I don't really have any advice except to say that I 100% understand where you are at right now. It's so frustrating! My OB will let me to go 42 weeks, but that's this Sunday so I fully expect at my visit tomorrow that we will schedule a c-section for Monday morning. It sucks too because I'm a *perfect* VBAC candidate except the fact that my kid won't show up! So incredibly frustrating! I am definitely already depressed over the fact that I may end up with another c/s despite everything and that I waited an extra 3 weeks to have it if that's what ends up happening. I just want to cry thinking about it.
The only upside that I can give you is that at least you are a cm dilated! I haven't been that until Monday (2 days ago) when I was 41 weeks 1 day. It is so incredibly frustrating, but hopefully since you've already started to dilate it means progress!
I understand on the husband front as well. I finally had to sort of flip out on DH the other night about the fact that we weren't having sex. I was sobbing telling him all the things I've tried to send myself into labor (trust me-I've tried almost everything!) and that there is only 1 thing that he can do to help so he freaking needs to do it! But we have the same schedule/libido problems as you. This freak out came the night after I told he we should have sex and he told me "ok-mount me" and when I didn't he fell asleep. I'll be dammed if I'm doing all the work there buddy!
Anyway, like I said I don't have any advice, but I do really truly understand where you are at and it freaking sucks. Here's hoping we both deliver this weekend! *hugs!*