exception).

We moved into our new home in April.  Had a Housewarming Party/BBQ in June and my baby showers were in October.  Out of about 100+ people at our BBQ I'd say we got about 10 (maybe less) housewarming gifts. 

 
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