I read her post and just wondering what she could possibly need. Afterall her first child is only 3 and if she is eco-friendly why would she not use the same that she used with that child? I cloth diapered my first (or tried) and the second and third (using the same diapers) but unfortunately none of my kids could tolerate cloth diapers. Rashes were major until I'd switch to disposables. As far as other clothing, bedding, ect. she should already have that from her first child.
If she doesn't want gifts then decline a shower...just have a get together or even after baby is born have a "Meet the Baby Party". I actually didn't see any of the posters "talking trash" or being rude to the OP. It just looked like they were just giving their opinions and trying to understand why she was having another shower. I kind of wonder why her shower was being held ON her due date. Who's idea was that? Poor planning by the hostess I guess.
Oh...by the way MissMeag...I have plenty of fun in my life (some of it at your expense). I also would NOT love (nor did I have) a shower for my 2nd or 3rd child. My family would have come but probably talked about me behind my back because they consider showers are for first times moms only. Besides I still had all the things I had gotten for my first child. Guess I was being eco-friendly by RE-using things. Imagine that! I still celebrated the happy occasion of their births without having a shower. Another novel idea I guess.
If the OP gets gifts she doesn't want just return them to WalMart where she thinks everyone shops. They DO take back diapers if they are unopened.