FEBRUARY (to my DH) is the month that he thinks we are officially TTC. However we both know that we were hoping for BFP every month!
By this I hope you mean you were both on board with not TTA, but your DH and you had agreed to really ramp up TTC in February? To me, your wording makes it sound like you are TTC and your DH isn't wanting to start until February. Just saying that to me this statement sounds bad.
Anyway, I think you will always recieve a variety of answers because everyone feels differently. To me TTC always starts when you have unprotected sex, whether you are charting or not.