Helenahhandbasket: ArmyWife114: =Lee=B:
If you are having it back home and want family that you may not otherwise see that often attend what about sending an informal 'save the date'? Just a little mail out saying you are excited to be able to celebrate the baptism back home where more family can share in the moment and meet your little one. More details to follow?
That said, if you've got the date and time booked and all details are secured you can send the invite out a month or two ahead, people may just forget so you might need to casually remind them much closer too, but this can usually be done through a family member they are in touch with.
A month or two in advance is WAY too early if everyone you're sending them to is in town. Max 3 weeks in advance. I would forget about a baptism if I got an invite two months in advance, 3 weeks I'd remember.
And if you're not doing a meal or formal get together afterwards, I'd just send everyone an e-mail (or call if they're no computer savvy) and tell them you're going to be home and having LO baptized if they wanted to come.
I don't mean to call you out, but what do you do with the invite if and when you rec one? Do you toss it? I usually put in on my fridge as a reminder so I don't forget. This genuinely confuses me.
Also, usually, baptisms are pretty intimate events. You are saying you would forget about the baptism of a friend or family member you were close enough with to be invited to if you were invited more than 3 weeks out? That just seems odd to me.
I'm a pretty forgetful person to be honest, so things end up getting misplaced A LOT in my house. I usually try to put invites where I'll see them or remember them, but either they don't end up somewhere I see them, or DH moves them and then I have no clue where it went.
The baptisms we've been to in recent years, people told us about them probably a week or two before the event, so, something that close is easy for me to keep in the forefront of my mind. And yes, I do forget about things, it happens. I get busy doing stuff and don't remember. I have calendars and planners and such, but if it doesn't get written down on them, I won't always remember off the bat. Sometimes, like PP, I don't write things down until I check my schedule or DH's and then it doesn't get written down because I forget.