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01-22-2013 at 2:17 PM
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Need some advice/Two offers/Hosts not friends

So early on, a friend offered to host my shower, we do have a lot of mutual friends, she also mentioned to make into a couple's shower, since a lot of our mutual friends are single guys who are my husband's best friends and have been asking if they would be invited to the shower or not.

I only had one minor concern and it was, I met this friend long time ago thru a relative, they have lost the friendship and have cut each other out of their lives, and so some of the ladies I have to invite took my relative's side, so I had a dilemma how to handle the guest list, etc.

Today I got an offer from the relative that she wants to host a shower. So here are my questions:

1) Is it too bad to have two showers? This would make my life so much simpler, I can have two smaller showers, one would be younger friends, the other one would be relatives and family friends.

2) Do I have to explain to either hosts, the situation that I would be having two showers, one would be friends and one would be relatives and who the hosts are?

 

 
 
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01-22-2013 at 2:20 PM
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It's fine to have 2 showers.  Give each their respective guest lists.  If they happen to say "What about ___?", you just say "Oh- ___ is throwing a shower for me too and I thought having a friends shower and a family shower made sense".   Period.

This doesn't have to be any  more drama laden than you make it. 

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01-22-2013 at 2:24 PM
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EastCoastBride:

It's fine to have 2 showers.  Give each their respective guest lists.  If they happen to say "What about ___?", you just say "Oh- ___ is throwing a shower for me too and I thought having a friends shower and a family shower made sense".   Period.

This doesn't have to be any  more drama laden than you make it. 

All of this. You can have as many showers as you have offers. Just don't invite anyone (except MAYBE your mom and MIL) to more than one.

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01-22-2013 at 2:25 PM
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EastCoastBride:

It's fine to have 2 showers.  Give each their respective guest lists.  If they happen to say "What about ___?", you just say "Oh- ___ is throwing a shower for me too and I thought having a friends shower and a family shower made sense".   Period.

This doesn't have to be any  more drama laden than you make it. 

 

Thanks. That is great wording. I just didn't want to hurt the feeling of either hosts. They are both being very sweet and generous to offer to host, knowing I don't have any close relatives in town. And I am all about avoiding drama.

 

  
 
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EastCoastBride:

It's fine to have 2 showers.  Give each their respective guest lists.  If they happen to say "What about ___?", you just say "Oh- ___ is throwing a shower for me too and I thought having a friends shower and a family shower made sense".   Period.

This doesn't have to be any  more drama laden than you make it. 

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EastCoastBride:

It's fine to have 2 showers.  Give each their respective guest lists.  If they happen to say "What about ___?", you just say "Oh- ___ is throwing a shower for me too and I thought having a friends shower and a family shower made sense".   Period.

This doesn't have to be any  more drama laden than you make it. 

I agree with this- the only thing I would add is maybe not telling each host who your other host is if they already have drama.  I wouldn't want it to turn into something with "sides."  Just say someone else is throwing a friend/family shower. 
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01-22-2013 at 4:56 PM
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EastCoastBride:

It's fine to have 2 showers.  Give each their respective guest lists.  If they happen to say "What about ___?", you just say "Oh- ___ is throwing a shower for me too and I thought having a friends shower and a family shower made sense".   Period.

This doesn't have to be any  more drama laden than you make it. 

I agree with this- the only thing I would add is maybe not telling each host who your other host is if they already have drama.  I wouldn't want it to turn into something with "sides."  Just say someone else is throwing a friend/family shower. 

Great suggestion!!
 
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