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02-18-2013 at 11:23 AM
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Babies are already here, Mom wants to throw me a shower.

For my entire pregnancy I was pretty sure I was going to place my boys for adoption, so I told everyone that I did not want a baby shower. Luckily they did go with my wishes and didn't surprise me with one. Now that I've finally decided for sure to parent my boys, my mom is insisting to throw me a baby shower. I just don't know if it's tacky after the babies are already here?

Also if I do let my mom throw me one, is it customary to have the babies at the party since they're already here?

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02-18-2013 at 11:27 AM
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In some cultures, it's customary to do showers after the birth. I think it would be fine, but I'd get encourage your host to get on it ASAP. I would think (no personal experience here) you'd want to do it before they get too old. (Maybe before they hit 2 months?)

 

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02-18-2013 at 11:28 AM
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I don't see anything wrong with having a baby shower after the babies have arrived.  I think it happens sometimes, particularly when babies are premature.

I have a feeling the guests would LOVE it if the babies were there. :)  For me, it might just depend on how old/healthy they are, and I would have one or two close friends or family members be the designated baby tenders, so you can enjoy your shower.

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02-18-2013 at 11:39 AM
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First of all, congrats! And I don't think it would be tacky at all. But maybe instead of calling it a 'baby shower' you can refer it to it as a "meet the babies" party.
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02-18-2013 at 11:44 AM
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Ít's fine and not tacky.
 
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02-18-2013 at 11:55 AM
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I think it's totally fine.

I'd ask your pediatrician about having the babies around a large group of people. 
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02-18-2013 at 11:59 AM
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Like PP have said, there are many reasons that showers are done after births. I also agree that depending on their health would determine whether I have the babes in attendance or not. Especially during the winters months and so many people having colds and such. I see no reason to not have one if it's being offered.

 

Other than that, enjoy and congratulations!

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02-18-2013 at 12:00 PM
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I don't see anything wrong with it. It would probably make me nervous being around so many people before their shots, but I don't see anything tacky about it.
 
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02-18-2013 at 12:28 PM
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I would throw a meet the baby and have fun. Congratulations.
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02-18-2013 at 3:14 PM
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Considering, as others have said, that it's often done elsewhere in the world, I would say it's fine to have a regular baby shower.  I have actually never been to a pre-baby baby shower, so I don't even know what that would look like!  For me it would be weird to not have the actual baby/babies at the shower! 

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02-18-2013 at 3:18 PM
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We had friends that threw a "meet the baby" shower for my brother and sister in law when my nephew was about 2 months.  The main reason was that they live out of town and everyone wanted to get a chance to meet the baby as well as give gifts.  It worked out well.  My nephew didn't have any problems being around so many people.
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02-18-2013 at 4:14 PM
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I don't think there is a problem at all although I'd have it ASAP.  I've hosted two of them after the babies were born and they were between 2 1/2 and 3 weeks old.  The mom's wore the babies so they weren't around any sick people.  With twins that might be kind of hard to do...unless someone you know well could wear one.  If you decide not to take them then I would definitely have a LOT of pictures set out so people can see them that way.

If the party can't be held until they are older then it might best to have a "meet hte baby party" instead of actually calling it a shower.
 
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02-18-2013 at 5:12 PM
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Back in the day that's what they use to do, because miscarriage was so common. My mother even suggested to me to have it afterwards in case I miscarry. And I think most people who have showers after the baby is born do bring the baby so everyone can see him/or her....or them! It's not really common to do anymore, but it's not uncommon either to have one afterwards.
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02-18-2013 at 9:30 PM
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I am worried about them getting sick, but maybe if I just make sure everyone washes their hands and make sure the party is small it'll be okay.
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02-19-2013 at 9:58 AM
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I don't see anything wrong with celebrating at all.
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02-22-2013 at 3:34 PM
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Congrats!

My nephew was born 6 weeks early so we had a shower after he was here. It was nice because it gave a lot of people the chance to meet him that otherwise may not have gotten to see him right away. But like PP said, I wouldn't wait too long.

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02-23-2013 at 1:16 PM
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I SO prefer going to baby showers when the babies are already born!  It's way better to sit through the games/small talk etc when there is the opportunity for baby snuggles!  My girlfriends are throwing me a shower after LO arrives too, my personal choice.  It's less about getting stuff then, more about meeting baby! Takes a bit of the attention off of the mom, which I like.
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