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01-25-2013 at 6:11 PM
lml4me
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Why oh why...

...doesn't DH understand first trimester symptoms?  I've tried explaining to him why I'm so tired and nauseous ALL THE TIME and he just doesn't get it.  Any advice for helping DH understand this is all a part of the process?  
 
01-25-2013 at 6:15 PM
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lml4me:
...doesn't DH understand first trimester symptoms?  I've tried explaining to him why I'm so tired and nauseous ALL THE TIME and he just doesn't get it.  Any advice for helping DH understand this is all a part of the process?  

 

in the same boat. it's gotten so annoying to the point i'm going crazy -_- i have to yell and cry and pout which is not healthy for the baby at all.


 
01-25-2013 at 6:15 PM
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My husband read Be Prepared: A Practical Handbook for New Dads by Gary Greenberg. It is written by a man and talks "man language". My DH and I read it out loud together and laughed so much. It is a great book.

I don't know that it helps explain the 1st trimester stuff... but it talks a  lot about how the wife feels/looks postpartum. So I highly recommend it because if he doesn't understand you now, he REALLY isn't going to understand you the first few weeks after you have the baby. It will also help him understand newborns and how to handle them.


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01-25-2013 at 6:51 PM
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Get him resources and have him read them. I don't understand how its so hard for some husbands to believe that you've got real, physical things going on. You are growing a person, FFS. My husband has always been very sympathetic.

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01-25-2013 at 7:05 PM
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PrimRoseMama:
Get him resources and have him read them. I don't understand how its so hard for some husbands to believe that you've got real, physical things going on. You are growing a person, FFS. My husband has always been very sympathetic.

This. I really do not understand these husbands who seem to think their wives are lying to them or something, which is the only thing I can think of that would make them not take you seriously. Tell him to pick up a book or look up first trimester symptoms on the internet.  



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01-25-2013 at 8:07 PM
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I guess I'll consider myself lucky. He has asked me a couple of times how in the world do women not know they are pregnant, given all of the things going on with your body during that time.

 
01-25-2013 at 9:04 PM
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What a great recommendation!  I have been concerned about all the 'fun' things that follow the birth.  He already questioned my decision to have him and my mother and/or best friend in the delivery room.  He asked, "what about my mom?".  I wanted to say...OH DEAR GOD, ARE YOU KIDDING?????  I'm getting the book tomorrow.  Thank you!
 
01-26-2013 at 6:39 PM
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Have him read some online articles or books. Or you could have him go to a doc's appt. with you. Good Luck to you.

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01-27-2013 at 5:50 AM
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lml4me:
What a great recommendation!  I have been concerned about all the 'fun' things that follow the birth.  He already questioned my decision to have him and my mother and/or best friend in the delivery room.  He asked, "what about my mom?".  I wanted to say...OH DEAR GOD, ARE YOU KIDDING?????  I'm getting the book tomorrow.  Thank you!

Say "my Mom has already seen me naked. yours hasn't and I'd like to keep it that way." 


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01-27-2013 at 9:05 AM
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fuzzylogic:
I guess I'll consider myself lucky. He has asked me a couple of times how in the world do women not know they are pregnant, given all of the things going on with your body during that time.

 

haha, my husband has gone the opposite on this. He has seen me watch I Didn't Know I Was Pregnant and he says "those women felt fine, you should too." He's so weird. One day I was tired and he insisted I take a nap, for the baby's sake, but then I was having a moment of nausea and he tells me that it's just all in my head, because I'm thinking about it, and I need to just suck it up. Whaaat? I did get him a book, so hopefully it will help him. I was reading it and enjoying it. It was more useful than the Mayo Guide to Pregnancy. It takes him through each trimester, birth, and post partum. It talks about the development of the baby, symptoms I might have, and other practical things like going to doctor visits and preparing for a baby.


 
01-27-2013 at 9:57 AM
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veronicavpling:

lml4me:
...doesn't DH understand first trimester symptoms?  I've tried explaining to him why I'm so tired and nauseous ALL THE TIME and he just doesn't get it.  Any advice for helping DH understand this is all a part of the process?  

 

in the same boat. it's gotten so annoying to the point i'm going crazy -_- i have to yell and cry and pout which is not healthy for the baby at all.


I'm guessing your tantrums aren't helping him feel sympathetic.

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