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01-23-2013 at 3:23 PM
Shantxtell
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Registry information

Is it considered tacky to have registry info on baby shower invitations?
I thought it was normal but have heard it to be considered tacky.
I would hate for my host to be having people call her up just to ask this.

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01-23-2013 at 3:25 PM
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They are supposed to call your host for an RSVP. Its considered polite when you RSVP to ask for where the MTB is registered. Word of mouth is expected.

I have always read/heard that putting registry in your invitation looks gift grabby and is not recommended.


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01-23-2013 at 3:31 PM
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Meh- I don't think it's the end of the world to include this information on wedding shower or baby shower invites since the purpose of these events is to shower the guest of honor with gifts.  For weddings, birthday parties, etc., definitely tacky to include it on the invitation.

I think registries look gift-grabby when they're sent out unsolicited (i.e. facebook) or for a non-gift giving event. 


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01-23-2013 at 3:35 PM
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I think it is perfectly fine to put the registry information on the shower invite.  It's a shower, people bring gifts.  I know with how scatterbrained I am, I prefer having it on the invite because then I won't forget.

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01-23-2013 at 3:36 PM
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Wedding Invitation = Big No No

Bridal Shower or Baby Shower Invitation = Totally fine

But please, no inserts from stores in either! Those are horrid.


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01-23-2013 at 3:41 PM
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I think it is fine.  We did that for the baby shower for our daughter and it was nice because people wanted to know where to go.  We had it on the bottom in small lettering.

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Stina2012:

Wedding Invitation = Big No No

Bridal Shower or Baby Shower Invitation = Totally fine

But please, no inserts from stores in either! Those are horrid.

Ditto all of this.  As showers ARE about gifts, it seems silly to me to NOT include the info.  While not rocket science, just make it a tad easier on your guests.

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01-23-2013 at 4:32 PM
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The idea of a baby shower is to "shower" the MTB with gifts. For this reason, I do not think it is tacky, at all. For a wedding, birthday party, anniversary party, etc. it would be tacky. Every shower I have ever been invited to has had the registry information on/in it.

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01-23-2013 at 5:00 PM
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While very traditional etiquette frowns upon any mention of gifts on invitations, modern standards have changed somewhat and many people feel it's perfectly fine to include registry information on shower invites where the whole point of the event is to give gifts.  Kind of depends on your social circle. This is never ok for wedding invitations.

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01-23-2013 at 5:19 PM
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EastCoastBride:
Stina2012:

Wedding Invitation = Big No No

Bridal Shower or Baby Shower Invitation = Totally fine

But please, no inserts from stores in either! Those are horrid.

Ditto all of this.  As showers ARE about gifts, it seems silly to me to NOT include the info.  While not rocket science, just make it a tad easier on your guests.

I'll second this. As a guest, my only job should be to RSVP. I shouldn't have to go out of my way to ask where the MTB is registered or search for the information.


 
01-23-2013 at 5:33 PM
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JenniD2:
EastCoastBride:
Stina2012:

Wedding Invitation = Big No No

Bridal Shower or Baby Shower Invitation = Totally fine

But please, no inserts from stores in either! Those are horrid.

Ditto all of this.  As showers ARE about gifts, it seems silly to me to NOT include the info.  While not rocket science, just make it a tad easier on your guests.

I'll second this. As a guest, my only job should be to RSVP. I shouldn't have to go out of my way to ask where the MTB is registered or search for the information.

 

both of these. Usually, if the registry info isn't included on the invite for a shower, I just pick out what I want. When it is included I will pick up stuff from the registry. 


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01-23-2013 at 5:45 PM
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"I'll second this. As a guest, my only job should be to RSVP. I shouldn't have to go out of my way to ask where the MTB is registered or search for the information."

You're correct that your only "job" is to RSVP.  However, buying from the registry is a preference and not an obligation, and not everyone is interested in the registry.  It is generally considered rude to push gift preferences on guests, particularly those who haven't even said if they're going to attend, If anyone is interested in knowing, they'll ask.

On those few occasions that I've received a shower invitation that includes registry information, I just take it as an indicator that the host does not know the finer points of etiquette and that's that. It's pushy, but it certainly doesn't reach the level of "pay for your own lunch at the shower" or not sending a TY note.


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01-23-2013 at 7:38 PM
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Any baby shower invitation that I have ever gotten has had the registry information.  I try to buy off the registry so its much easier to have that information available.  You dont have to buy off the registry if you dont want to.  I dont consider it gift grabby or tacky, I consider it informational and handy.
 
01-23-2013 at 8:02 PM
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It's FINE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Sorry. This is a huge pet peeve of mine. Including registry info in a SHOWER invitation is PERFECTLY ACCEPTABLE, because the point of the shower is to be showered with gifts.

A registry isn't demanding, it's suggesting.

Now, including registry in a wedding invitation is terribly tacky. There's a difference, and it's a big difference.

(I'm still a little annoyed that my baby shower hostess didn't include my registry info with the shower invites. It's perfectly fine! Ask Miss Manners.) 

01-24-2013 at 8:13 AM
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RoxyLynn:

"I'll second this. As a guest, my only job should be to RSVP. I shouldn't have to go out of my way to ask where the MTB is registered or search for the information."

You're correct that your only "job" is to RSVP.  However, buying from the registry is a preference and not an obligation, and not everyone is interested in the registry.  It is generally considered rude to push gift preferences on guests, particularly those who haven't even said if they're going to attend, If anyone is interested in knowing, they'll ask.

On those few occasions that I've received a shower invitation that includes registry information, I just take it as an indicator that the host does not know the finer points of etiquette and that's that. It's pushy, but it certainly doesn't reach the level of "pay for your own lunch at the shower" or not sending a TY note.

I never said that buying from the registry was an obligation; it should always be up to the guest to buy whatever he/she wants. The only thing a guest should do is RSVP. If I am going to attend a shower, I would still like to have the registry information, and I should not have to hunt down that information.

Although, I do not see why this is even such a big deal or how this is even a breach of etiquette. Someone had said that it appears gift-grabby, which makes no sense as the whole point of a shower is to "shower" the honoree with gifts. If you (as in the general you) are going to make that argument, then you might as well say that the whole shower deal is a breach of etiquette.


 
01-24-2013 at 11:01 AM
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I think it is perfectly fine to put the registry information on the shower invite.nbsp; It's a shower, people bring gifts.nbsp; I know with how scatterbrained I am, I prefer having it on the invite because then I won't forget.


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01-26-2013 at 10:32 PM
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I have gotten plenty of invitations where in small print somewhere it said, "The bride to be or mom to be has gift registries at..." I found it super convenient to not have to ask or search or try to remember where to look. I would RSVP and could have asked but it was so much easier to stick the invite on the fridge and then know exactly where to shop when I was ready to.

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