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01-23-2013 at 7:26 PM
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Going Team Green Fires Up Family

I must preface this with there is no way on this Earth that I will change my mind on holding out until July.  I do not want to find out.  No matter what my crazy family says.

 I'm probably being irritable and hormonal (I have a cold now too which doesn't help!) but I'm getting so sick of hearing "oh no, you'll find out.  It will kill you",  "How will you know what kind of shower to have?" "What about the room".  AHHH!  Here's my thing, I can't wait to meet THE BABY.  Boy or girl, it truly does not matter.  I'm honestly just excited to know I have this little person in there who is going to be the biggest and most exciting surprise.  And we have name options for both.  Yes, I understand not knowing what it is will make shopping trips for shower guests/family/friends/etc a little trickier but OH WELL.  Women didn't know what it was for years and everyone lived.  I'm really not sure why everyone is so fired up.  DH and I are completely cool with it.  And it's kind of mean/funny but I think watching everyone get all crazy about not knowing what it is just adds to the fun.

 
 
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01-23-2013 at 7:38 PM
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You are allowed to have the gender of your baby be a surprise, end of story. It's you and your DH's choice, good for you for sticking to your guns!
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01-23-2013 at 7:53 PM
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Stick to your guns! *Applaudes Wildly*
"What are you having?" "Well the radiologist says its a healthy little human baby. I'm a little disappointed, because I really wanted a puppy." LOL 
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01-23-2013 at 8:04 PM
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A small sadistic part of me wants to switch to team green just to torture my family lol. Try your best to ignore them and enjoy meeting your LO just the way you want to when the time comes. If they really can't buy you a gift without knowing if the baby has a penis or a vagina then tell them to wait until after the baby is born... geeze.
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01-23-2013 at 8:17 PM
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it's your baby do what you want, I found out that I was having a girl and I hated the reaction I got, I wish I was team green
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01-23-2013 at 8:27 PM
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Haha, I joke that I'm Team Green just to torture people.  I always get the "when are you going to find out... WHAT!?  How can you not find out?  *I* must know!"  I had a friend even tell me to have the u/s tech put the sex in an envelope and mail it to her so she can know.  I'm actually kind of tempted to do this so that I can be like "Janell knows, ask her!" and then she can have fun torturing people with me.  Haha!

Honestly, I don't think it makes shopping any harder.  I always try to buy more gender neutral items for showers anyway, and the only difference with registering you're not going to register for a car seat that's pink with flowers all over it.   Plus with Team Green I think people are more inclined to buy directly off of your shower registry rather than pick up things they find that are "cute" (read: pink and frilly) rather than useful.

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01-23-2013 at 8:32 PM
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We had a little different situation. DH and I found out and kept it a secret from EVERYONE for 3 weeks- not really a big deal in the grand scheme. But I was SHOCKED at how many people said we wouldn't be able to keep it, why don't we want to tell, etc. It was unreal. It was more our friends. Both sets of parents could care less- health was all they wanted. But it was so funny to see people come unglued over gender!! (we kept the secret so we could tell everyone at once during Christmas). Kudos to you for 9 months! I wouldn't have been able to do it but I LOVE hearing about people who really don't care about gender! It's a breath of fresh air after all the "I wanted a boy- having a girl" posts... :) 
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01-23-2013 at 8:56 PM
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You're allowed to be Team Green, but it's annoying, lol. I needed to know what clothes to get, I can't stand the gender neutral stuff. For the big things, it's fine, clothing was a biggie for me. Plus, it was easier to pick a name when we knew the sex. Just my opinion. 
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01-23-2013 at 9:17 PM
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We were team green with DS and DD and it was awesome.  My shower was fantastic, I got all the things I really needed, and people gave gifts of clothing after they were born.

It didn't make planning the room or anything more difficult.   The only reason we are even contemplating finding out this time around is because it would be awesome to know what I can get rid of and what we need to keep (I saved everything and this is our last).  But I just really love not knowing

Enjoy being Team Green and tell your family to go pound sand


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01-23-2013 at 9:51 PM
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Stick to your guns, sister. I'm going through the exact same thing with my friends and family. "how will we plan a shower?" blah blah blah.

I think I'm just going to take the side of enjoying watching people squirm for the rest of the pregnancy until we get to announce on the day the baby actually joins our family.
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01-23-2013 at 9:53 PM
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Gah I wanna be team green so bad! SO and I are currently going back and forth arguing. How can I change his mind!?! 

 
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01-23-2013 at 10:00 PM
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Gah I wanna be team green so bad! SO and I are currently going back and forth arguing. How can I change his mind!?! 

Use my line, "oh honey, it's one of the great mysteries in life and I want to see the look on your face when the baby comes out and you get to tell everyone what it is"
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01-23-2013 at 10:18 PM
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LOL, torturing family is an added bonus of being team green :)  We have been team green every time.  The first time I was shocked how many people cared.  Especially when it was people that wouldn't be gifting us anything anyhow...really? Why are you this in a tizzy?  My cousin (my dad's cousin, so older), about flipped out of course, she is the mom that literally, I kid you not, had every.minute.of.every.day planned for both kids through high school. Those boys didn't get 2 seconds unplanned.  She lives OOS so she wasn't attending the shower and wasn't sending a gift til baby was born anyhow but insisted "we had to know so people could know what to get".  Um, it is called the registry. :) and neutrals.  I told her if it stressed people out, they could skip the gift.  I'm sorry, I am NOT finding out the gender for YOUR shopping pleasure. If I can prepare for baby without the gender, you can buy a single gift.  After I was done being shocked, and annoyed (you'll have to know, you'll change your mind), I just enjoyed it and found humor in torturing everyone.  This cousin, btw, wanted to buy all pink,as she always did for me, even though I hate (now just dislike) pink. Another awesome reason we were team green.  She did bully her son & DIL into finding out for her shopping pleasure (they were pregnant at the same time).  Weak, I telll you! ;)  Enjoy being Team Green, it is amazing.
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01-23-2013 at 10:21 PM
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I forgot to add that we are going down in 2 weeks & for the first time will get to tell my family we are expecting (#3) in person (phone for 1&2).  i know it will torture her that we arent finding out. *cue evil chuckle*
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01-24-2013 at 12:12 AM
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You are a stronger person than I! Lol! I truly do admire people who go Team Green - I don't have the willpower for it. After the births of my sons, I said it would be easier to go Team Green with the next one because you don't really need anything besides gowns/onesies and some type of bed until they are a few months old. 

Yeah, never worked for me. Each time I got pregnant, I couldn't wait to find out! At one point I said that if I had a boy and a girl, I could probably be surprised. I'm pregnant with a girl now and even though she is the last one, I have recognized my limitations and acknowledged that no matter how many children I have, I love finding out too much and I lack the willpower to not do it lol!

Congratulations on the baby! July will be here before we know it! 
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01-24-2013 at 2:16 AM
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Congrats on sticking to your guns! We've been Team Green every time too, and last time it didn't seem to bother anyone but for some reason my friends went into an uproar this time. "You're gonna torture me AGAIN?!" I had a cousin that I rarely ever see try to convince me to find out for her shopping ease for my shower and her reasoning being "I don't like buying the green and yellow clothes! It's no fun!" Um, then buy something else that's on my registry, something that doesn't have color to it, or don't buy anything at all. But she was so stubborn that she ended up getting me boy and girl clothes and giving me the gift receipt to return the clothes that don't match his gender afterwards. It was a little frustrating having to return all the pink stuff after he was born, but also helped some so that I had some boy stuff for him when he was newborn.
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01-24-2013 at 3:06 AM
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This is our third and we never found out w/ any of our babies. It doesn't change anything, it doesn't help/hurt to know or not know. But thankfully both sets of our parents waited to find out gender when they were pregnant so they think its great. But it does get annoying having friends always telling us to find out. Or to open our envelope w/ the gender sono so they can peek. . But we keep it locked in the safe. Baby's going to be what baby is going to be.
 
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01-24-2013 at 8:09 AM
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It irritated the crap out of my MIL that we were team green. I think she is more resigned to the fact this time around.  My mom was secretly a bit disappointed but would never say so.

Everyone has an opinion... so many people either said to me "good for you!" (mostly the older generation) or "OMG! You are crazy! I could never do it!" 
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01-24-2013 at 8:29 AM
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Gah I wanna be team green so bad! SO and I are currently going back and forth arguing. How can I change his mind!?! 

 I got my DH to change his mind by telling him about the chances of them being wrong. The couple wasn't super close to us but they were told they were having a girl and it was most definitely a boy. He changed his mind so fast. We are also planning on having two, so I told him he can pick whether we find out for the next one.

 
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01-24-2013 at 8:47 AM
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I do think you're being a little sensitive about it. The comments aren't going to stop, so you might as well get used to them! 

We were Team Green with DD and will be with this one, as well. We got the same comments, even from people we barely knew, my entire pregnancy.

The whole "you have to know in order to get ready!" drove and still drives me bonkers. I would have picked out gender neutral items whether or not we knew what we were having so we could easily use it for additional children. Clothing? Simple. I had about 2 weeks worth of gender neutral clothing. Everyone we knew ran out to buy clothing because apparently girls have to be dressed head to toe in pink crap. We ended up with more clothing than she was ever able to wear.

This time around people are telling me it's not sensible to wait because I need know whether or not to go through DD's clothing or start getting rid of stuff. 1) That's assuming we're done after 2 children and 2) This baby and DD will be born in different seasons... so DD's newborn stuff will definitely be useless regardless and I think I can handle waiting an additional 20 weeks to start getting rid of the rest of it.  

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01-24-2013 at 8:57 AM
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I got this with my 1st 2 pregnancies from both friends and family.  This time around it is even worse since I am having twins and we are still team green.  I love the surprise in the delivery room since we have scheduled c-sections and know the day they will come. Not sure why people make a big deal of this either way.
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01-24-2013 at 9:03 AM
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Plus with Team Green I think people are more inclined to buy directly off of your shower registry rather than pick up things they find that are "cute" (read: pink and frilly) rather than useful.

I totally agree with this. Out of all of my friends I'm the only one who didn't find out. And the only one who got registry only items at my shower. My girlfriends all got a ton of clothes and not much of anything off of their registries. They mentioned regretting telling people what they were having for that sake alone. People just can't seem to resist buying baby clothes when they know "what" they're shopping for.  

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01-24-2013 at 10:20 AM
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Gah I wanna be team green so bad! SO and I are currently going back and forth arguing. How can I change his mind!?! 

Can YH keep a secret?  We couldn't agree, so MH was the only one to find out and he kept the secret until birth. He would switch all the time between he and she so that I couldn't suspect anything as a slip up, and as long as he wasn't spilling the beans to others, I didn't care if he already knew. (The u/s tech knew too so it's not like no one out there knew!)

Just another option to consider :o) 
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01-24-2013 at 11:02 AM
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I love being team green and I don't care who it pisses off. Aww you won't know what to buy? Then don't buy anything. Or buy diapers, wipes, toys, something else other than clothes. Just because YOU want to know doesn't mean I do. I want alot of gender neutral anyway in case we have a 2nd baby- I won't have to REBUY everything. I'm a cheap Jew (truly am Jewish) and proud of it!

Why can't I enjoy a surprise in MY life? Because it will inconvenience you? Too bad.  This isn't YOUR baby, it's mine. And there are plenty of gender neutral options out there for showers- Rubby Ducky, Rainforest/ Baby Animals, General Stork like things. Hell, my wedding shower was Theater themed- and I think only one of the shows used had a wedding in it. Best Shower EVER!

I just hope my baby really isn't green from the "Miracle Elixir" the girls made for Wicked Wink

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01-24-2013 at 1:17 PM
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Lol. We got the same reaction from our family (we were team green with our first baby). I just laughed it off and said "Oh, I think we'll manage". I mean really ... they're being silly. People didn't start finding out the gender of their babies early until very recently. How do they think all of those other people prepared for babies without knowing the sex?

Good grief. :) 
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01-24-2013 at 1:20 PM
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You're allowed to be Team Green, but it's annoying, lol. I needed to know what clothes to get, I can't stand the gender neutral stuff. For the big things, it's fine, clothing was a biggie for me. Plus, it was easier to pick a name when we knew the sex. Just my opinion. 

You get annoyed that someone else doesn't want to know the sex of THEIR baby? It doesn't seem like any of your business, really. If you don't want to buy gender neutral stuff get the parents a nice gift card, lol. And you wouldn't be picking out someone else's name anyway. 
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01-24-2013 at 5:23 PM
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Yeah, my mil gave us a huge guilt trip about this the first time around. Trust me, it won her no points with me. She still brings it up.
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01-25-2013 at 9:44 AM
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I am with you!! I don't understand why everyone cares so darn much which team you are & it's our decision to be Team Green!! I could care less what others are doing. My bf is due 3 weeks after me, they are finding out & I am super excited for them. She's just as excited for us & we support each other's decisions. I think the gender neutral stuff is getting cuter!! I am a planner, but with this I could care less about having pink or blue waiting when baby gets here! I just hope for a healthy baby & hope the delivery goes well for all of us!!! 
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