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01-26-2013 at 6:52 AM
brenanigan...
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FTM etiquette questions

Ok so I don't really know jack about baby showers. lol. My MIL wants to throw me one. Is that ok? Would that be like my mom throwing me one? I just think of bridal showers and how your mom shouldn't technically throw the shower. So it being his mom isn't that the same?

Also, how much of the responsibility do I take on? Do I send the invites? I obviously write out the thank yous and such. I actually never even had a bridal shower or anything so I just try to read up on stuff but couldn't find some of these specific things. 

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01-26-2013 at 7:34 AM
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Your MIL can certainly be the hostess. Your only responsibilities are to provide addresses for invitees, show up, and write thank yous. Many also choose to give a gift to the hostess as a thank you.

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01-26-2013 at 7:54 AM
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ok! good to know. I would def. get her a gift. She has always been so nice to me!

 
01-26-2013 at 8:47 AM
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Estwd2:
Your MIL can certainly be the hostess. Your only responsibilities are to provide addresses for invitees, show up, and write thank yous. Many also choose to give a gift to the hostess as a thank you.

This is spot on.  Mine is being hosted by my mom and MIL and SILs (brother's wife and DH's brother's wife).

All I did was give a list of acceptable dates, confirm the selected date and provide an invite list with addresses.  My SIL also insisted I do a registry (but no one has gotten anything from the registry even though invites went out a week ago and the shower is in 3 weeks...I need to find better use of my time than registry stalking...)


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01-26-2013 at 11:36 AM
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Estwd2:
Your MIL can certainly be the hostess. Your only responsibilities are to provide addresses for invitees, show up, and write thank yous. Many also choose to give a gift to the hostess as a thank you.

This!  It used to be a faux pas to have immediate family host, but it's now acceptable for anyone besides the parents to be to host. 


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01-26-2013 at 8:07 PM
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My MIL and my mom are actually each throwing a shower for me. I told both of them it was completely unnecessary but they say the HAVE TO, mostly because this is the first grandkid. The other reason they are doing them separately is my family is all up north and his family is all down south. I have basically taken my hand completely off (besides having to do thank you notes later) because each mom has her own specific way of doing stuff. I have told each of them that if she would like/want/needs my help I am more than happy to do anything. So far I have been told to show up and be happy.

I would just ask your MIL what you can do or if she needs anything. If she says no, then I would leave it there.
 
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