I guess...Glad your shower went so well for you.
See, this goes back to your other post, the foundation of respect for those people in your life that crosses boundaries of culture and race.
A hostess should be a close friend/family member of the guest of honor....a close friend/family member is that because of a respectful relationship between myself and that person....I would never associate with someone (that isn't respectful of other people) long enough to be a "close friend" of someone that isn't respectful of their friends/family members and if I wasn't, they wouldn't be hosting my shower.
Circular reasoning at it's finest. I am friends with good people, good people respect others, my hostess is a friend, my hostess is a good person, my hostess respects my answer when she asked my opinion.