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01-29-2013 at 5:00 PM
XmasDivine
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Family frustrations!!

I'm 6weeks 2days now. We decided not to tell our parents until after our first ultrasound which is scheduled in two weeks time. This is our first pregnancy and it just doesn't feel real, we decided to wait to tell our parents because it will be both sets of grandparents first grand baby and we didn't want them to get excited too early on in the pregnancy.

 Rant #1: we almost broke the news to hubby's parents this past weekend, but didn't because they have big mouths and even bigger mouth friends! It was a really disappointing trip to see them and I HATED that we couldn't share with them because they have obnoxious friends! Basically now we can't tell them until we are ready for all of Norh Texas to know. 

Rant #2: Because hubby was being a by baby about his parents not knowing I agreed to also wait to tell m parents. THS has made me feel awful. Not daring this with my mum makes me feel disgusting. And to top it off... My parents booked a vacation today with our other couples when I am going to be in my 37th goin on 38th week!! They get back sept 8th and I'm not "due" until sept 22nd. But seriously! That's way too close or comfort but the thought of my mum missing the birh breaks my heart and makes me want to run away or ban everyone from the birth if my mum can't be there :( I don't know what to do - the whole thing seems so negative now :( I don't even know if they will be able to cancel and reschedule their trip :( and then I feel guilty asking them too :(  
 
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01-29-2013 at 5:09 PM
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That all stinks.  I did not want to tell my parents or IL so early either.  However, my IL are moving across country in a week and we knew this last weekend was our last chance to tell them in person.  I did not want to tell my parents, but I felt like as their daughter, I needed to tell them first.  I told them a few days before.  Just hoping for the best with baby since we had to tell them so early.

If I were you, I would just break the news.  Hopefully they can keep it to themselves.  If not....then it is what it is.  The IL spread our news a little farther than I would have liked.  I'm sure my mom told all our family friends too.  I'm just glad they are so excited. 
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01-29-2013 at 5:12 PM
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In my opinion, it is only fair that if you are asking DH to wait to tell his parents than you should wait to tell yours. You have to think of how you would feel if DH told his parents but said you couldn't tell yours. As far as the trip goes it seems like your parents will be back in plenty of time to see your baby's birth. I wouldn't worry about that.
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01-29-2013 at 5:14 PM
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As far as rant #2, what is done is done. It's booked. If, when she gets the news, she decides to cancel- that is her decision. And maybe as you get closer to your due date you'll know the health of your pregnancy and be better able to predict whether you will make it to your due date or not. More than likely, you'll be just fine. 

Overall, I wouldn't feel bad about it at all. You can just tell them that you and your husband wanted to have this little secret to yourselves and enjoy it for awhile. They aren't going to be mad at you. They are going to be so frickin' excited they aren't going to care that you waited 2 weeks to tell them. Just tell them that you got a positive preg. test at home but wanted to get into the doctor to have them confirm it before you told anyone.
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01-29-2013 at 11:42 PM
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*deep breaths*

I had the same thing. I wanted to tell my parents, but DH didn't want me to til we could visit his parents (a 5 hour drive, then a 1 hour commute between them, then a 5 hour drive back... usually about $300 in gas) so we had to wait until we could go see his.

 When you do finally tell everyone, they won't care that you waited to tell them. It was my parents first grandbaby (now twins) so, relax... no matter when you tell, they will be excited.

And if you and your mom are close, I'm sure things will be fine. no need to ban everyone from the room!

 

Just remember, there is a beautiful thing inside of you right now... and its going to mess with your emotions SO FREAKING MUCH. 
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01-30-2013 at 5:56 AM
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Thank you everyone for the advice! Y'all are all right and I know that it will all be ok. Of course they will be happy, I'm going to keep praying baby waits til after the trip to come though:p and of course for healthy healthy healthy as we are still just over week 6. Thank you for all of the support!
 
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