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02-20-2013 at 8:36 AM
JNCPro3130
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Etiquette Queens (Not Shower related)

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My cousin sent out invites to her daughter's first birthday party through facebook.  That's always a big no-no, right?  It seemed like they got a little frustrated when people didn't RSVP.  I didn't.  I wasn't individually invited and I live several states away.  I didn't know know if their "invite" was for me.  IDK.  Maybe I was just being a brat. 
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02-20-2013 at 8:49 AM
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I don't mind bday party invites via email and facebook, they're not formal events like a shower or a wedding. 
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02-20-2013 at 8:54 AM
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I don't mind Facebook invites for parties unless it's obvious the person invited their entire Facebook friend list (like a ridiculous amount of people)  Other than that, I think they're fine.

But I'm not an Etiquette Queen, just my opinion :) 
 
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02-20-2013 at 8:57 AM
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Birthday parties are pretty low-key around here. Email, FB, phone are all accepted ways of invitation. Like PP said, more formal events, I'd side-eye.

 

What do you mean when you say you weren't "individually" invited? If you weren't invited, why would you RSVP? Did they just post a status saying "Hey everyone, the party is this time. Let us know if you're coming"?
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02-20-2013 at 9:38 AM
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I think it's fine for a first birthday. I don't like FB invites, but don't mind evites. 

Nothing is as good as a paper mailed invite, but it's not taboo to do evites for bday parties, IMO 
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02-20-2013 at 9:45 AM
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scormier123:

I don't mind Facebook invites for parties unless it's obvious the person invited their entire Facebook friend list (like a ridiculous amount of people)  Other than that, I think they're fine.

But I'm not an Etiquette Queen, just my opinion :) 

This.  If it's an obviously curated guest list, I don't mind at all.  If I'm invited with 732 of your closest friends, I'll probably show the invitation the same level of concern and personal attention as the host did (ie none). 
 
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02-20-2013 at 10:31 AM
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I know someone that used Facebook to invite everyone to her wedding and then attached a sign up sheet for people to bring a dish to it!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Indifferent
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02-20-2013 at 10:42 AM
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DItto the others - I don't feel b-day invites need to be formal.  If the guest list was what you'd expect (friends and family - not everyone on their FB list), I really don't see the big deal.
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Yup- I agree with PPs- I don't think it's a big deal.  I would only give it side-eye if it was for a formal event (like a wedding) or a shower.
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02-20-2013 at 12:12 PM
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Personally I prefer a paper invite.  If she wanted RSVPs she definitely should have gone the paper route.  Even then RSVPs are iffy...but at least then you can call people and ask if they are coming or not.  We always have a full-meal for birthdays and I need to know how many I'm cooking for.  10 people not coming would make a difference...kwim?

I don't really read everything on my facebook and almost always don't look at my private messages.  I'm not really facebook savvay and just skim stuff.  I don't have a lot of people on my "friends" list so I don't get too many but if I pulled up the page and it looked like my brothers...woo wee...I'd definitely miss it!  lol  Perhaps she didn't get a lot of RSVPs because she went the facebook route and people didn't see it.

Question:  Since you did see it and you saw that they requested an RSVP...why didn't you?  Obviously you knew very well that you were invited or you wouldn't have seen it and living several states away does not make you excempt from correct etiquette..  It was rude not to RSVP. JMO
 
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02-20-2013 at 1:42 PM
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OctGirl80:

Birthday parties are pretty low-key around here. Email, FB, phone are all accepted ways of invitation. Like PP said, more formal events, I'd side-eye.

 

What do you mean when you say you weren't "individually" invited? If you weren't invited, why would you RSVP? Did they just post a status saying "Hey everyone, the party is this time. Let us know if you're coming"?

Yes, They posted something along the lines of, "Hey!  First birthday coming up.  Everyone invited!"  I live 14 hours away, so I didn't respond because I assumed they meant people near them?  IDK. 
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02-20-2013 at 1:47 PM
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Thanks ladies!  I'm sure it turned out fine for them.  It seemed a little impersonal, but I'm so far away that I don't think it matters.  They are a sweet couple, so I don't think they meant anything mean by it.  I was just curious what etiquette said.  :) 
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02-20-2013 at 2:54 PM
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JNCPro3130:
OctGirl80:

Birthday parties are pretty low-key around here. Email, FB, phone are all accepted ways of invitation. Like PP said, more formal events, I'd side-eye.

 

What do you mean when you say you weren't "individually" invited? If you weren't invited, why would you RSVP? Did they just post a status saying "Hey everyone, the party is this time. Let us know if you're coming"?

Yes, They posted something along the lines of, "Hey!  First birthday coming up.  Everyone invited!"  I live 14 hours away, so I didn't respond because I assumed they meant people near them?  IDK. 

Ummm...looks like they said "EVERYONE" so that would mean you as well.  Time to RSVP that you can't make it.  That would be the polite thing to do.
 
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02-20-2013 at 7:15 PM
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This. Indonget aggravated when they invite the entire friends list and I've never met the child.
 
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02-20-2013 at 10:25 PM
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Nah... Kids bday parties or any bday parties aren't a big deal. I got one as a matter of fact. It's informal.
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02-20-2013 at 10:58 PM
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Kids' b-days aren't that formal, but I do paper invites for DD#1's parties with a regular RSVP (phone or email) included so I can get a headcount, since we make the food and I need to know how much to buy/cook.  I don't think it would make a difference, but I think the paper ones are cuter :)  

For "events" (get togethers) for an adult birthday, a facebook "event" or an evite are both fine with me.  But a "Hey everyone, come to this," wouldn't work.  It would have to be people specifically selected for the event (not a whole friends list, for example), mostly because (a) I don't want all those people coming, and (b) then I have only a few to follow up with--and in a worst case scenario, I have a top number of potential guests (that is, 16 invited, 12 yes, 2 no, 2 no answer--I can tell a restaurant, say, 14--since those 2 may just show up anyway.) 
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