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01-29-2013 at 9:42 PM
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Funeral for Coworker during 2WW...

this is going to sound horribly selfish, but i am debating on whether i should go to a former co-workers funeral this Friday...im in the 2WW and I am supposed to be avoiding stress and i know that going will make me sad and down....he was only 25 and its suspected he took his own life. plus i left my job on bad terms and i am worried about running into my former manager who i clashed with...id love to be there with my former coworkers and pay my respects but im just trying to gauge if it will upset me too much.
me 40, DH 39... FSH:8.6 AMH 2.3 AFC:15... DH: MF: sx for Double Varicocele, SA 45 mil, motil: 50%, morph 3%- "lazy swimmers!"... Me: All "normal" but aging eggs most likely... ;-/ DS: 4/29/05-7 yrs old MC 9 weeks: 9/21/11 TTC for 3 yrs...7/2012: 1st IUI: BFN 8/2012: 2nd IUI: BFN... Need a break already! IVF #1 in progress Jan 2013: Antagonist Prot.: Gonal F 300/Menopur 150 ER: 15 follies, 12 retrieved, 10 mature, 10 fertilized...grow embies grow! 1/8/13: BFN.  
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01-29-2013 at 9:46 PM
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Don't do what you can't do. I skipped a funeral for my aunt when I was in the middle of one of my cycles. Emotionally I just couldn't handle it. Perhaps you could attend the viewing  (assuming there is one separate for the funeral) or just send online condolences. Take care of you first, but sorry to hear about your friend.
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01-29-2013 at 9:58 PM
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i feel terrible but i just dont think i could do either....a wake has the body and that would be awful to see. too much sadness. sucks bc normally id go to both wake and funeral....

 

zazu13:
Don't do what you can't do. I skipped a funeral for my aunt when I was in the middle of one of my cycles. Emotionally I just couldn't handle it. Perhaps you could attend the viewing  (assuming there is one separate for the funeral) or just send online condolences. Take care of you first, but sorry to hear about your friend.
me 40, DH 39... FSH:8.6 AMH 2.3 AFC:15... DH: MF: sx for Double Varicocele, SA 45 mil, motil: 50%, morph 3%- "lazy swimmers!"... Me: All "normal" but aging eggs most likely... ;-/ DS: 4/29/05-7 yrs old MC 9 weeks: 9/21/11 TTC for 3 yrs...7/2012: 1st IUI: BFN 8/2012: 2nd IUI: BFN... Need a break already! IVF #1 in progress Jan 2013: Antagonist Prot.: Gonal F 300/Menopur 150 ER: 15 follies, 12 retrieved, 10 mature, 10 fertilized...grow embies grow! 1/8/13: BFN.  
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01-29-2013 at 10:32 PM
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Sorry to hear about your loss. :( My mother is korean and has all these sayings and she says never to go to a funeral while you are preggers. I don't always listen to her quirky things but I agree with the other post that you need to take care of yourself. If you are close to the family I might stop by in the coming weeks to pay your respects. 

 

Bottom line: use your best judgement and listen to your body.

 

 
Me: 29 w/ unexplained IF DH: 32 perfect and healthy Married: 10.25.07 Unexpected and very surprising BFP in Feb 2007. M/C April 2007. :( TTC since 2008 Metformin- no improvement Clomid 50mg/Provera cycle #1 7/2009 - BFN Clomid 50mg/Provera cycle #2- 8/2009- BFN Clomid 100mg/Provera cycle #3- 1/2010- BFN ...Took a break... 2012- Met with RE DH sperm analysis- all good Prescribed Synthroid for slightly elevated TSH levels 11/12- HSG all clear 1/13- IUI with Femara and trigger shot on 1/31- BFN 2/13-IUI #2- cancelled due to low response 3/13- IUI #3 Femara and trigger shot- BFN 4/13- IUI #4 in the works.  
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01-30-2013 at 5:55 AM
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If it is too much for you then don't go.  You could do something in his memory instead.  Like donate to a suicide hotline or see if there are any volunteer opportunities you could do.  I am sure that he would not have wanted you to risk anything to attend.
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IVF 12-21-2012 - 2 I think perfect no matter what the dr graded them (2B)embryos transferred Beta on 12-31-12 Positve - Beta is 21
Beta 2 1-2-13 - 31
Beta 3 1-4-13 - 53
Beta 4 1/9 - 212!
Ultrasound 1/10 - Nothing completely empty uterus Beta 1/14 - 743; Beta 1/17 - 1704 ultrasound shows nothing. Officially a miscarriage. 1/21 Beta 3900 Dr. says it ectopic. Ultrasound shows a miracle heartbeat right in the uterus where it belongs! Dr. says I can be cautiously optomistic!!! Hang in there baby!

 
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01-30-2013 at 8:02 AM
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jadwedd:
If it is too much for you then don't go.  You could do something in his memory instead.  Like donate to a suicide hotline or see if there are any volunteer opportunities you could do.  I am sure that he would not have wanted you to risk anything to attend.

This exactly.  
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01-30-2013 at 8:22 PM
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I wouldn't feel bad. You need to do what's best for you right now, and decrease your stress as much as possible. I feel for you - a friend of mine is CONTEMPLATING suicide right now. She's been very depressed and up and down the past year, and she decided right now, right before I'm going to start my cycle, that she's having a down moment. It's been...tough to say the least :/ No way you can completely avoid stress as much as you try!!

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IVF #1: Long Lupron Protocol,Menopur,Follistim, ER = 2/12/13 27R/26M/23F

2/17/13 Transferred 1 perfect Grade 1 blast. 17 frostbabies.

HPT 7dp5dt: BFP!!! Beta #1 9dp5dt: 108 Beta #2 11dp5dt: 368

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01-30-2013 at 9:20 PM
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jadwedd:
If it is too much for you then don't go.  You could do something in his memory instead.  Like donate to a suicide hotline or see if there are any volunteer opportunities you could do.  I am sure that he would not have wanted you to risk anything to attend.

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