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01-21-2013 at 8:30 PM
everchangi...
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Does anyone else agree? Or am I just crazy?

I believe there is enough awareness in the world that people shouldn't be so confused, but...you're finding out the baby's SEX, not gender. There is a difference. 

It annoys me every time I hear "what gender are you hoping for?" ...actually, even the question "do you want a boy or girl?" kills me. I don't care. I want whatever it is, and I will love it unquestionably no matter what.

It annoys me more when I hear doctors or midwives say "gender." Like, you're already referring to the ANATOMY scan, so call it by the anatomical name.

Am I just being ridiculous, a.k.a. hormonal, or is this a legitimate annoyance? 



 
01-21-2013 at 8:34 PM
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Yeah. I think you're being a little sensitive. Sorry. 
 
01-21-2013 at 8:34 PM
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It was a big thing when I was in 2nd tri about people correcting the difference between "sex" and "gender."

It annoys me too, but I'm not losing sleep over it.

FWIW, it makes my skin crawl to see/hear someone say, "prego", "preggers", "pregs" or any other variation of "pregnant." I'd rather hear the incorrect use of gender/sex than that. 


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01-21-2013 at 8:35 PM
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I absolutely know and understand the difference between sex and gender. That said, it doesn't bother me when people use them interchangeably.

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01-21-2013 at 8:36 PM
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Every time I say the gender my boyfriend gets so annoyed and corrects me. But I just like that word better, the sex sounds too scientific.



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01-21-2013 at 8:37 PM
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dande2129:

It was a big thing when I was in 2nd tri about people correcting the difference between "sex" and "gender."

It annoys me too, but I'm not losing sleep over it.

FWIW, it makes my skin crawl to see/hear someone say, "prego", "preggers", "pregs" or any other variation of "pregnant." I'd rather hear the incorrect use of gender/sex than that. 

 

OH GOD. I hate when people call me preggers. 


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01-21-2013 at 8:38 PM
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I don't get the annoyance, but I guess we all have our things that drive us crazy.


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01-21-2013 at 8:41 PM
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Jasmineeelizabeth:
dande2129:

It was a big thing when I was in 2nd tri about people correcting the difference between "sex" and "gender."

It annoys me too, but I'm not losing sleep over it.

FWIW, it makes my skin crawl to see/hear someone say, "prego", "preggers", "pregs" or any other variation of "pregnant." I'd rather hear the incorrect use of gender/sex than that. 

 

OH GOD. I hate when people call me preggers. 

It never bothered me until I got on here and people pointed it out.

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01-21-2013 at 8:51 PM
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It's one of those things where if you know the difference, great; if not, no big deal. I didn't know there was a difference until someone told me in high school. So it doesn't bother me. I'd much rather have that than a post written in Teen Girl Text Message language. m i rite??

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01-21-2013 at 8:51 PM
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I know the difference but think this whole topic is waaay blown up on TB.
01-21-2013 at 8:58 PM
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luvmyducks:
I know the difference but think this whole topic is waaay blown up on TB.

Well, I've still got Newb posted by my name :/

I guess it's just my version of others "preggers, prego, preggies, etc."

But seriously, I don't understand why doctors even refer to it as gender when it is sex, the 'scientific' sounding name as a PP said lol.

 



 
01-21-2013 at 9:00 PM
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I know the difference and use it correctly, but it doesn't bother me when other people use them interchangeably.  Really, most people don't know.  I didn't know there was a difference until I took a sociology class in college, and even so, I never heard anyone be picky about it until the Bump.

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luvmyducks:
I know the difference but think this whole topic is waaay blown up on TB.

 Yes

 


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01-21-2013 at 9:11 PM
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I think most everyone knows the difference, but I think it is ridiculous how "hot topic" people get about it, especially here on TB. It's one of those things that I just shake my head at and say, "You really had to go out of your way to make sure you are right and that everyone knows it....". 

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01-21-2013 at 9:20 PM
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Does it matter?  You know the difference, so you know what the person means when they incorrectly use gender.  You're that much better than they are.  Go you. 


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01-21-2013 at 9:26 PM
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What annoys me is when people try to guess what you are having (especially as early as I am at 18w) and they are SO certain they are right.

"I'm NEVER wrong"

"Oh, I just know"

And then referring to baby as him or her and even giving him or her a name. I find that people think you are having what they want! Selfish? I have finally resolved to telling these people to stop guessing and just hope for a healthy babe.  


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01-21-2013 at 10:08 PM
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luvmyducks:
I know the difference but think this whole topic is waaay blown up on TB.

Thats for sure!


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01-21-2013 at 10:17 PM
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luvmyducks:
I know the difference but think this whole topic is waaay blown up on TB.

Thats for sure!

Indeed. I don't care either way. I know what they mean.


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01-21-2013 at 10:40 PM
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Cool, you all are on here enough that you know it's a "hot topic." If I'd seen it brought up, I'd have left it alone. I wanted to know what others' views were and if it was even a topic. So, "go me!" for contributing to a board. Yay. 


 
01-21-2013 at 11:11 PM
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It annoys me to hear someone call a fetus an "it" not loosing sleep over gender or sex.
 
01-22-2013 at 12:21 AM
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I didn't learn about the difference until I took Human Relations classes during my second year of college. With stuff like that I try to make sure I'm saying the right thing but I also try to have grace for others who haven't necessarily had the same training/education that I've had. 

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01-22-2013 at 12:22 AM
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It does not bother me at all. I don't even think about it. That is how people talk and refer to the sex of the baby a lot of the time; everyone knows this. So those that feel the need to correct others and explain how bad it annoys them, well to them I say good luck because you will be annoyed a lot and have many people to correct. And there's a good chance the person they're correcting already knows the technical difference but maybe they don't want to say hey we're having a sex party. Gender sounds better.

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01-22-2013 at 12:54 AM
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you're being ridiculous. 

people misuse healthy for healthful all the time too.

pick your battles.


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01-22-2013 at 2:40 AM
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You know very well that someone else agrees with you. If you need to vent, call it a vent. 

Yes, I think you are being ridiculous, although I don't know whether to chalk it up to hormones or not.

I *do* understand the difference that many people believe exists between gender and sex. I am aware of the politics involved and how people are really worried about offending the very small percentage of people out there who identify themselves as transsexuals, but it's not just informed by LGBT politics, but also feminism. Feminists - or at least the more extreme ones - believe there is no difference between the *genders* at all, and that every difference that we see is socially ingrained. I once believed in that myself in my naive youth. It's also a grave mistake to assume that such a difference - if one exists - isn't socially, culturally, or biologically important. They have always been important and they always will be - in almost every culture, esp. advanced ones - that have ever existed. There's a reason why we'll never have a completely androgynous society. In modern times, victim politics has gotten out of hand. No one wants to feel like they are marginalizing anyone - so they start pushing for changes in how words are defined and everyone starts to say things that are a little bit nutty.

It's not wrong to treat gender as a synonym of sex, because it's *common usage*. Common Usage is not wrong. It's how language works. Words have meanings because *people give them meanings*. Words can also have a variety of meanings - or do you not know that? 

The only people who get upset about it are those who are usually politically motivated to push a certain agenda on the public at large. Again, this is for fear of offending somebody. And if you're going to tell me that the distinction between *gender* and *sex* is not made and insisted upon because of politics (instead of serious research and study), well, that's just laughable. 

 In common usage, there is no difference between gender and sex. It's what most of us have learned growing up, and it's only after going to university and being exposed to gender politics, that people start to feel guilty about it. I have no shame in using common usage, and I won't be bullied or guilted into changing the way I speak (or write).

I have the utmost compassion and respect for everyone - including LGBT people - but I have zero toleration for those who try and tell me how to think, speak, or act.  

 
01-22-2013 at 5:08 AM
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It's not something I could muster up the energy or inclination to get annoyed about but each to their own.
I use both quite happily.

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01-22-2013 at 5:18 AM
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dande2129:

FWIW, it makes my skin crawl to see/hear someone say, "prego", "preggers", "pregs" or any other variation of "pregnant." I'd rather hear the incorrect use of gender/sex than that. 

LOL! Exactly this! 


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01-22-2013 at 6:32 AM
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ChristyD6:
I absolutely know and understand the difference between sex and gender. That said, it doesn't bother me when people use them interchangeably.
This.

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01-22-2013 at 7:16 AM
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ChristyD6:
I absolutely know and understand the difference between sex and gender. That said, it doesn't bother me when people use them interchangeably.

Ditto this. Doesn't bother me. 


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01-22-2013 at 7:22 AM
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Yeah I think you might be overthinking it a bit... when someone says gender, you know what they're talking about, and they probably just think it's a "nicer" way to say sex. I honestly didn't think about the difference until I started seeing women on this board comment on people's use of the words.

 
01-22-2013 at 8:12 AM
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I'm offended by all misuse of language. However, if I spent my time actually getting upset about it I wouldn't be able to do anything else with my life. 

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