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01-28-2013 at 2:35 PM
alr5k
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Had to make the switch to formula

I am having an awful day. I was trying so hard to breast feed my LO since day 1. I had to start pumping because at 2 weeks old I had to start back the semester at school. It was going ok but now my milk has dried up completely. I have tried bf and pumping and nothing comes out. This morning after a battle for days, we broke down and started similac advanced. I had a pity party and cried. I really tried everything with my insane schedule, especially because I knew the benefits of BF. has anyone else had to deal with switching to formula so early? If so how did you deal with guilt? 

 
01-28-2013 at 2:58 PM
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Have you tried waking at night to power pump in between nursing?

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01-28-2013 at 3:06 PM
Idani
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There is nothing wrong with switching to formula.  It's great your LO was able to BF for a month.  Try not to feel guilty, you were able to BF longer than some mom's and you are still feeding your child, formula isn't awful.  With my first BF was not successful and I was filled with guilt from society in general as well as my overbearing IL's.  However I was happier and better mentally/emotionally once he was fully on formula and he was actually happier as well.  Don't let anyone make you feel bad and don't make yourself feel guilty. 

 
01-28-2013 at 3:10 PM
dr52383
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1. Don't feel guilty. Easier said than done, I know.

2. Breast feeding is not for everyone. Didn't work for me. Tried EPing. Didn't work. I could produce enough milk. I'm a teacher I have a fabulous immune system...really wanted to give it to my daughter but I can't. She was born jaundiced and we had to supplement early to get her out of the hospital. My milk came in a week after her birth and she destroyed my nipples in the in between period bc she was so hungry and I wasn't making enough. I got so stressed that even once I went to a lactation consultant I could relax enough to breast feed.  But using formula meant several things 

1. My husband could help and I could get more sleep. More sleep=functioning adult=better mother.

2. I didn't have to get half naked all the time.

3. I could enjoy feeding times with my daughter and not curl my toes and distract myself to make it through the 15 minutes. I don't watch tv while we feed, I look at her, in her eyes, talk to her, and enjoy her company.

4. Others, like my in laws, can feed her so my husband and I can go out and be adults (aka go to Costco and buy diapers and formula)

so I guess what I'm saying is look on the bright side, find your positives and hold on. I really thought breast feeding was going to work and be wonderful and I wanted it for my daughter but it wasn't to be. Doesn't mean I won't try again with our second child but formula is what works best in my family. If you are going to school so you can get a better job so you can provide for your family, then you are doing the right thing. Formula is extremely close to breast milk, what you are missing are the antibodies from your immune system. Well, lets face it, kids are going to get sick, regardless. Getting further education will take you far and those benefits are nothing to put aside lightly. 

You are doing what is right for your family and don't take crap from anyone and don't feel bad about it.

That's my $0.02.

d  

 
01-28-2013 at 3:49 PM
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dr52383:

1. Don't feel guilty. Easier said than done, I know.

2. Breast feeding is not for everyone. Didn't work for me. Tried EPing. Didn't work. I could produce enough milk. I'm a teacher I have a fabulous immune system...really wanted to give it to my daughter but I can't. She was born jaundiced and we had to supplement early to get her out of the hospital. My milk came in a week after her birth and she destroyed my nipples in the in between period bc she was so hungry and I wasn't making enough. I got so stressed that even once I went to a lactation consultant I could relax enough to breast feed.  But using formula meant several things 

1. My husband could help and I could get more sleep. More sleep=functioning adult=better mother.

2. I didn't have to get half naked all the time.

3. I could enjoy feeding times with my daughter and not curl my toes and distract myself to make it through the 15 minutes. I don't watch tv while we feed, I look at her, in her eyes, talk to her, and enjoy her company.

4. Others, like my in laws, can feed her so my husband and I can go out and be adults (aka go to Costco and buy diapers and formula)

so I guess what I'm saying is look on the bright side, find your positives and hold on. I really thought breast feeding was going to work and be wonderful and I wanted it for my daughter but it wasn't to be. Doesn't mean I won't try again with our second child but formula is what works best in my family. If you are going to school so you can get a better job so you can provide for your family, then you are doing the right thing. Formula is extremely close to breast milk, what you are missing are the antibodies from your immune system. Well, lets face it, kids are going to get sick, regardless. Getting further education will take you far and those benefits are nothing to put aside lightly. 

You are doing what is right for your family and don't take crap from anyone and don't feel bad about it.

That's my $0.02.

d  

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01-28-2013 at 3:56 PM
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I had to switch to formula after just a month and 5 days of breast feeding because my body wasn't making any breast milk so I toldly understand how you feel. I felt guilty about switching formula but I had to do what I had to so that my baby was getting enough to eat and this was the only way, don't feel guilty, you did your very best and you should be proud of yourself for what you did.

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01-28-2013 at 5:27 PM
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I remember with my daughter when BFing and pumping didn't go as planned. I remember I felt like such a failure. However, eventually I did realize it was what was best for her and moved on. With little man things were looking better. He latched on right away and nursed great. The problem was that he constantly ate and wasn't gaining any weight. So we switched. I gave it my best shot and it just didn't work out. You have to do what works best for your family. Little man has been gaining so much weight on formula. So we know we made the proper choice.

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01-28-2013 at 7:41 PM
alr5k
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Thank you everyone. I really have been beating myself up all day. My husband tried telling me it was ok and I just was really hard on myself. I guess I didn't realize that I am not alone in this and I am not the only person who has had this problem. At least congrats to all of us who gave it our all when we did try to BF. Now I just have to adjust to to this formula feeding world.

 
01-28-2013 at 8:19 PM
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Neary2011:
I had to switch to formula after just a month and 5 days of breast feeding because my body wasn't making any breast milk so I toldly understand how you feel. I felt guilty about switching formula but I had to do what I had to so that my baby was getting enough to eat and this was the only way, don't feel guilty, you did your very best and you should be proud of yourself for what you did.

This is me exactly but I am still BF and giving formula to help lo gain weight. its def a labor of love and I have a lot of guilt about it. 


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01-29-2013 at 8:25 AM
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dr52383:

1. Don't feel guilty. Easier said than done, I know.

2. Breast feeding is not for everyone. Didn't work for me. Tried EPing. Didn't work. I could produce enough milk. I'm a teacher I have a fabulous immune system...really wanted to give it to my daughter but I can't. She was born jaundiced and we had to supplement early to get her out of the hospital. My milk came in a week after her birth and she destroyed my nipples in the in between period bc she was so hungry and I wasn't making enough. I got so stressed that even once I went to a lactation consultant I could relax enough to breast feed.  But using formula meant several things 

1. My husband could help and I could get more sleep. More sleep=functioning adult=better mother.

2. I didn't have to get half naked all the time.

3. I could enjoy feeding times with my daughter and not curl my toes and distract myself to make it through the 15 minutes. I don't watch tv while we feed, I look at her, in her eyes, talk to her, and enjoy her company.

4. Others, like my in laws, can feed her so my husband and I can go out and be adults (aka go to Costco and buy diapers and formula)

so I guess what I'm saying is look on the bright side, find your positives and hold on. I really thought breast feeding was going to work and be wonderful and I wanted it for my daughter but it wasn't to be. Doesn't mean I won't try again with our second child but formula is what works best in my family. If you are going to school so you can get a better job so you can provide for your family, then you are doing the right thing. Formula is extremely close to breast milk, what you are missing are the antibodies from your immune system. Well, lets face it, kids are going to get sick, regardless. Getting further education will take you far and those benefits are nothing to put aside lightly. 

You are doing what is right for your family and don't take crap from anyone and don't feel bad about it.

That's my $0.02.

d  

^This down to the teacher and jaundice part!!! Exactly!!

 
01-29-2013 at 9:52 AM
dr52383
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kecrite82:
dr52383:

1. Don't feel guilty. Easier said than done, I know.

2. Breast feeding is not for everyone. Didn't work for me. Tried EPing. Didn't work. I could produce enough milk. I'm a teacher I have a fabulous immune system...really wanted to give it to my daughter but I can't. She was born jaundiced and we had to supplement early to get her out of the hospital. My milk came in a week after her birth and she destroyed my nipples in the in between period bc she was so hungry and I wasn't making enough. I got so stressed that even once I went to a lactation consultant I could relax enough to breast feed.  But using formula meant several things 

1. My husband could help and I could get more sleep. More sleep=functioning adult=better mother.

2. I didn't have to get half naked all the time.

3. I could enjoy feeding times with my daughter and not curl my toes and distract myself to make it through the 15 minutes. I don't watch tv while we feed, I look at her, in her eyes, talk to her, and enjoy her company.

4. Others, like my in laws, can feed her so my husband and I can go out and be adults (aka go to Costco and buy diapers and formula)

so I guess what I'm saying is look on the bright side, find your positives and hold on. I really thought breast feeding was going to work and be wonderful and I wanted it for my daughter but it wasn't to be. Doesn't mean I won't try again with our second child but formula is what works best in my family. If you are going to school so you can get a better job so you can provide for your family, then you are doing the right thing. Formula is extremely close to breast milk, what you are missing are the antibodies from your immune system. Well, lets face it, kids are going to get sick, regardless. Getting further education will take you far and those benefits are nothing to put aside lightly. 

You are doing what is right for your family and don't take crap from anyone and don't feel bad about it.

That's my $0.02.

d  

^This down to the teacher and jaundice part!!! Exactly!!

 

So glad I wrote this.  Really makes me feel better about my choice. 

 
01-29-2013 at 10:49 AM
mayan81
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I know exactly how you feel!  My lil guy latched on great and BF was going awesome for the first 6 weeks, there were times that I would leak milk because I had an overflow!  Now I'm at 8 weeks and dry!  I pump and literally get couple of drops and thats it.  I feel so guilty and broke out crying this morning, husband tried to make me feel better but I had planned on BFing as long as possible because of all the health benefits for my baby.  I just feel awful like I cant provide for him.  Anyways, took a warm shower and shook it all off... going to introduce formula today.  Glad I got to read what everyone wrote though, nice to know I'm not alone... best of luck to all you ladies and I'm gonna try to stay positive.
 
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