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01-17-2013 at 7:46 PM
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If siblings with same letter name is not your style...

yet you found yourself falling in love with a name that did start with that same letter, would you use it anyway?

I know some people don't mind sibsets with same initials, and it's not like I hate it on other people, it's just not my style and something that made me not even put certain names on my list. But now I'm wondering if I'm limiting myself with this rule.  

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01-17-2013 at 7:49 PM
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I think it's a cute idea but in practice I think it could be confusing. But then again I put initials on all of Liams stuff for school so that is probably where I'm coming from on this thought.


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01-17-2013 at 7:50 PM
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Hmmm.  Good question : ).  Personally, I just don't think I could do it.  My DH was wanting to name DS3 Nicholas for awhile, or Nathaniel, but I just couldn't do it with already having a Noah at home.


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01-17-2013 at 7:53 PM
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I have long loved the name Fiona, but DH didn't want to use it because of an ex. When DS2 was a boy and DH wanted to name him Francis, I agreed, but knew that doing so would mean I was saying goodbye to Fiona forever.

I like Timothy too, but don't have it on our list because we already have a T name. But we like lots of names so I don't really think of it as limiting ourselves in such a way that we'll run out of options.


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01-17-2013 at 8:08 PM
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My brother and I have the same first initial.  My parents didn't do it on purpose.  According to his baby book they had three name pairs picked for him when they went to the hospital, and they chose after he was born.  So he had a 2/3 chance of not sharing my initial I guess.

If you really like the name and it doesn't sound ridiculous (like totally different styles or something) with your older child's name I don't think this should matter.

How often are you really going to say everybody's name together?  Many parents I know just say "the kids" rather than naming them all in conversation. (ie "We're taking the kids to the park later" not "We're taking Adam and Andrea to the park later").  I'm not saying you never say them all together, but... pronouns.

ETA I only remember one time (in our entire lives) when having our initials on something would have been confusing - the neighborhood swim team got bags that had everybody's first initial and last name on them.  My parents got my first initial and last name on mine, and my brother's first name and last initial on his.  He liked it.  His was the only one like that on the whole team.  In retrospect they could have just paid for the extra letter and used our first and middle initials with the last name - our middle names start with different letters.

 
01-17-2013 at 8:09 PM
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I know what you mean - I didn't really want this to happen either, but two of our top choices at this point start with a J (as do DS and DH - I would be the odd one out), or a T (which is my first initial - so we'd be DS and DH with a J, and DD and myself with a T - cheesy!).  

I think I like the names enough, though, to overlook it and explain it as a coincidence if anyone were to ever ask. 


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01-17-2013 at 8:20 PM
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I wouldn't limit myself for a second child, but I would for a third (if the other two followed a certain letter trend)

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01-17-2013 at 8:25 PM
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DaisyBlinks:
I wouldn't limit myself for a second child, but I would for a third (if the other two followed a certain letter trend)

Exactly this! 

 
01-17-2013 at 8:48 PM
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I don't think there's anything horrible about same letter initials, but I personally steered away from it. My first son is a C and second is an L - I did briefly consider Caleb if this one had been a boy, but decided against it for several reasons, but one of those was that it was the same letter. 

A little perk is that it makes it easy for labeling things like coats and backpacks (little DS likes to have the same type that older DS has, so we have a lot of doubles). 


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01-17-2013 at 8:53 PM
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DaisyBlinks:
I wouldn't limit myself for a second child, but I would for a third (if the other two followed a certain letter trend)

Yes, this for me too.  

01-17-2013 at 9:19 PM
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Using an initial twice is out of the question for me. I like for each of us to have our own initial (including DH and I). Sure, it is limiting, but it is so nice to just write a letter on something and know who it belongs to. 

I totally don't care if other people do it though. DH shares an initial with his sister and it was never an issue.  


 
01-17-2013 at 9:19 PM
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No. I won't even consider A names. 

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01-17-2013 at 9:27 PM
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I wouldn't go out of my way to choose names with the same first letter, but if my favorite names happened to start with the same first letter, I don't think it would stop me from using it. As long as the names aren't too similar I think it'd be fine.

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01-17-2013 at 9:28 PM
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I wouldn't deliberately use the same first initial for both/all our kids, and since DH and I both have J names I wanted to avoid doing the same for our first child at least, but if I liked a name that started with the first letter of one of our children's names I wouldn't let that be a dealbreaker.

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01-17-2013 at 9:56 PM
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My sister and I have the same initial. My brother has a different initial. My mom still confuses all three names when she goes to yell for one of us.

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01-17-2013 at 10:11 PM
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We ended up with two C names - not intentionally, just loved these two names the most. I think I'd avoid a C name going forward though to avoid it seeming cutesy/theme.

 H and I both share a first initial with a Sib and it never seemed strange. 



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01-17-2013 at 10:16 PM
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JaynieByrd:
I wouldn't go out of my way to choose names with the same first letter, but if my favorite names happened to start with the same first letter, I don't think it would stop me from using it. As long as the names aren't too similar I think it'd be fine.

This exactly.  I will purposely try to stay away from E names, but if I love another E name, I would use it.


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01-18-2013 at 4:40 AM
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It's not something I'd do on purpose.  But if we can only agree on another J name for the next LO, that's fine too.

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01-18-2013 at 8:44 AM
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Its not something I'd do on purpose like a PP said, but I wouldn't rule out a name we loved because of it...probably because we agree on so few names.  Now if you plan on having a few more kids...I don't know more than 2 kids with the same first letter in a family seems purposeful.

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01-18-2013 at 8:44 AM
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No. I really, really dislike it. I was hesitant to use Thomas because my husband's name starts with a T as well. 

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01-18-2013 at 10:35 AM
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It's funny, same letter names are not my style, and yet I have two Cs, and would consider a third (although really hoping to not go that route).  It was most important to me that I LOVED what I was naming my kids, and then everything else was secondary.  DS is named after FIL, so there wasn't a whole lot of negotiation there.  And DH and I just adore DD's name, and couldn't come up with anything else we liked as much.  At the end of the day, for some reason we're really drawn to C names!

I also don't even bat an eye when I hear of other people with three children with the same first letter names, but when I'm talking/thinking about my own kids, it feels funny in my mouth to say it.  For me personally, I dislike rhyming/themey sounding names and alliteration names (first and last initial the same) much more than same letter names.

I think the Duggars really have done a disservice to this trend/theme.  




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01-18-2013 at 10:44 AM
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I have a Miles. The one girl's name DH and I agree on is Margot. I used to have the rule "no siblings with same initial" but not now. It's not on purpose, but if we have a girl it will be two M names for us. Different story if we have two boys.
 
01-18-2013 at 2:01 PM
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CutieBean79:
No. I won't even consider A names. 

I'm the same way.  And I like a lot of names that start with the same letter as my son.  I think most people tend to like the sound the initial letter gives, which is why they like the name in the first place.  So it's not surprising that someone would like other names starting with the same letter.


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01-18-2013 at 3:30 PM
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I probably would use the name. I think we would try really hard to find a different name though. We would definitely not use the exact same initials though (like we will not have anymore JSLs).

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01-18-2013 at 5:30 PM
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I never intended on having DDs with the same first initial let alone the same first 3 letters MAR. However, that's what happened.

For DD1 I really wanted to name her after my grandmas Mary Adeline. She answers to the nn Addie.

After she was born FIL mentioned that since both of DH's grandmothers have the first name Martha we could hit two birds with one stone. We loved the idea and toyed with using Martha as the mn. I went through every variation on Rose [my godmother and aunt from whom DD2 gets her mn] but in the end we preferred the simple Rose. We even tried to switch the names and use Rose Martha to eliminate the initial issue. Again we just liked the flow of Martha Rose better.

Since DD1 goes by Addie, it's not that much of an issue. We had originally planned on calling DD2 Rose, but she truly is a Martha Rose and we call her by both names. It wasn't something we wanted, but it works for our family.

Just thought I'd give an example from the other side of the coin.

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01-18-2013 at 7:21 PM
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If you like the name, I see nothing wrong with it! 

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01-18-2013 at 11:47 PM
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I only think it's a problem when you have 3+ kids with the same initial, then it's too cutesy/cheesy. I assume with only 2 kids it's a fluke. I wouldn't limit based on initial with 2 kids.

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01-19-2013 at 3:18 AM
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I'm not sure if I could follow through with it but my personal rule is two children with the same letter is fine more than that is annoying.
 
01-19-2013 at 6:39 AM
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I don't see the problem with names starting with the same letter if it's just because they are names the parents like. Now if someone was like, "I want to use the same letter for all four or five of my kids, just like the Kardashians," I would throw up a little in my mouth.
 
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